Why Gay Men Struggle with “No”: Rejection, Control & the Path Back to Embodiment – JoJo Bear

Why Gay Men Struggle with “No”: Rejection, Control & the Path Back to Embodiment – JoJo Bear

Why is hearing “no” so hard for gay men? Why does rejection cut so deep—and why do we sometimes choose control over connection?

In this powerful and revealing episode, somatic guide and sacred intimate JoJo Bear joins us to explore how gay men navigate fear of rejection, touch deprivation, aging, and the need for control in a world that taught us we had to earn love to survive.

JoJo works primarily with gay men over 40, helping them shift from mental noise into embodied presence—and his insights hit hard. We talk body image, consent, intimacy, and why saying yes to yourself sometimes starts with being okay with someone else’s no.

This one is deep, hilarious, healing, and a little bit sexy. Hit play—you’ll feel seen.

In this episode:
  • Discover how to embrace "no"
  • Learn why the loss of control can actually make you better at connecting with other men
  • Rediscover how sex can be great again

About JoJo JoJo Bear is a Sacred Intimate and Somatic Guide based in the San Francisco Bay Area. He works with individuals and groups to support a shift from mental chatter into embodied presence. JoJo primarily serves gay men over the age of 40 who are exploring body image, sexuality, aging, and personal connection—but he welcomes and works with people of all bodies and identities. His sessions offer space for curiosity, healing, and deeper self-trust. He is a facilitator with the Body Electric School and an educator with the School of Consent, where he brings heart, humor, and depth to his teaching. JoJo is also passionate about mentoring fellow practitioners—coaches, sacred intimates, sex workers, and educators—supporting them to expand their work and stay rooted in their purpose. Beyond his somatic work, JoJo is a commentator and comedian, blending insight with laughter to build bridges and break stigma. Connect With JoJo Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Episoder(300)

197: Find Your Just Right Spot For Aging Gracefully – Loren Ostrow

197: Find Your Just Right Spot For Aging Gracefully – Loren Ostrow

Aging. Wondering what do I do and where will my life lead me? It's happening to all of us. One of the biggest questions is "When the time comes, where do I find a community that is welcoming to me as ...

4 Nov 202238min

196: How to be a Titan of Building Your Own Business – Stefaan DeVreese

196: How to be a Titan of Building Your Own Business – Stefaan DeVreese

You have this burning desire to do your own thing, start your own business, be your own boss. Great. Awesome. Then the challenges arise and instead of walking away from a job, you just built yourself ...

28 Okt 202241min

195: A Gay Man’s Guide To Life – Britt East

195: A Gay Man’s Guide To Life – Britt East

Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess when we think it is impossible is Author Britt East...

21 Okt 202245min

194: It’s never too late to come out about anything – Rick Clemons

194: It’s never too late to come out about anything – Rick Clemons

It's too late to come out. It's too late to find a relationship. It's too late to find my passion. BULLSHIT! You can come out of the closet of your life, regardless of what that closet is, even when y...

14 Okt 20229min

193: Thruples and Polyamory – Kitty Chambliss

193: Thruples and Polyamory – Kitty Chambliss

Seems non-monogamy is more and more common as gay men try to find themselves in their relationships in a way that works for them as individuals and as a couple, or even a thruple. So how do you make i...

7 Okt 202243min

192: Combating “Button Pushing” Syndrome – Rick Clemons

192: Combating “Button Pushing” Syndrome – Rick Clemons

We guys over 40, should have so much figured out in life, like how not to get our "buttons pushed" by other people. Ok, that is probably not 100% true, but we should have a way to combat that, right? ...

30 Sep 202210min

191: Sex, Drugs, and Jesus – DeVannon Hubert

191: Sex, Drugs, and Jesus – DeVannon Hubert

Imagine going from being an active member of one of the most well known evangelical churches in Houston - Lakewood Church - yes that one...to becoming a drug addict, dealer,  being homeless and servin...

23 Sep 202243min

190: The New Masculine For Gay Men – Travis Stock

190: The New Masculine For Gay Men – Travis Stock

What does it mean to be masculine? Who defines it? What does it matter? These are all the big questions we're asking on 40 Plus: Gay Man, Gay Talk Podcast today with fellow Life Coach Travis Stock. He...

16 Sep 202243min

Populært innen Samfunn

rss-spartsklubben
giver-og-gjengen-vg
aftenpodden
aftenpodden-usa
konspirasjonspodden
popradet
rss-nesten-hele-uka-med-lepperod
rss-henlagt-andy-larsgaard
lydartikler-fra-aftenposten
min-barneoppdragelse
grenselos
wolfgang-wee-uncut
synnve-og-vanessa
rss-dette-ma-aldri-skje-igjen
frokostshowet-pa-p5
rss-dannet-uten-piano
fladseth
alt-fortalt
198-land-med-einar-trnquist
opptur-med-annette-og-ingeborg