699: Can An Open Marriage Be Anxiety-Free? | Feedback Friday

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Do the re-engagement scripts we recommend in Six-Minute Networking ever grow stale? Don't people notice when they receive the same lines every year to stay in touch? Is there a way to tame the emotional outbursts you have whenever you receive criticism -- even when it's constructive and warranted? How should you handle that old school friend who always says "yes" to a coffee but never, ever buys you one back? How do you look for another job while still employed when your current job leaves you so depressed, anxious, and emotionally drained? Is it reasonable to suspect that the person who left someone else to be with you might now be cheating on you with someone else? How can you help your star employee stop overextending personal care toward clients when you know she's already stressed out with her own problems that should be addressed? Even though it mathematically makes sense to invest when returns are higher than the interest rate on the debt you're trying to pay off, is it the right move? What can you do to make the most of an awkward intro to someone at the top of your field so you can turn it into a solid new professional connection? Tank's Good News of the Week: The Crayon Initiative Quick shoutouts to Tony Levero and his spicy Latina wife, and American Dream University! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Okt 201844min

Coss Marte (@CossMarte) is the founder and CEO of ConBody, a NYC-based fitness studio that hires formerly incarcerated individuals to teach fitness classes, and author of ConBody: The Revolutionary Bodyweight Prison Boot Camp, Born from an Extraordinary Story of Hope. What We Discuss with Coss Marte: How a 13-year-old immigrant from the Dominican Republic scaled up a $5 million per year drug business -- the Uber for cocaine. How Stephen King (probably not the one you're thinking of) brought this whole operation down, inadvertently leading to a domino effect of positive change beginning with Coss Marte. The power of mindset and fitness to stay sane and healthy behind bars -- where the odds are stacked overwhelmingly against personal improvement on any level. What Coss and ConBody Fitness are doing to help rehabilitate the incarcerated and break the cycle of recidivism so many fall into. How lessons learned from the illicit drug trade transferred to Coss' legitimate business and helped him build a bridge of understanding between the world's successful and its formerly incarcerated. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Okt 201857min

Chase Hughes (@thechasehughes) is the top behavior profiler in the United States and author of The Ellipsis Manual: Analysis and Engineering of Human Behavior. What We Discuss with Chase Hughes: Why authority is a weightier force for influence than any social skill in the book. What you can do to bolster your own authority -- and resist manipulation by the authority of others. The five factors that measure your ability to persuade and influence on a level that surpasses mere inspiration. Why your patterns of behavior that happen even when no one is looking can make or break your life's outcomes. Top authority killers and how to avoid them. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Okt 20181h 7min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you deal with constant negativity when you're surrounded by it almost 24/7? How do you keep yourself up to date with real-world issues, remove the noise or work around it, and decide what to focus on and when? Is there body language that can counteract your naturally intimidating appearance? How can you offer to correct someone's grammar without being offensive? Is there anything wrong with maintaining distance when you've fallen out of touch with some of the people in your network? Is it possible they became "weak and dormant ties" for a reason? If you don't have a degree, how can you market yourself in a way that will bypass the resume gatekeeper and at least get an interview? How do you make it clear to your friend that texting and driving endangers lives? As haggard old-timers, what is the number one thing we wish young people understood today? Moving from a small town to the big city and networking in an industry can be a huge adjustment. What tips do we have for making the transition? Recommendation of the Week: Swiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age Quick shoutouts to first-month law student Carroll, shrewd negotiator John Schantz, and American Dream University! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Sep 201851min

Jason Calacanis (@Jason) is Silicon Valley royalty, the most successful angel investor today, and author of Angel: How to Invest in Technology Startups -- Timeless Advice from an Angel Investor Who Turned $100,000 into $100,000,000. What We Discuss with Jason Calacanis: What venture capitalists are looking for in startup founders. How Jason bounced back after losing everything (something to which we can personally relate). How to make yourself more marketable, whether you're a founder or an angel investor yourself. What Jason considers "the greatest skill of all." The impersonations Jason can do to make your blood run cold when you're miles away from any semblance of civilization. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!   Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Sep 20181h 23min

Todd Garner (@Todd_Garner) is a Hollywood veteran who has overseen 170 films (and counting) -- including Anger Management, xXx, 13 Going on 30, Paul Blart: Mall Cop, Black Hawk Down, Punch Drunk Love, Con Air, and Hellboy. He also hosts The Producer's Guide on PodcastOne. What We Discuss with Todd Garner: What does a Hollywood producer actually do? Why are details about Todd Garner so hard to find online even though he's been making movies for decades? How to balance being an inspiring leader with being a butt-kicking drill sergeant when the need arises. How someone who operates with integrity can create a career in a cutthroat industry. Creativity and productivity habits of a highly successful Hollywood producer that you can apply to your own personal and professional life. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Sep 20181h 15min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: After completing a rewarding internship at an office in your field, what's the best way to maintain the valuable connections you made there? How can you become an influential face in your community and inspire others who share your life-threatening adrenal deficiency when you're always second-guessing yourself into awkwardness in social situations? Avoiding that toxic person in or near your social circle is great advice -- but what if you're getting the sinking feeling that toxic person is you? Do you have to go to law school to prove you're smart and live up to the expectations of others when you already love your so-called side hustle that more than pays the bills? As a gay person of color living in Rwanda where homosexuality is highly stigmatized, are you naive to think you'd be more free to live your lifestyle openly by immigrating to Canada or the U.S. and starting over? When an executive at the company where you've been doing contract work is keeping you in the dark about the status of an offer to hire you full time, does it do any harm to look for another job in the meantime? Is there really a need to rush home to the other side of the world at the request of family and friends when you love where you're living and working abroad? An estranged parent you've never met may die soon. Should you take the chance now to meet up before it's too late even though it's never been much of a priority in your life? Quick shoutouts to Dentist Connor and Sonia and Kyle! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Sep 201837min

Vince Beiser (@vincelb) is an award-winning journalist specializing in social issues, technology, and the places they intersect. His latest book is The World in a Grain: The Story of Sand and How It Transformed Civilization. What We Discuss with Vince Beiser: Sand is to cities what flour is to bread -- without sand, civilization as we know it could not exist. Sand is at the core of our daily lives, used to make concrete, glass, asphalt, silicon chips in laptops, and smartphones. Usable sand is a finite, endangered resource and desert sand doesn't work for construction -- in fact, Dubai imports sand from Australia. There's a black market for sand, and there are sand pirates -- it's a resource over which people literally die. Nearly 70% of sand on Earth is quartz (one of the most common minerals on earth), and the cycle to create new sand takes 200 million years. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Sep 201855min