Securely Attached21 Okt 2025

Understanding toddlerhood: How to effectively set limits, stay calm, and parent with confidence with Devon Kuntzman

Joining me this week is Devon Kuntzman, the author of the brand-new book Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Go From Surviving to Thriving in the Toddler Years. Devon is here to talk about what's really going on beneath the surface of those big toddler behaviors—and how parents can respond with calm, confidence, and connection.

Together we explore:

Why those "challenging" toddler behaviors (like tantrums, hitting, and defiance) are actually developmentally appropriate—and what they're communicating.
How to shift from punishment to teaching, and use discipline as a tool for learning rather than control.
The meaning behind Devon's concept of developmentally smart parenting and how it helps you set firm but kind limits.
Practical tools for staying grounded and patient during your child's biggest meltdowns.
How to step out of power struggles without giving up your authority.
Why your calm, confident presence is the most powerful parenting strategy you have.

Whether you're deep in the toddler trenches or preparing for this next stage, this conversation will help you see your child's behavior through a new lens—and bring more confidence, connection, and compassion into your parenting.

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

🔗 https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/

📚 Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums, End Power Struggles, and Raise Resilient Kids—Without Losing Your Mind

FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:

📱@transformingtoddlerhood

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CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 94. Toddler sleep: Why it's different than infant sleep and how to use the attachment relationship to help them fall asleep, with Eileen Henry

🎧 90. Seeing the world through your toddler's eyes: Helping your child feel seen, understood, and validated with the co-authors of the Terrific Toddlers series

🎧 209. How can I get my toddler to share and play nicely with other kids?

🎧 231. BTS: How can I build my toddler's assertiveness skills?

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