
Nathan - Learning to Love Like Men Who Feel
Send a text In this conversation, Vance and Nathan Serrato discuss the intricacies of queer love coaching, the impact of gay masculinity on relationships, and the importance of vulnerability and emoti...
5 Sep 202557min

Romance is a Kink (Bonus Episode)
Send a text To close out the summer, I wanted to bring you something lighter—especially after the last episode on grief. I’ve always been a romantic at heart. I want to fall madly in love, but as I gr...
15 Aug 202514min

Grief (Bonus Episode)
Send a text This bonus episode is a vulnerable one. I wanted to talk about grief—how it’s shaped me, how it lingers, and how I still struggle to face it. I’ve also realized how much I struggle with in...
4 Jul 202517min

Stefan - Madonna, Activism, and the Art of Being Unapologetic
Send a text It’s the Madonna episode! Anyone who knows me knows how deep my obsession with Madonna runs. But it’s not a superficial fascination—it’s rooted in what she’s represented for me and so many...
13 Jun 202553min

Jason - What is Intimacy, Really?
Send a text In this week’s episode, I chat with Tantra facilitator and sexological bodyworker Jason King. We explore the question: What is intimacy?—especially in the context of sexual connection. Our...
6 Jun 202559min

Firefly - The Truth About Gay Sex, Shame, and Connection
Send a text In this episode, I chat with Firefly Tantra, who works with men using the practice of Tantra. He breaks down what sessions with clients actually look like, how Tantra compares to somatic s...
30 Mai 202557min

Matthew - Erotic Performance as a Path to Connection
Send a text In this episode, I have the pleasure of chatting with the funny and delightful Matthew Shur. We talk about our experiences working with Himeros and how each of us found our way into the wo...
23 Mai 20251h 2min

Rahim - How to Care Without Losing Your Mind
Send a text I had a truly meaningful conversation with my friend Rahim Thawer that I’m excited to share. We explored a wide range of topics, all rooted in the theme of empathy. How do we connect with ...
16 Mai 20251h





















