71) How to Stop Arguing About Parenting: Values, Goals, and "I" Statements with Dr Naomi
Dam Parenting23 Okt 2024

71) How to Stop Arguing About Parenting: Values, Goals, and "I" Statements with Dr Naomi

What happens when you and your partner stop parenting against each other and start parenting with each other? In this essential episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to explore the art of the "parenting team." Being a couple and being co-parents are two different skills, and often, the pressure of raising kids in a foreign country can drive a wedge between even the strongest partners.

Dr. Naomi shares warm, honest, and direct strategies to help you realign, including the power of "I" statements, avoiding the trap of "always" and "never," and how to divide the mental load based on strengths rather than outdated assumptions. We also discuss her "Stick Together" conversation cards—a practical tool designed to help you reconnect and rebuild emotional intimacy. If you’re tired of the "good cop, bad cop" routine, tune in to learn how to set shared values and show up for your children as a united front.


This episode also introduces Dr. Naomi’s 'Stick Together' conversation cards—a beautifully designed tool for partners to have open, honest conversations about parenting challenges, available online and at Monti's World in the Pijp.

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