How Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Sex Life

How Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Sex Life

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships. How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough." The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved. They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification. The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus 5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries 8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships 11:43 - Egg freezing experience 16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes 21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz 26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy 30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games 35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection 38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships 40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice

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SWE: Bend over Boyfriend

SWE: Bend over Boyfriend

Guest Carol Queen talks about Bend over Boyfriend and first time anal sex tips. Is anal the new blow job? Emily and Carol discuss antique vibrators. Carol’s first vibrator was a Swedish massager she stole from her father’s barber supplies. In the Victorian Era, vibrators looked like dryers and were used to treat hysteria -- a made up illness assigned to bored, sexually unsatisfied housewives. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

6 Feb 201253min

SWE: Casual Encounters

SWE: Casual Encounters

Emily was up late last night making jello shots and Menace wants a ride to the Sex With Emily party, how to meet women, the stop and start method and casual sex etiquette: cuddling, oral sex and swapping numbers Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 Feb 201233min

SWE: Bitter Sweet

SWE: Bitter Sweet

Emily attends the wildly successful Good Vibrations store opening in Oakland, CA, Emily interviews Kandi from Real Housewives of Atlanta - show will air this week, Emily solves a listener's stamina concerns, the number one fantasy for men and women, a bitter sweet final sex story, and Valentine's Contest to launch tomorrow. And yes, you could really win. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

30 Jan 201238min

SWE: Pornophobia

SWE: Pornophobia

Emily talks about pornophobia- people’s fear and love of porn. Menace watched his first porn at six and understood everything. Emily watched her first porn video at 12 and was turned on, but didn’t know what it was. What porn means about your relationship and the best porn for couples. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

27 Jan 20121h

SWE: Pleasing Teasing

SWE: Pleasing Teasing

Emily prepares a speech for a Singles Convention and Menace is resentful of hot women (no surprise here). How Emily handles Valentines Day, "expiration dating", and teasing your partner sexually without being annoying. Emily talks about how long foreplay should last and why it’s important. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

24 Jan 201259min

SWE: Own your O

SWE: Own your O

Emily is over sober January and Menace wants to find a nice girl and get married, the quest for the G-spot continues and does it even exist?, exercising the penis and how to own you Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

23 Jan 201245min

SWE: Dude, Where's my G-Spot?

SWE: Dude, Where's my G-Spot?

Emily prepares a speech for a Singles Convention and Menace is resentful of hot women (no surprise here). How Emily handles Valentines Day, "expiration dating", and teasing your partner sexually without being annoying. Emily talks about how long foreplay should last and why it’s important. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

20 Jan 20121h 1min

SWE: Understanding Females

SWE: Understanding Females

How to know when to 'take' a woman, men with money vs. men without money, why men don't like to undress women, finding the right porn for you and your partner, guest John from OneTaste (retreat for orgasmic meditation) talks about the art and craft of the female orgasm, what OM'ing means, his first time giving a clitoral massage, what men get from focusing on female pleasure, the shared euphoric orgasm, redefining orgasm, and the importance of understanding the female body, mind, genitalia and orgasm. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

18 Jan 201257min

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