We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

We are back with Shaunti Feldhahn, best selling author and social researcher. Back in episode 901 we discussed her latest research on what creates true joy in us and she shared her latest findings of what is most destructive to our joy. In this episode we go behind the scenes to hear Shaunti’s daily habits for success. Just seven months prior to this recording Shaunti was diagnosed with breast cancer and during chemo started gaining a pound per day. Her doctor's response, “You’re not getting the sleep I advised, are you.” Addressing that turned Shaunti’s world upside down maybe more than the cancer itself and required her to ask if she was going to do what was necessary to help her body, or not. She also shares how the pandemic wrecked her exercise routine and how she pampers herself with what she calls, “beach read novels”, that she rereads. Find Shaunti at shaunti.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Jul 202129min

Here you are striving to do good things, do the right thing, serve your work, family, community and...so many well intentioned efforts. And your body and/or mind is not fully cooperating. Aches, pains, your energy levels are slowing you down or just not adequately supporting you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Jul 202112min

We look at our workplaces and our relationships with people and our surroundings, and how it affects us. I share a short clip from Zig Ziglar on the importance of healthy relationships and from the message, polled the Ziglar audience with this question, “How are your relationships at your work and how do you feel they affect you, for better or worse?” As Tom and I talked through the comments and people’s testimonies we also got into the literal environment of where you work. Your office, cubicle, even having windows nearby. The point is to bring to light the importance of having a healthy work environment and how it is absolutely affecting your performance. Thanks as always to everyone who commented on my Facebook survey. I invite you to join the conversation, just friend me on Facebook at agentkmiller. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Jun 20211h 4min

Joy. You can truly, literally, manufacture joy. If you want big biceps, you work them out consistently. Simple math. So is creating joy. Happiness is momentary and based on circumstances. Joy is enduring and provides peace and calm regardless of the environmental pressures. I fear most of the culture has given up on joy and has acquiesced to merely seeking momentary pleasures and happiness like the next social media scroll, netflix show, and food or drink. But you are here because you want more. I bring you an expert. Shaunti Feldhahn. She’s a best selling author and social researcher. Keyword there, researcher. She is my guru on kindness who I refer to constantly. I had her on the show four years ago to talk about the research she did for her book, The Kindness Challenge. There are few people I refer to on shows as much as Shaunti. She has now turned her focus to...joy. She wrote a daily devotional called, Finding Joy. But in just a moment you are about to hear us set aside my intended discussion as Shaunti wanted to share her very latest research, since the book came out, on what she and her research team discovered is the number one destroyer...of joy. I mean, you really, really want to hear it. Because what you’ll find is, you are doing it. You are actively engaging, every day, with the number one inhibitor of joy. And it’s something you can take action on, immediately. Connect more at shaunti.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Jun 20211h 17min

This is not an episode of The Ziglar Show, but instead, I’m calling it a new, Friday Feature. Maybe not every Friday, but taking the chance to showcase something new to you that I feel is fitting. A new podcast, product, or service. Today, it’s a 4 minute preview of another podcast I think you’ll enjoy, it’s called One Hundred Percent, with Marcus Lemonis. Marcus is CEO of Camping World, which was founded in Bowling Green, KY where I grew up, so I’ve always had a fondness for the company. Marcus hosts one of the most successful business shows on TV and when I heard he was launching this podcast I reached out for an interview, which I hope to bring you soon. He’s an incredibly successful businessman worth nearly a billion dollars, but what he’s known for is leading with his values of family, community, character and ethics, and it’s from this foundation, and his own money, that he helps small business owners who want his guidance. So in this new podcast, One Hundred Percent, that’s just what he does. When I listened to the first episode, which you’re about to hear a 4-minute clip from, it reminded me of Oprah Winfrey meets Shark Tank, in that Marcus goes straight to the heart in talking to entrepreneurs, how they got started, who inspires them, and the real why behind their business. Not many business shows have people crying in them, if that gives you an idea. His first show features a company with a product for mental health awareness and he brings on Howie Mandel, who suffers from mental health issues and is an advocate for support, and together they give guidance to the couple. Next episodes will feature guests such as Kirsten Bell, Gayle King, Charles Barkley, Kathy Ireland, and Al Roker, as together they talk to budding entrepreneurs. While you’re listening, follow ONE HUNDRED PERCENT WITH MARCUS LEMONIS on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or listen early and ad-free by joining Wondery Plus in the Wondery app. http://wondery.fm/100PercentZiglar | I’d really appreciate hearing from you regarding me sharing this podcast preview with you, and I have another I’ll be sharing soon. Is it a benefit, or an intrusion? Please let us know, email me at kmiller@kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Jun 20218min

You are not just who you are today, but what you can become, right? This is easy to say and monumentally hard to get any traction with. I play a five minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he tells a personal story of his own journey from a poor to mediocre sales person, to one of the best. It radically changed his life, and the catalyst came from one discussion with a man who simply expressed faith in him. We don’t even know if the faith was legitimate, or a tactic. Either way, it worked. I break this story down to the foundational aspects of understanding we have all simply agreed with expectations for ourselves that are limited. But it’s not a, “You are limitless and capable of anything” message. You aren’t and you can’t. That’s what gives motivation a bad name. Ultimately it’s you literally deciding to have faith you can perform at a higher level. Not with more effort, just...different effort. That’s it. If you were lucky, someone else will come along and say they have faith in you and you’ll believe it and boom...you’ll have more success. But chances are that mystery person won’t show up and it’s up to you to be that person who tells yourself, “Self, I have faith I’m limiting myself with expectations I’ve agreed with and the picture I have of myself, and I’m now choosing to have faith I’m capable of more, so...I’m going to try some new things.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23 Jun 202142min

Here’s a story that puts all the positive thinking to the real test of life. I appreciate Mike Tyson famously saying, “Everyone Has a Plan Until They Get Punched in the Mouth.” That’s what we all deal with, our good intentions, then the trials that come and punch us in the mouth. That’s what this show is about. Joy was going along in life achieving her goals and becoming a dolphin trainer and filmmaker and living the perspective she got from Zig Ziglar to be joyful in the face of challenge. Then at age 25 she was diagnosed with cancer. The really bad kind. She approached it with an incredibly positive attitude and decided to utilize her love of and expertise with film to document the entire ordeal and capture her triumphant overcoming. But it’s not a perfect story. Along the way she realized the end might not be the triumph she expected. Living. She did live however and today helps kids with cancer through a unique event involving dolphins. We talk through the realities of having hope, losing it, and persevering anyway. It’s a message truly relevant to us all, even if we haven’t been at death’s door. If you visit Joy’s website at Joyclausensoto.com and sign up for her newsletter so you can get her book for free. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Jun 202151min

Our focus is goals, and more importantly, actually making them happen. We all, me included, have goals and dreams and desires we want to achieve. However, every day, life happens. The urgent duties and demands we must tend to, then trying to rest and recover and have a break now and then. Those very important goals are never going to be as urgent. We listen to a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar on the issue, thenI polled our audience on some of their tactics and Tom Ziglar and I talk through the need for compassion with ourselves, but also some very real strategies we can use. And know this, there is no one best strategy, and your’s can be as goofy as ever, as long as it produces results. So Tom and I share some of our own as well, and I’ll admit mine often fall on the...not so conventional side. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Jun 202153min