Lights On with Carl Lentz3 Sep 2025

25-Year Divorce Lawyer: These 3 Things Destroy Every Marriage

In this brutally honest episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz sit down with James Sexton, one of America's most renowned divorce attorneys, for a conversation that could save your marriage. After 25 years representing high-profile divorces, James reveals the three guaranteed ways men destroy their marriages - and why 56% of all marriages end in his office. This isn't your typical relationship advice; it's a masterclass in reverse psychology from someone who's seen thousands of marriages collapse.

James breaks down the death spiral that leads couples from "I do" to "I'm done," the shocking statistic that 86% of divorced people remarry within 5 years, and why most people love their choices more than their children. From the simple act of "seeing" your spouse to the dangerous habit of keeping score, this conversation exposes the patterns that predict divorce with startling accuracy.

Whether you're newlyweds, struggling in your marriage, or simply want to understand what really makes relationships work, this episode delivers hard truths wrapped in hope. Carl and Laura share their own journey through infidelity and recovery, while James provides the roadmap to avoid becoming another statistic.

Warning: This episode contains frank discussions about marriage failure, infidelity, and the kind of honest conversations most couples never have about what it really takes to stay together.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 - INTRO

02:08 - The Shocking Marriage Statistics Nobody Talks About

11:25 - The 3 Marriage Killers Every Couple Does

20:10 - God Behind Bars Partnership

20:47 - Stop Seeing Your Wife: The First Marriage Destroyer

26:41 - Frame Everything Critically: The Communication Killer

34:55 - Keep Score: The Transactional Marriage Trap

40:25 - Plana.org Partnership

41:06 - The Death Spiral: How Marriages Collapse Slowly, Then All at Once

49:23 - When Do You Feel Most Loved? Laura's Answer Will Surprise You

57:38 - Marriage as Ecosystem: Why It's Not About Fairness

1:04:50 - Who Gets Screwed Most in Divorce? The Uncomfortable Truth

1:09:32 - Rolling Your Eyes: The Silent Marriage Killer

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