257: Overcoming Accidental Accomplice to Fraud | Feedback Friday

Amanda Catarzi survived a cult-dominated childhood and abuse at the hands of sex and labor traffickers. In the years since, she has helped law enforcement bust trafficking rings, written federal anti-trafficking legislation, and worked to save countless victims. What We Discuss with Amanda Catarzi: 70 percent of human trafficking victims are women, and 30 percent are men. They usually die (overdose or violence being primary causes) within seven years. How Amanda's upbringing in an isolated cult that matched teen brides with middle-aged men and preached absolute male dominance over them programmed her to consider abusive relationships normal. Why moving to the other side of the country didn't turn out to be an escape from the childhood traumas that haunted Amanda, but just the next chapter of her abuse by expert manipulators. How training as an MMA fighter was the perfect cover for this abuse as no one questioned Amanda's bruises and black eyes when her "coach" trafficked her out to violent johns. How Amanda escaped this dire situation and has used her experience to help legislators and law enforcement save other trafficking victims (especially children), and what we can do to help stem the tide of abuse that may be going on in our own neighborhoods in plain sight. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/631 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with Mosab Hassan Yousef, the son of a Hamas co-founder who worked undercover to thwart terrorist plots? Catch up with episode 407: Mosab Hassan Yousef | The Green Prince of Hamas here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Mar 20221h 21min

A well-intended law in your state makes it impossible for victims of sexual abuse, or their loved ones, to get psychological help without triggering a mandatory report. In your situation, such a report would ruin the life of the offender -- who was a minor at the time and may not even remember committing the crime. How can your family seek the help it needs without initiating legal complications that will only make the overall situation worse for all parties -- including the victim? And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/630 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: A well-intended law in your state makes it impossible for victims of sexual abuse, or their loved ones, to get psychological help without triggering a mandatory report. Is it wrong to seek loopholes when this would hurt the family it's intended to help? Surprisingly, your new company accepted the highball offer you proposed during negotiations, and now your salary is twice what you'd ever hoped to land. So how can you shake the guilty feeling that you don't really deserve it? You wanted to be a jazz guitarist, not an oligarch, for goodness' sakes! Should you take it as a bad omen that your fiancée doesn't post about you on social media, or are you just reading too much into it? Is there a way to turn an insensitive racist comment into a teachable moment for the offender...inoffensively? As a manager, how can you address the deteriorating performance and poor attitude of an older employee who's worked for the company for decades? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our two-part conversation with ex-Al-Qaeda spy Aimen Dean? Catch up by starting with See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Feb 202247min

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) take a deep dive into what you should do if you're looking for a new job or relationship and you want to know how to get your foot in the door -- while avoiding the mistakes that are liable to get that door slammed in your face. What We Discuss: How to make sure you're aligning the job you want to do with the employer who needs you to do it -- without wasting everyone's time in the process. Why you should use Ramit Sethi's Briefcase Technique to anticipate what someone needs before you meet, and up the stakes when it comes time to negotiate terms. The best resources to use and questions to ask yourself when you're doing research on someone in anticipation of a meeting. A cold email script you can adapt for your purposes to maximize the chance of landing that crucial meeting. How to create a relationship that will generate business for years to come even if your pitch doesn't close at the first meeting. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/629 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our interview with entrepreneur, venture capitalist, and Kernel founder and CEO Bryan Johnson? Catch up with episode 223: Bryan Johnson | A Plan for the Future of the Human Race here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Feb 202240min

Amanda Montell (@amandamontell) is a language scholar and author of critically acclaimed Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language. Her latest book is Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism, which explores how cults co-opt the words we use in order to control us and affect our behavior. What We Discuss with Amanda Montell: How the uncertainty of current times drives people toward the solace of community — and the sights of aspiring cult leaders and con artists. What personal experience drew Amanda, a language scholar, to explore how language is one of the most powerful tools of manipulation cults use to exploit their victims? What thought-terminating cliches are and why they're so effective at shaping behavior. How MLMs operate like cults and who they predominately target with empty promises of wealth and prestige. How to tell if your language is being taken over by cultish manipulators. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/628 Miss our conversation with the American photographer who survived seven months under captivity by Al-Qaeda? Catch up with episode 217: Matthew Schrier | How to Survive in a Secret Syrian Terrorist Prison here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Feb 20221h 12min

You're an American citizen living and working in Kyiv, Ukraine. The embassy just released a statement recommending you evacuate as the situation with Russia escalates, but you've considered staying there and becoming an independent journalist to cover what happens should armed conflict come to pass. Is this a foolhardy death wish disguised as a passion project, or a perfect time for a prudent career pivot? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/627 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You're an American currently living and working in Ukraine, considering a pivot to war reporting should the situation with Russia escalate. Is this flirtation with danger a death wish in disguise, or a perfect time for a prudent career pivot? [Thanks to seasoned war reporter Danny Gold for helping us tackle this one!] You're a 37-year-old married man who's come to realize you don't really have any male friends your own age. What can you do to change this? How do you establish healthy boundaries with the sister who mistakes your support system role as an invitation for constant abuse? You and your spouse went into marriage with a noncommital attitude about having kids. Eight years on, you've decided you'd like to try having some, but your spouse does not. Is there a win/win way to work through this? You took a 50% pay cut to join a startup making a product you strongly believe in. But the pandemic happened, and now your pay cut is 100% as your company struggles to regain momentum. What are your options for seeking job opportunities in your network without simultaneously signaling there's something wrong with your current company's product? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Feb 202246min

Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) is Wharton’s top-rated professor, the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and the author of several New York Times Best Sellers. Here, he joined us to discuss Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with Adam Grant: How to give to someone you don’t know without being awkward and transactional. What stage gates are and how you should use them. How to avoid committing social capital suicide. What Abraham Lincoln could teach us about the power of powerless communication. Why you'll be a better, more effective giver if you practice chunking rather than sprinkling. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/626 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with actor, producer, and Scientology survivor Leah Remini? Get caught up with episode 485: Leah Remini | Surviving Hollywood and Scientology here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Feb 202248min

Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the NYT-bestselling author of When and Drive. His latest book is The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us, about the transforming power of our most misunderstood yet potentially most valuable emotion: regret. What We Discuss with Daniel Pink: As uncomfortable as it can make us feel, regret is a universal, healthy part of being human. Understanding how regret works can help us make smarter decisions, perform better at work and school, and bring greater meaning to our lives. The four core regrets we each have, and the insights they give us for finding a better path forward. How we can reimagine regret as a positive, propelling force rather than an anvil of shame we have to carry around in perpetuity. How regret works like a photographic negative: knowing what we regret most allows us to focus clearly on how to avoid repeating whatever got us there. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/625 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our two-part conversation with former gangster, pimp, and mob enforcer Mickey Royal? Get caught up by starting with episode 548: Mickey Royal | A Pimp’s Secrets of Mind Manipulation Part One here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Feb 20221h

You're concerned your 21-year-old daughter is making a mistake by moving abroad to be with her Bahrain beau of five years -- especially since they've only corresponded remotely and have never been face-to-face in real life. You can't outright forbid her to leave as she's an adult now, but is there any way you can get her to reconsider the gravity of what she may be getting herself into? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/624 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you convince your 21-year-old daughter she may be making a huge mistake by moving abroad to be with the Bahrain beau she's never actually met in real life? How can gently turn down writing a letter of recommendation for someone whose countless character flaws make them someone with whom you don't want your name associated? Over the past 10 years, your once-athletic spouse has become clinically obese. The doctor has warned that this is a perfect recipe for diabetes and heart disease, but to no avail. How can you bring up losing weight and leading a healthier lifestyle without sounding like a superficial a-hole? You have an offer for your dream job, but it would mean a $40,000 pay cut and a move across the country -- something your significant other is dead-set against. And if you turn down the offer, you'll likely be barred from joining the organization in the future and lose some valuable links in your network. What's your best option? You know therapy might be effective in helping you through your depression if you could only find the right therapist. How do you go about finding someone who's the right fit? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Feb 202247min