ADAM LANE SMITH | How Men and Women Cause Each Other Pain

In this AMA episode, Shawn and Kipp tackle thought-provoking questions from listeners on personal growth, leadership, and mindset. They discuss teaching kids about success without overwhelming pressure, the role of humor in strong leadership, and the power of service. They also address workplace challenges, helping introverts engage, and balancing social life with family responsibilities. Tune in for deep insights, practical advice, and candid conversations on becoming a better leader, father, and man. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction & Weekly Catch-up 02:08 – Teaching Kids About Personal Growth and Fulfillment 18:16 – The Role of Humor in Leadership and Family Life 23:51 – Voluntary Sacrifice and Service for the Greater Good 31:35 – Handling Workplace Conflict and Leadership Challenges 40:02 – Encouraging an Introvert to Engage with a Group 46:49 – Rebuilding a Social Circle While Managing Family Life 50:54 – Iron Council & Men’s Forge Event Promotion 52:22 – Closing Thoughts & How to Connect   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

26 Mar 53min

We’re all somewhat familiar with our three-letter agencies but rarely, if ever, do we consider what some of the most intelligent people on the planet can teach us about communication, influence, and deception. But my guest is keenly aware of all three and how to implement powerful strategies to build trust, develop credibility, and get people to do what you want. His name is Jeffrey Sanow and he spent years as a Senior Intelligence Office with the CIA. Today, we talk about what the CIA looks for in its officers and assets, how to empower people to fail the right way, removing barriers to communication, the balance between compliance and rebelliousness, and the hard and soft skills of getting people to follow you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – The Importance of Communication Skills 02:00 – Why We Struggle with Listening 05:20 – The “Reloader” Problem in Conversations 09:15 – How to Interrupt Effectively in a Conversation 12:30 – The Role of Ego in Active Listening 18:00 – Lessons from CIA Training on Communication 21:40 – What It’s Like to Be a CIA Operations Officer 27:45 – Leadership Lessons from Intelligence Work 32:30 – Why Writing Skills Are Critical in Any Career 39:00 – Encouraging Innovation and Thinking Outside the Box 44:20 – How Intelligence Officers Recruit Spies 50:10 – The Psychology Behind Why People Share Secrets 56:30 – Applying CIA-Level Awareness to Everyday Life 1:00:45 – Jeffrey’s Book and Global Experiences Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

25 Mar 1h 9min

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the vital role brotherhood plays in men’s lives. Drawing from personal struggles like divorce and alcohol abuse, he highlights five key benefits—belonging, usefulness, insight, support, and accountability—and warns of the isolation plaguing modern men. Ryan emphasizes how authentic male connections combat loneliness and foster growth, sharing candid stories and practical wisdom. He also introduces the Iron Council, his brotherhood initiative, inviting listeners to join. This discussion inspires men to build meaningful bonds and reclaim purpose. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:07 - Introduction to Brotherhood 02:34 - The Cost of Isolation 07:27 - Benefit 1: Belonging 12:23 - Benefit 2: Usefulness 18:16 - Benefit 3: Insight 21:38 - Benefit 4: Support 27:42 - Benefit 5: Accountability 36:58 - Invitation to Iron Council 39:56 - Closing Call to Action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

21 Mar 41min

In this episode of the Ask Me Anything series, Ryan and Kipp discuss the importance of consistency, overcoming personal struggles, and maintaining balance in life. They answer viewer questions on topics such as handling grief, setting boundaries with family, staying disciplined during busy seasons, and dealing with an unruly dog. They also share insights on how small, consistent actions lead to lasting change. Whether you’re looking for practical advice or motivation, this episode has something for you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: 00:00 – Introduction 02:45 – Reflecting on 10 years of Order of Man 09:25 – How to rest and enjoy without feeling guilty 19:32 – Dealing with grief and overcoming divorce 32:31 – Strategies to stay focused during busy seasons 42:24 – What books Ryan and Kipp are reading right now 55:35 – Talking to kids about drugs and addiction 60:11 – Setting boundaries with parents 01:07:54 – How to break tough news about a pet to a child Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

19 Mar 1h 19min

Out of the millions of men I’ve worked with over the last 10 years, I’ve heard everything from a deep disdain and animosity towards God and Jesus to a rich and abiding love for His word. For me, I fall somewhere in the middle as I wrestle with my own relationship with Him and towards my faith and spirituality. And, that’s the reason I really wanted to talk with a huge influence in my life, John Eldredge. Today, John and I cover what faith and spirituality really look like, how the distraction era has hampered our ability to draw close to Christ, whether or not Church is necessary on the path of spirituality, why finding truth is challenging but worth the struggle, how the “Doctrine of Popular Culture” gets it all wrong and how, maybe for the first time ever, you can experience Jesus. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) - Exploring Spirituality and Religion Today (13:47) - Father-Son Relationships and Spirituality (20:43) - Fatherhood and Warrior Spirituality (29:15) - Seeking Purpose Beyond Self-Gratification (37:37) - The Masculine Journey (49:48) - Nurturing Individuality and Identity (01:01:42) - Connecting With Spirituality in Everyday Life (01:07:08) - Discovering the Ordinary Mystic   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

18 Mar 1h 16min

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores a powerful metaphor for masculinity. Drawing from nature, he contrasts the virtuous, leadership-driven traits of lions with the deceptive, self-serving behaviors of hyenas. Through five key distinctions—leading vs. following, earning vs. taking, brotherhood vs. matriarchy, fearlessness vs. deceit, and protection vs. predation—Ryan challenges men to embody the lion’s strength and integrity. With personal anecdotes and bold insights, he urges listeners to reject parasitic tendencies and pursue a legacy of righteous living. Join Ryan as he unpacks this analogy and offers a path to purposeful manhood. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction to Lions and Hyenas   02:29 - Lions Lead, Hyenas Follow   04:57 - Lions Earn, Hyenas Take   07:18 - Brotherhood vs. Matriarchy   09:40 - Fearless Lions, Deceptive Hyenas   12:03 - Protection vs. Predation   13:30 - Choosing Your Path   15:45 - Iron Council Promotion   17:53 - Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

14 Mar 18min

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle pressing listener questions on parenting, leadership, and self-improvement. They discuss whether staying together for the kids is truly the best choice, how men often overcomplicate simple solutions, and why discounting others' success is a losing mindset. Ryan also shares insights on leading former peers, navigating the role of a stepfather, and staying accountable within the Iron Council. Packed with practical advice and tough love, this episode challenges listeners to level up. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction & Weekly Headlines 04:48 – Together for the Kids? 13:02 – Overcomplicating the Uncomplicated 23:38 – The Power of Accountability & Battle Teams 26:59 – Leading Former Peers as a New Manager 33:54 – Navigating Fatherhood as a Stepfather 47:41 – Discounting Other People’s Success & Personal Growth 54:01 – Closing Thoughts & Upcoming Events Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

12 Mar 56min

It’s been said that alcohol is the only drug that, if you don’t take it, people think something is wrong with you. And, I know firsthand what it’s like for alcohol use and abuse to take root in your life. My guest today, James Swanwick makes the case that there is nothing good that comes from drinking alcohol – even in moderation and on occasion. Today, we talk about how quickly it can compromise your quality of life, production, and relationships, why he views alcohol as nothing more than “Attractively Packaged Poison,” how you can adopt the alcohol-free lifestyle, the importance of addressing the internal root of addiction, and how facing your own insecurities, although uncomfortable can help you crack the code. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Catching Up 00:24 - Ryan’s Alcohol Struggle and Recovery 01:24 - The Hidden Costs of Drinking 02:52 - Reclaiming Time and Energy 05:25 - Addressing Social Pressure to Drink 08:37 - Alcohol as a Cultural Myth 10:57 - Debunking Alcohol’s Health Benefits 14:09 - The Influence of Big Alcohol 15:59 - Genetic Predisposition to Alcohol 19:20 - Changing Habits, Changing Genes 22:56 - Finding Fulfillment Without Alcohol 25:55 - Starting the Hero’s Journey 28:47 - Building a Like-Minded Community 31:45 - Ryan’s Ongoing Journey 33:18 - Addiction as a Superpower? 37:06 - Balancing Life’s Pillars 40:55 - Leaning Into Personal Development 44:31 - James’s Emotional Breakthrough 48:50 - The Power of Community Support 51:06 - Where to Connect with James Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

11 Mar 59min