How Do You Deal With a Partner Who Shuts Down When They're Mad? Episode 98

How Do You Deal With a Partner Who Shuts Down When They're Mad? Episode 98

So here you are having a conversation with your partner, then with the slightest hint of emotion arising, they shutdown. They might stop talking altogether or say "I'm not talking about this, move on" or even "get off my back". This could be because you are trying to have an important conversation with them or it can be out of the blue.

Either way, when your partner shuts down, you feel isolated, left out in the cold, or controlled because they are dictating when certain topics can be talked about. When this happens a few times you get frustrated because nothing seems to change and you are unable to make any progress together when your partner is totally unwilling to open up and let you in.

Hope is not lost (Aaron can vouch for that)! In this episode you will understand why this happens for your partner, as well as 3 things you can do differently to keep this pattern from happening. If you use these 3 things you will feel you can actually make progress in the relationship and understand more about each other's needs.

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