We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

The fact you are listening to this podcast tells me you are driven to influence others, and influence is leadership. So whether you want to positively influence your kids or friends or coworkers, or you want to lead a company or organization, you need some leadership skills. However, the term of leadership covers a lot of ground and has a lot of baggage that may not be relevant for you. Which is why I’m doing this series on Authentic Leadership and I’ve brought in Kristen Hadeed. Kristen Hadeed has a great story of unintentional leadership that now has her on stage around the world teaching other leaders what she calls, human leadership. Which I’d say is leading while being a good and serving human. Kristen was in college and started cleaning people’s homes to generate some income. She got more requests and ended up hiring people to help and from it and ultimately created a company that cleaned student apartments and dorms, staffed only by students. But she made so, so many mistakes that helped her learn how to really lead people by connecting to and caring about them. Kristen’s book is titled Permission To Screw Up: How I Learned to Lead by Doing (Almost) Everything Wrong. It’s a wonderful book, which is why Simon Sinek wrote the forward. In this show Kristen and I discuss what authentic leadership is and can be. And we get into talking about not only the value of trying and failing, but the necessity if you are doing anything worthwhile. Kristen is a bright light and we resonated so much we intend to do more work together. And a gift for you, Kristen has a renowned program called the Human Leadership Program. A ticket costs $299, but if you use this special link you get in free. Literally free - https://kristenhadeed.myflodesk.com/qjrsjl9vug. I hope you enjoy and benefit from this conversation as much as I did. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Mar 20241h 21min

I’m back with Pulitzer prize-winning reporter, CHARLES DUHIGG, author of the landmark bestseller and my favorite resource on habits, The Power of Habit which spent three years on the New York Times bestseller list. His new book Supercommunicators: How To Unlock The Secret Language of Connection which we discussed in the previous episode. Here we go behind the scenes with my What Drives You episode to find out what drives Charles in the key areas of life. To hear what he values and how he strives to walk this out in his habits. As the guy who wrote The Power of Habit, I expect to learn some new things. And to also find out how becoming a supercommunicator has influenced his life. Find Charles’ new book, Supercommunicators, anywhere, and connect with him at charlesduhigg.com Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 Mar 20241h 26min

Here in America we are massively overfed, and often undernourished. Likewise we are in an age of dramatic overcommunication, and under-connection. And here lies the opportunity. This is the superpower. To evolve past mere communication and get to connection. This is where the magic happens. If you can connect, you can influence. And you’re about to learn that you in fact, don’t know how to really connect. Or at least, you can do it better and more consistently. My expert for the series is Charles Duhigg. I got to know Charles intimately on a beach in Florida, nearly a decade ago. He wasn’t there, as I was on a getaway with my wife and I was devouring his book, The Power of Habit. I have it right here, marked up and tattered. Still my favorite resource on habits. So when I got contacted by his agency about having him on the show, and that his focus this time was communication, I said schedule it. Immediately. And…he delivered. You’re about to hear how to do what few people do well, and you can make the change…immediately. And benefit…immediately. CHARLES DUHIGG is a Pulitzer prize-winning journalist and the author of The Power of Habit, which spent over three years on bestseller lists and has been translated into 40 languages, and Smarter Faster Better, also a bestseller. His newest book, Supercommunicators: How To Unlock The Secret Language of Connection, is available February, 2024. Charles writes for The New Yorker magazine and is a graduate of Yale University and the Harvard Business School. He has been a frequent contributor to CNBC, This American Life, NPR, PBS’s NewsHour and Frontline. The bio says you were also, for one terrifying day in 1999, a bike messenger in San Francisco. Connect with Charles at charlesduhigg.com/ Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Feb 20241h 28min

This is my Big Idea & Action episode where I pull out the key highlights from our series on transforming conflict. Our catalyst was William Ury, one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation, and the co-author of Getting to Yes, the world’s all-time bestselling book on the topic with more than 15 million copies sold. He’s a co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation and his brand new book and our muse for part one in this series, is, POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict. I also had a conversation in the previous episode with my co-host and brother, Jared Angaza who has served domestically and overseas as a conflict negotiator. It was in the conversation I had an epiphany, which I’m about to share in what turned out to be seven key highlights that stood out to me. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Feb 202425min

We continue our series on transforming conflict which we began with William Ury. William, one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation, and the co-author of Getting to Yes, the world’s all-time bestselling book on the topic with more than 15 million copies sold. He’s a co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation and his brand new book and our muse for part one in this series, is, POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict. Here I’ve brought my brother, Jared Angaza onto the show, as he’s served many organizations stateside and in Africa on this topic negotiation, or more so…conflict resolution. Walk with us as we dig further into the issue Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Feb 20241h 6min

We’re back with negotiation, conflict, and possibilities expert William Ury. In our previous discussion we dove deep into the focus of his new book, POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict. Here we go behind the scenes to hear what drives William in his personal and professional life, and how he handles conflict and pursues possibilities in his own world, from where he goes out around the globe to lead others. William again is co-author of Getting to Yes, a co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation and consultant to the White House, the State Department, and the Pentagon and more. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Feb 20241h 7min

We begin a series on conflict, or more specifically, the possibilities within or around conflict. We seem to be a world more at conflict than ever. We can ask why, but where it starts is with us and chances are as you are listening right now you have a list of people in your lives who you are struggling with or distanced from, because of conflict. So how can you…how can I…better steward conflict in our lives, and from there, in the worlds around us? My guest and expert on the topic is William Ury. William is one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation, and the co-author of Getting to Yes, the world’s all-time bestselling book on the topic with more than 15 million copies sold. He’s a co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation and has devoted his life to helping people, organizations, and nations transform conflicts around the world, having served as a negotiator in many of the toughest disputes of our times and consulted with the White House, the State Department, and the Pentagon. He has served as a negotiation adviser and mediator in conflicts ranging from Kentucky wildcat coal mine strikes to family feuds, from US partisan battles to wars in the Middle East, Colombia, Korea, and Ukraine. My focus in this series is primarily on the greatest battle front, which is the worlds we live in, in our homes and our work. My muse is William’s brand new book, POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Feb 20241h 20min

This is a What Drives Your Health episode and we look at how choice pollution is feeding into your anxiety. This is not what we want fueling our drive. When you are faced with too many choices, you are inclined to do…nothing. Or if you’re like me you just make a rash decision just so you can move on. Taking time to figure out the best decision can cause stress and from this we are generally suffering from decision fatigue. Now think about the reality of life today that always has an infinite amount of choices for anything at any given moment. It produces a culture of anxiety. We’re calling it “choice pollution” and in this episode Dr Randy James of True Life Medicine and I talk about the problem, the solution and the anti anxiety drugs being prescribed for it. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Feb 20241h 4min