The Truth About Why Most Relationships Fail – From a Relationship Coach Who Married a Former Spy

The Truth About Why Most Relationships Fail – From a Relationship Coach Who Married a Former Spy

In this episode of Getting Open, married couple Allison Raskin (author, mental health advocate) and John Blakeslee (former CIA officer, screenwriter) join Andrea Miller to talk about marriage, mental health, faith differences, and identity crises. From CIA secrets to financial struggles, and fertility to therapy, their candor offers powerful insights into modern love.

Chapters:
00:00 - Coming up: Marriage fights, financial stress, mixed faith dynamics & CIA surprises
02:00 - Meet the guests: Allison Raskin & John Blakeslee
04:39 - Launching their new podcast 'Starter Marriage'
06:18 - The power of direct communication in marriage
12:17 - How to bring up hard conversations lovingly
21:47 - Why premarital counseling changed their foundation
33:47 - Interfaith marriage challenges & raising kids without religious pressure
44:04 - Their biggest challenge: financial insecurity and shifting careers
52:59 - Grief, composting, and creative transformation
55:23 - Why their first year of marriage was the hardest
59:03 - How often do they fight?
01:03:14 - Resolving conflict through questions
01:08:12 - CIA questions: are you a spy? life undercover, real vs. fiction
01:14:41 - It doesn’t need to last forever to be meaningful

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