The Truth About Mismatched Sex Drives and How to Fix It (ft. Natassia Miller)
In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex4 Sep 2025

The Truth About Mismatched Sex Drives and How to Fix It (ft. Natassia Miller)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.

We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want.

We talk about:

  • Why desire always shifts after the honeymoon phase
  • The role of new relationship energy and why it fades
  • How mismatched desire shows up in nearly every couple
  • Why foreplay is more than just sex — it’s in the daily details
  • The importance of “I statements” vs. blaming your partner
  • How mental load kills desire, especially for women
  • The power of non-sexual touch and small moments of intimacy
  • Why women get bored faster in monogamy — and what to do about it
  • How to bring up bad or boring sex without crushing your partner’s ego
  • The role of masturbation in keeping connection alive
  • Introducing novelty, fantasy and kink safely with your partner
  • Tools like intimacy card decks to make sexual communication easier
  • When to see a professional and how one session can change everything


👉 If you loved this episode and want to support the show, join my Patreon for bonus content, behind-the-scenes chats, and extra Q&As: patreon.com/sexwithalexa.

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