Differentiate What Your Partner is Saying vs What They Actually Need: Episode 118

Differentiate What Your Partner is Saying vs What They Actually Need: Episode 118

Let's be honest, we all have said to our partners one of these statements: "that's not what I said, that's not what actually happened, what you are saying doesn't make sense". Especially for those partners (like Aaron) that are logical left brained people. As soon as this happens the predictable next sequence will be an argument or conflict, or at least not feeling like your partner is on your side.

Though this can feel like one of those areas where you and your partner are just different (male vs female or masculine vs feminine differences), the real culprit here is not making the differentiation between what your partner is saying versus what they need.

In this episode we cover this big difference between the actual words that you or your partner use and what the missing need or deeper desire really is. You will get questions to ask your partner that lead to more connection and understanding than the typical difference of opinion, recurring conflict, or simple disconnections in your day to day life. This will elevate you and your listening skills in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

  1. Give a gift to your relationship that will impact the rest of your year! Join the next Couples Workshop - Live Steam with us right from home and take your communication skills to a deeper level. (Live interaction with us as we take you through the communication exercises and help with any conversation where you get stuck.)
  2. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

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