740 How Perfectionism Sabotages Love

740 How Perfectionism Sabotages Love

"I'll start dating as soon as I lose those 10 pounds."

"I can't go to that event until I find the perfect outfit."

"I'll put myself out there when I feel more confident, more ready."

Do any of these sound familiar? That little whisper in the back of your head that seems so reasonable, almost protective?

I want you to sit with this for a moment: underneath that whisper is a belief that where you are right now, exactly as you are, is not good enough. That unless you present some flawless version of yourself to the world, you're not worthy of love, connection, or success.

This is how perfectionism sneaks its way into our relationships, and it's far more insidious than you might think. On today's episode I'm going to give you tips to identify where you're being a perfectionist, recognize the impact it's having on your relationships, and take your choices back from perfectionism.

Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/740

Episoder(820)

811 Why Certain People and Places Leave You Completely Drained

811 Why Certain People and Places Leave You Completely Drained

Do you find yourself exhausted after interacting with certain people or in certain situations? With the state of the world, you might just be exhausted from listening to the news. But if you look at t...

10 Mar 23min

810 Life Beyond the Script with Joan Lunden

810 Life Beyond the Script with Joan Lunden

On today's episode, I'm sitting down with iconic journalist and former Good Morning America host Joan Lunden to discuss her brand-new memoir, Life Beyond the Script. She shares the accidentally radica...

5 Mar 41min

809 What to Say When Someone Crosses the Line

809 What to Say When Someone Crosses the Line

Has someone ever asked you a question that felt invasive, judgmental, or just plain rude?  Maybe it was a parent, a family member, or someone who thinks they're "just being caring."  Your response may...

3 Mar 22min

808 Change Your Life for the Better With Light Watkins

808 Change Your Life for the Better With Light Watkins

What if real transformation doesn't require blowing up your life? In this episode, Terri sits down with meditation teacher and author Light Watkins to discuss his book The Year You Transform and the f...

26 Feb 35min

807 Scripts for When Conflict Makes You Freeze, Defend, or Shut Down

807 Scripts for When Conflict Makes You Freeze, Defend, or Shut Down

Many people can communicate just fine until a conflict arises.  Then the nervous system gets activated, and suddenly you're either shutting down, getting defensive, or saying things you don't mean.  S...

24 Feb 21min

806 Conquering Fear with Jill Schulman

806 Conquering Fear with Jill Schulman

Does fear feel like a stoplight in your head? Have you ever backed down from something important because it scared you? Today's guest, former U.S. Marine Corps Officer Jill Schulman, is here to help y...

19 Feb 36min

805 Overwhelmed by Everything? Here's Your Psychological Survival Kit

805 Overwhelmed by Everything? Here's Your Psychological Survival Kit

I've been hearing from so many of you that you're feeling overwhelmed by what's happening in the world right now. And if you are, you're normal. Because it is overwhelming. We were not designed to be ...

17 Feb 24min

804 Creating Healthy Connections with Nedra Tawwab

804 Creating Healthy Connections with Nedra Tawwab

Are you struggling with codependency, hyper-independence, or feeling lonely in your relationships? In this episode of The Terry Cole Show, therapist and bestselling author Nedra Tawwab shares powerful...

12 Feb 34min

Populært innen Samfunn

rss-spartsklubben
aftenpodden
giver-og-gjengen-vg
konspirasjonspodden
popradet
aftenpodden-usa
rss-henlagt-andy-larsgaard
rss-nesten-hele-uka-med-lepperod
lydartikler-fra-aftenposten
grenselos
wolfgang-wee-uncut
alt-fortalt
min-barneoppdragelse
fladseth
synnve-og-vanessa
rss-dette-ma-aldri-skje-igjen
198-land-med-einar-trnquist
rss-dannet-uten-piano
krisemoter
relasjonspodden-med-dora-thorhallsdottir-kjersti-idem