For The Love With Jen Hatmaker Podcast17 Okt 2025

Encore Pushing Back On Patriarchal Narratives with Elise Loehnen

Description: In this episode of the Matriarchy series, we explore how deeply ingrained patriarchal narratives can create a policing effect on the behavior of women.

Author, Elise Loehnen, discusses her book "On Our Best Behavior" which examines how concepts like the seven deadly sins have historically been used to restrict women's behavior and police their adherence to an idealized form of "goodness." Loehnen unpacks the insidious ways women are culturally conditioned from a young age to suppress normal human drives like anger, ambition, and sexuality. And how disrupting rigid gender stereotypes is important when raising the next generation in order to build a more compassionate world.

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Thought-provoking Quotes:

★ “Women are trained for goodness; men are trained for power.” – Elise Loehnen

★ “Patriarchy isn’t just out there in systems and structures — it’s in us. It’s the air we breathe.” – Elise Loehnen

★ “A ‘good woman’ never needs anything. She has no wants, no anger, no appetite. She exists to meet everyone else’s needs — and calls it virtue.” – Elise Loehnen

★ “We are so conditioned to police ourselves that we end up policing each other.” – Elise Loehnen

★ “I hold everything I think with loose hands. This is what I know now. But I’m open to the me who might think differently later.” – Jen Hatmaker

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

➤ On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen - https://bit.ly/44tz41D

➤ Goop - https://goop.com

➤ For the Love of Being Seen and Heard ft. Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/4b8YT9C

➤ Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/3JO7FOn

➤ Evagrius Ponticus (Fourth Century Christian Monk) - https://bit.ly/4b7zEV5

➤ Pope Gregory on the 7 Deadly Sins -

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