"What Are We Really Arguing About?" The 3 Sources and Methods of Arguments: Episode 220

"What Are We Really Arguing About?" The 3 Sources and Methods of Arguments: Episode 220

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About the Episode:

You've had this thought in the middle of an argument right, "what are we really arguing about right now?" This is a very common feeling about being lost or unclear about what is being fought about or what started it. If you think about it, when you find yourself in a place like this, is it likely you can easily find your way out if you don't even know what got you here? Likely not!

But this is not just you, arguments have different layers and if you are unclear, like even about what your desired outcome is, how can you expect to be anything but confused and ineffective?!

That's why in today's episode you are going to hear our takeaways from the book "Thank you for arguing" and how we even used it to understand more about an argument we had (yes it's true we have arguments ourselves!). As you will hear though, all relationships have arguments but there is one key that leads to a healthy relationship, or ones that eventually end!

On top of that you are going to hear the 3 sources of arguments as well as the 3 methods of arguments so that you can better navigate arguments in your own relationship and bring them to a win-win resolution to be more connected and understanding of each other.

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The referenced book for the episode: Thank You For Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

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