After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings24 Sep 2025

The Mental Load Has Fallen Back On Me - Here’s What I’m Doing About It

You’re carrying it all - the school forms, the meals, the birthdays, the appointments - all living inside your head while everyone else just… shows up? That’s the invisible mental load. And right now, despite having a 50/50 partnership style home, the mental load has fallen back on me (Kristin), again. But here’s the thing: this isn’t a story about blame. This is a story about change. About refusing to drown, and about building a system that actually works for everyone.

In this solo episode, I share the science behind why the mental load tends to always fall on moms, how it crushes so many marriages, and the moment I realized I couldn’t keep going this way. Plus, 4 steps I’m taking right now to reclaim balance and rebuild true partnership in my home. You’ll walk away with the exact script, the reset ritual, and a step-by-step plan you can use tonight to get the load off of you, and start sharing tasks. This isn’t just about surviving the mental load, it’s about finally taking back control, one week at a time.

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