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Wendy Behary (@donsanddivas) has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years, and is the author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. What We Discuss with Wendy Behary: What's the difference between someone who comes off as somewhat self-absorbed and a full-blown, clinical narcissist? Is clinical narcissism actually on the rise in the US? If so, what’s causing it? Does narcissism statistically affect men more than women, or is there just a difference in how they tend to express it? When a little bit of narcissism can be a big advantage.  How to tell early on if you’re dealing with a bona fide narcissist, what you can do to remain your best self in their presence, and how you might possibly help them become their better selves. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/246 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Sep 20191h 3min

When your significant other agreed to stop watching porn early in your relationship, you were relieved. But now that you've been dating for a few years and everything's otherwise great, you can't shake the feeling that they haven't quite given up porn and it feels like a betrayal. Is porn cheating? On this Feedback Friday, we do our best to get some perspective on this and much more! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/245. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Due to your own complicated history, your significant other's possible consumption of porn feels like betrayal. Is there a way to understand it from a different perspective? You spent six years training for your dream job only to be disqualified on a technicality. How can you motivate yourself to endure a similar time sink for another career when you know you're not getting any younger? As a business owner, how do you deal with the deadbeats who take advantage of your good nature and don't respect what you do enough to give you fair value for your services? How do people transition from the period of time they need to get experience in their field to the time they get paid for making use of that experience? Your significant other wants you to list the names of the people you've dated and slept with in the past, and then delete them all from your social media. Is this at all reasonable? You assumed you were having an email conversation regarding a business proposition with a man you know named Sam, but it turns out it's been with a woman named Sam whom you don't remember meeting. Now what? You're normally a great conversationalist, but when it comes to interacting with a superior, you find yourself worrying too much about accidentally saying the wrong thing and the conversation ends up stagnating. How might you overcome this? Life Pro Tip: Looking to cut the cord but dreading the inevitable call to the cable company where they badger you into not leaving? Tell them you're moving out of state where they don't offer services. Your cancellation call will take a fraction of the time. Recommendations of the Week: Happy Jail and Twelve Monkeys She Podcasts LIVE women's podcasting conference -- a literal who's who of talented and wildly successful women podcasters giving their all to make sure you have everything you need to make your podcast soar to the next level. Get your tickets now! A quick shoutout to Justin Phillips! Have any questions, comments, or... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Aug 201955min

Rob Reid (@Rob_Reid) is a tech entrepreneur, early-stage tech investor, author of After On: A Novel of Silicon Valley, and host of the After On Podcast. What We Discuss with Rob Reid: The potential for synthetic biology to be leveraged by nihilistic mass murderers to wipe out millions. The potential for synthetic biology to be leveraged by altruistic medical pioneers to save millions. What CRISPR is and how its eventual availability to hobbyists may ensure there's a mad scientist on every block. Why the future of synthetic biology may be exponentially more dangerous to humanity than the nuclear proliferation of the Cold War. What we can start doing now to prepare for this future and minimize its risks while reaping its rewards.  And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/244 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Aug 20191h 11min

Mark Geragos (@markgeragos) is a criminal defense lawyer who has represented high-profile clients like Michael Jackson, Winona Ryder, Gary Condit, Susan McDougal, Chris Brown, and Scott Peterson. He is the co-author of Mistrial: An Inside Look at How the Criminal Justice System Works...and Sometimes Doesn't.  "You never know what's going to happen -- especially when you're kind of the emergency room doctor of the law." -Mark Geragos  What We Discuss with Mark Geragos: How (and why) does a criminal defense lawyer stand up for the rights of someone who seems clearly guilty? How nonverbal communication and body language are used effectively in the courtroom. The court of public opinion and why it matters today more than ever. The skills Mark uses to control his emotions during life and death trials. What Mark witnessed in his youth that ensured his choice to defend people from criminal charges rather than prosecute them. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Aug 20191h

You've made it to what some would consider middle age -- in spite of stumbling over every possible mistake along the way. But instead of enjoying your triumph over the odds, you can't shake the feeling that it's past time to get off the hamster wheel and make a difference. You're frustrated and fearful of disappearing from the world without leaving your mark on it or handing down a legacy, some security, and a vision of what's achievable to your kids, so we'll do our best to help you figure out how on this Feedback Friday! And in case you didn’t already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let’s dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/242. On This Week’s Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! Does a 32-year-old need to tell Mom before getting tattoos? How do you say no to an insurance pyramid scheme? Should you begin with your professional or personal life when overhauling for a fresh start? What steps could you possibly take to get both of your bickering siblings to grow up? How do you get your employer to see the value in letting you work from home once the baby you’re expecting is due? Is it a mean-spirited, drama-loving academic advisor who is holding up your thesis progress, or is it secretly you? You’ve made it to age 50 and feel like a frustrated nobody, fearful of never leaving your mark on the world. How can you turn things around? Your spouse of three years is just now telling you about their massive debt. How can you be supportive without ransacking your own savings? Life Pro Tip: When starting your day at an amusement park with kids, take a full body pic of each person individually so that if anyone gets lost, you can show security exactly what they look like that day. Recommendation of the Week: The Family A quick shoutout to Brett Jesperson! Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Aug 201951min

Scott Young (@ScottHYoung) is the host of the Scott Young Podcast and author of Ultralearning: Master Hard Skills, Outsmart the Competition, and Accelerate Your Career What We Discuss with Scott Young: How Benjamin Franklin, chess grandmaster Judit Polgár, and Nobel Laureate physicist Richard Feynman used Ultralearning to rise to the top of their fields. How Scott used ultralearning to absorb the entire MIT four-year computer science curriculum in 11 months and learned four languages in one year! The biggest mistakes you're probably making when trying to learn something new. Why school isn't the only place where intense learning is possible. How our brains process languages and why some of our most popular learning options (like Duolingo) may not be optimal. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/241.Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Better Help offers affordable, online counseling at your convenience. If you're coping with depression, stress, anxiety, addiction, or any number of issues, you're not alone. Talk with a licensed professional therapist for 10 percent off your first month at betterhelp.com/jordan! Bespoke Post delivers goods and guidance in a monthly Box of Awesome curated with your unique interests in mind! To receive 20 percent off your first box, go to BoxofAwesome.com and enter code JORDAN at checkout! Ever dreamt of having the cleanest bum on the block? Omigo reinvented the toilet seat so you never have to use toilet paper again! Curious? Go to myomigo.com/jordan to get 20% off the toilet seat that's changing lives one wash at a time. Saving money on your car insurance is easy with Progressive. It's an average savings of $699 a year for customers who switch and save! Get your quote online at Progressive.com and see how much you could be saving today! Does your business have an Internet presence? Save up to a whopping 62% on new webhosting packages with HostGator at hostgator.com/jordan! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Aug 201956min

Richard Clarke (@richardclarke) served for 30 years in national security policy roles in the US government and worked directly for three presidents. He is the host of the Future State Podcast and co-author of The Fifth Domain: Defending Our Country, Our Companies, and Ourselves in the Age of Cyber Threats. What We Discuss with Richard Clarke: How we're in constant low-grade cyber conflict with Russia, China, Iran, and other adversarial nation states -- and the forms this can take. Cyber crime was a $600 billion industry (one percent of global GDP) in 2018, much of it perpetrated by rogue nations like North Korea. How cyberattacks can be (and have been) used to wreak physical damage on infrastructure, and why we should take them as seriously as traditional weaponry. Is it the government's job to protect private companies against cyberattacks from foreign powers, or is it up to private companies to be responsible for their own safety? Why there's a crisis-level shortage of cybersecurity expertise coming out of our country's most serious tech schools, and where it's being found instead. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/240 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Smart Passive Income with Pat Flynn is the podcast where it's all about working hard now so you can sit back and reap the benefits later. Give it a listen here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Aug 20191h 16min

At work, you're the youngest person on the team -- but you've also been there longer than anyone else. Your boss (who lives in another state) refers to you as his site lead, but you don't have an official title to reflect this. Your group needs the organization you know you can offer, but you don't want to come off as a power-hungry usurper. How do you get your boss to clarify your role -- to you and the team? On this Feedback Friday, we'll try to show you how to ensure your authority is respected. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/239. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! Is there a moral and/or legal obligation for Airbnb hosts to inform their guests when there are security cameras present -- whether or not they're recording anything? Are there any online courses or coaches specialized in social skills we would recommend for making conversation and connection easier? You're worried you don't come across as friendly. How can you improve your outer emotional reaction to people without feeling like you're overacting and being fake? Your boss communicates with you as if you're in a leadership position, but you feel like you have no authority. Do you need to ask him to clarify your role -- to you and your team? Is sharing photos useful when you're reconnecting with someone you haven't seen in a while, and is there networking value in alumni associations? You tend to forget the lessons you learn from audiobooks after a couple of months. What is the best way to memorize and apply the key takeaways of these books? What are the logistics of carrying on a successful long-distance relationship with a significant other whose sister doesn't like you and will probably undermine you from afar? You want to start a family, but your spouse's fertility issues may prevent this. Additionally, they're averse to therapy that might help lessen the impact or present options if you receive bad news. How can you be as supportive as possible? Life Pro Tip: Buy daily necessities in bulk when they're on sale, and pay close attention to unit prices! Recommendation of the Week: Losing Sight of Shore A quick shoutout to Becky, Robin, and all of the women's college volleyball players who listen to the show! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Aug 201955min