63. Handling Big Emotions in Polyamory, Triads and Breakups with Evita Sawyers
Polycurious7 Okt 2025

63. Handling Big Emotions in Polyamory, Triads and Breakups with Evita Sawyers

Today, Evita Sawyers ((@Lavitaloca34) shares how she went from letting jealousy and anger take over to becoming more grounded and less reactive. We talk about her experience being in a triad and how opening her marriage revealed gaps in her relationship with her husband, ultimately leading to their breakup.


This episode explores how non-monogamy can uncover powerful truths about yourself, serve as a path for personal growth, and highlight both the strengths and limitations within your relationships.



Resourced mentioned:


Patreon Bonus Content: Evita Sawyers on Leaving Religion, Dating Out of Jealousy and Finding Commitment in Non-Monogamy


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Poly Love Documentary:


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The Untethered Soul Michael A Singer


https://untetheredsoul.com/untethered-soul


The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808



The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319



No Mud, No Lotus by Thich Nhat Hanh

https://www.parallax.org/product/no-mud-no-lotus/


Loving What Is By Byron Katie

https://thework.com/loving-what-is-revised-edition/


More Than Two:

https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706


The Ethical Slut:

https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664


Nonviolent Communication:

https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X



The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown:

https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/



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