Just Say It! How To Use Your Voice To Be WAY Better In Bed ft. Shan Boodram

In this episode of Getting Open, intimacy expert and bestselling author Shan Boodram joins Andrea Miller for a candid and empowering conversation about relationships, confidence, and communication around sex. Shan shares how embracing awkward conversations can lead to deeper connection, greater self-awareness, and a more fulfilling love life. From navigating body image and performance anxiety to building trust with a partner, this episode is full of relatable insights and practical tools for anyone looking to improve their intimacy and connection.

Shan Boodram is a Los Angeles-based sex educator (AASECT-certified), popular YouTube personality and intimacy expert – you may know Shan from Netflix’s Too Hot to Handle, as host of the podcast Lovers by Shan (formerly Lovers & Friends), as Bumble’s sex and relationship expert, or from her book, The Game of Desire.

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Chapters:
00:00 – Introduction to Shan Boodram: Sex educator, author, and intimacy expert
03:00 – Why many people date defensively instead of intentionally
06:00 – What “Own the Awk” means and why awkward convos are essential
12:00 – How societal conditioning holds us back
17:00 – Men and performance pressure: What no one talks about
20:00 – The real impact of porn on intimacy and expectations
23:00 – Masturbation, changing your sexual story
28:00 – Vibrators, sex toys & how the pandemic reshaped intimacy
33:00 – Services and tools to spice up long-term relationships
38:00 – Tantra, breathwork & energy work
41:00 – Body image & self-consciousness in the bedroom
51:00 – Advice for new partners dealing with performance stress
55:00 – Final thoughts on play, presence, and sexual empowerment

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