257: Overcoming Accidental Accomplice to Fraud | Feedback Friday

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) take a deep dive into the pros and cons of candor, how honesty is a core element of all healthy and productive relationships, and why we owe it to others — as well as ourselves. What We Discuss: Honesty deepens relationships. It requires a great deal of trust and confidence — in ourselves and in our friends — and it implies a whole new conception of what friendship actually is. Honesty attracts people who share your values. You’ll draw people into your life who also value candor, and you’ll distance yourself from people who aren’t interested in an authentic relationship. Honesty secures honesty in return. When you’re honest with the people in your life, you also signal to them that they can be honest with you. How to be honest — without being honestly the worst. Deciding to be honest with a friend doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily right. It just means that you’re willing to share an authentic response, and then explore it with the other person to arrive at the best possible conclusion. How to recognize that there are times when it’s okay to not be honest. For all the benefits of radical honesty, it's wise to be aware of situations in which honesty will not serve you well — or where total candor just isn’t appropriate. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/731 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the show we did with James Fallon — the psychiatry professor who can teach you how to spot a psychopath because he is a psychopath? Catch up here with episode 28: James Fallon | How to Spot a Psychopath! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Sep 202250min

Nury Turkel (@nuryturkel) is a human rights attorney for the US Commission on International Religious Freedom and the author of No Escape: The True Story of China's Genocide of the Uyghurs. What We Discuss with Nury Turkel: How the Chinese Communist Party is using artificial intelligence to arbitrarily round up Uyghurs for fabricated crimes — including 17,000 who were arrested within 10 days thanks to assistance from an algorithm. Some of the 48 behaviors that will get Uyghurs flagged as dissidents in Xinjiang and sent to concentration camps for "re-education" are as mundane as growing a beard or adhering to a halal diet. Why the CCP is trying so hard to wipe out an entire culture that has had its roots in the Xinjiang region since at least the third century AD. Uyghur families attempting to start new lives in Egypt, Saudi Arabia, and other countries have been deported back to China to face punishment and possibly death. How Uyghur slave labor is used to supply markets around the world — especially in the United States — and what we can do to avoid supporting companies that knowingly participate in this shameful, immoral arrangement. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/730 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with David Kilgour, author of Bloody Harvest: Organ Harvesting of Falun Gong Practitioners in China? Catch up with episode 497: David Kilgour | The Heartless Art of Forced Organ Harvesting here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Sep 20221h 40min

As you have a higher libido than your partner, it seems as though it should feel like a blessing when he makes sexual advances on you in the middle of the night when his sexsomnia ("a rare sleep disorder in which a person engages in sexual activity during their sleep") takes over. But this is problematic for two reasons: A) It briefly triggers your PTSD from being sexually assaulted in your sleep years ago, and B) When your PTSD subsides, you feel guilty for engaging in sex with a partner who can't give consent in the moment (though he has told you on multiple occasions after the fact that he's fine with it). How can you handle this in a healthy way? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/729 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Waking to your sexsomniac partner's nocturnal advances triggers PTSD from earlier abuse, and makes you feel guilty for engaging in sex with someone who can't consent in the moment. What's the healthiest way to deal with this? Is it worth initiating a conversation about how post-Roe reproductive rights fit in with company policy when interviewing for a job in a state that has regressive anti-choice laws on the books? After numerous relapses in your struggle with addiction, you feel like your latest effort to rehabilitate may finally be sticking. But how can you convince your ex that you're ready to take on the responsibility of raising your kids together? Is there a special IRS gifting loophole that allows participants of a pyramid scheme to sign a waiver so they won't be legally liable when things inevitably go south? And if so, why would you consider signing such a thing? Are you morally obligated to tell someone their mother once slept with their fiancé? And if you do spill the beans, how do you do it without revealing yourself as the source? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Sep 202248min

Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) shows us how we can defend ourselves against would-be con artists and use the same principles for more benign purposes in her book The Confidence Game. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with Maria Konnikova: As it turns out, you can fool an honest man. But cynics — by their own overconfidence in being savvy and “scamproof” — are just as susceptible to deception. Technology and the abundance of information most of us freely surrender to the Internet makes the con artist’s job easier than ever before. What type of person becomes a con artist? How can we avoid getting scammed? How belief works, why we over-believe in some things (even when we have no evidence for them), and how this plays into our susceptibility to deception. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/728 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the two-parter we did with Instagram founder Kevin Systrom? Get caught up by starting at episode 335: Kevin Systrom | Life Lessons from an Instagram Founder Part One! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Sep 202255min

Neil deGrasse Tyson (@neiltyson) is the Frederick P. Rose Director of the Hayden Planetarium, host of StarTalk Radio, and author. He is kind enough to rejoin us and discuss his latest book, Starry Messenger: Cosmic Perspectives on Civilization. What We Discuss with Neil deGrasse Tyson: The problems society faces when average citizens lose their ability to distinguish between facts and opinions — and how this can be remedied. What some of our dearest opinions look like under the scrutiny of scientific literacy — and why we should feel relief at being proven categorically wrong about some of them. As an educator, what Neil's first urge is when he hears people spreading patently false "information" that can be easily dispelled by basic scientific awareness. (Surprisingly enough, it's not to bop them on the head!) What the history of mathematics might hint about the average human brain's tendency to avoid thinking statistically and probabilistically. Things pondered: Are you a GMO? Eating how many pints of ice cream will kill you? For the benefit of all humanity, who would Neil send into space first? If technology common to us in the 2020s would be unrecognizable to someone from 1990, what will the world look like in 2050? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/727 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss any of the conversations we've had with famed science guy Bill Nye? Start catching up with episode 366: Bill Nye | Radical Curiosity Saves the World! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Sep 20221h 3min

Is your 10-year marriage worth saving when you've just discovered your wife has been working as a "non-intimate" escort behind your back? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/726 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is your 10-year marriage worth saving when you've just discovered your wife has been working as a "non-intimate" escort behind your back? You and your significant other live together and work from home together, but you find the way he spends his downtime questionable. How can you overcome the frustration this creates for you? Is it wrong to skip sending a gift to your estranged daughter for her wedding to which you've suddenly been invited after she's avoided communication with you for years? What can you do to help a significant other who's dealing with debilitating depression? [Thanks to Haesue Jo, Head of Clinical Support at BetterHelp, for helping us with this one!]  While you've always been focused on building your business and a better life, your mother's unexpected death has left you making numerous erratic, short-term decisions. How can you regain your can-do mindset and get back on a productive, long-term-oriented track? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with Arthur Brooks about the merits of learning to love your enemies (especially during these divisive times)? Catch up by listening to episode 211: Arthur Brooks | How Loving Your Enemies Can Save America here! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Sep 202248min

Paul Holes (@PaulHoles) is a former investigator known for his contributions to solving the Golden State Killer case using advanced methods of identification with DNA and genealogy technology, and he is the author of Unmasked: My Life Solving America's Cold Cases. What We Discuss with Paul Holes: Why do some serial killers take breaks between their murder sprees or even quit killing altogether? Why does it seem like there were so many serial killers in the '70s compared to today? How rare are they, really? What psychological toll does intimately working homicides and cold cases take on investigators? Why cases commonly go cold, what gets them flagged for reexamination, and how the passage of time can actually work in favor of solving them. What makes cold case investigators like Paul so good at noticing evidence and crime scene details others miss? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/725 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with the American photographer who survived seven months under captivity by Al-Qaeda? Catch up with episode 217: Matthew Schrier | How to Survive in a Secret Syrian Terrorist Prison here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Sep 20221h 15min

Bill Nye (@billnye) is a lifelong champion of science who is determined to teach you something today that you didn’t know yesterday — whether it’s from a television screen, the pages of a book, or next to you at a dinner party. He can be found hosting his new series, The End Is Nye, on Peacock TV. What We Discuss with Bill Nye: The environmental changes that currently threaten humanity and much of life on Earth. How to maintain childlike curiosity as an adult. If you believe everything happens for a reason, what if that reason is just physics? What can just one individual do to make the big changes necessary for properly addressing climate change? The promising renewable energy source Bill would put his money behind. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/724 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the conversation we had with science champion and astrophysicist Neil deGrasse Tyson? Make sure to catch up with episode 327: Neil deGrasse Tyson | Astrophysics for People in a Hurry! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Sep 202249min