Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

What happens when surrender becomes sacred? When boundaries are not barriers—but bridges to deeper intimacy? Meet one of the most influential voices in modern kink culture. Janet Hardy is today’s guest. She’s the co-author of the revolutionary The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures and Radical Ecstasy: SM Journeys to Transcendence … to name just two of her books. She has a wealth of knowledge and experience.

Listeners of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast, sent in a lot of questions and inspired this intimate conversation.
Topics include:
The intersections of power, pain, love and liberation.
Myths and fears about ethical non-monogamy in kink spaces.
Details about the new Workbook for The Ethical Slut.

When Janet shares about how real change begins with honest self-inquiry, not permission from others, all three women talk about claiming their own personal erotic power.
What does it mean to really choose who you are in your relationships?
And, what is beyond tolerating a relationship. Hint: it’s not always easy or safe to open up to this view of love and pleasure. Janet talks about building emotional resilience when having these vulnerable conversations.

You’ll hear Mistress Olivia’s personal reflection on how Radical Ecstasy transformed her understanding of Dominance and submission — not as control, but as co-created surrender. “Pain is not the goal. Surrender is.” That one line shifted everything. Together, they explore how power exchange is one of the most intimate acts we’re capable of — a dance where trust becomes tangible, and vulnerability becomes strength.

We also tackle real listener questions:
  • A trans woman shares her experience of feeling Dominant with male partners and submissive with female ones — is this a known dynamic? Janet offers thoughtful insight into gendered power dynamics and erotic archetypes.
  • For the nervous beginner — especially the "vanilla wife" being asked to step into Dominance — what are the real fears women face? Spoiler: It’s not about lack of interest. It’s about responsibility, judgment, and the weight of expectation.
  • And then… the eternal debate: Who’s really in control — the Domme or the sub? Janet’s answer may surprise you. (Hint: It’s not a power struggle — it’s a paradox.)
Finally, for those walking the spiritual edge of kink, we explore how to distinguish emotional overwhelm from authentic spiritual surrender — because not every tear in a scene is transcendence. Some are signals. Learning the difference? That’s where true mastery begins.

This episode isn’t just for kinksters. It’s for anyone who’s ever loved deeply, feared openly, or longed to be seen. It’s about coming into power — not over others, but within yourself.

Janet Hardy Website

The Ethical Slut
Radical Ecstasy

Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress

olivia@enchantrixempire.com

Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

erika@enchantrixempire.com

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Meet the Mistresses of the Strokeathon

Meet the Mistresses of the Strokeathon

Meet the ladies of the Stroke-a-thon. Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika talk with each Mistress about this test of cock stroking stamina. Each participant will try to NOT cum until the end of the hour. Who will explode first and why?Will it be when Rachel describes what she’ll wear to the Strokeathon? Harper’s lube recommendations get the ladies thoroughly sidetracked on the luxurious sounds of a throbbing cock aching to explode.Willow’s sensual voice and her guided masturbation preview make Olivia and Erika decide to wear a strapon to the Strokeathon so they can also stroke their own dick. Madison is a thrilling addition to the LDW phone sex team. Hear her plans for her first group event. Daphne enchants the ladies by pointing out the intimacy of being able to bear witness to this intimate display of masturbation. And finally, Bethany is liable to make you lose it just listening to her say what she’s going to wear to the Strokeathon. Hint - socks, a smile and a hard cock. All this and so much more in this episode.

6 Sep 20211h 13min

Questions and comments for Mistress

Questions and comments for Mistress

It’s question time! Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika take listener questions and comments. This episode covers all kinds of calls and callers. What do the ladies think of the human connection that they say is only possible on the phone? Why is this intimacy so powerful on a phone sex call? It’s not all serious, as you know if you’re a fan of this sexuality podcast. You’ll hear Ms Olivia plead for one particular humiliation caller to call her. Ms Erika has special insight for the older sissy who is just learning to love her sissy self. The Mistress hosts are full of advice, insight and, yes, the random excursion into a bit of whacky topics.

30 Aug 202159min

Stroke-a-thon Announcement with Miss Constance

Stroke-a-thon Announcement with Miss Constance

It’s time for STROKE-a-thon 2021! Miss Constance joins Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika for the stroke-a-thon announcement. This cock edging challenge will put your stamina up against all the Mistress masturbation experts. Can you hold out for a whole hour? Sure, maybe you can if you’re doing it on your own but with Mistress after Mistress taking turns with some wicked tease and denial, will you be able to hold on until the end? The last one stroking wins! Actually the top three expert strokers will win prizes. This is going to be a very fun event, Saturday, September 18th at 6 pm eastern. Sign ups close on September 15th. In the podcast you’ll learn about Ms Olivia’s fascination with bacon lube, why Constance is making her chastity pets sign up for the stroke-a-thon and why Erika telling her pets to “inspire her” is the best mindfuck of all.

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Sex music, a BDsm playlist and general sexy conversation

Sex music, a BDsm playlist and general sexy conversation

Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika are joined by a very special guest -- the very sexy Phoenix. Today’s episode starts out intending to talk about sex music, sexy music, fetish scene playlists and what songs makes the ladies hot. There are multiple excursions into various sidetracks - why Phoenix isn’t living in Paris right now and her roommate who might be named after cheese. Sometimes it gets serious with talk about women performers, sexual harassment and more. Erika does her best Marilyn Monroe happy birthday impression and Olivia loses her shit over names that make her laugh. All in all, it’s fun, funny, sexy, and raunchy - just what you expect from The Weekly Hot Spot.

16 Aug 20211h 3min

Movies, porn, sex scenes and the WTF obsession of a Mistress

Movies, porn, sex scenes and the WTF obsession of a Mistress

This episode is a different kind of movie review. Ms Cassidy is a huge movie buff and joins Ms Olivia and Ms Erika to talk cinema and sex. A movie doesn’t have to be sex or BDsm themed to have some hot scenes. You’ll hear the ladies discuss what they like and why. What is porn versus erotica leads to an interesting conversation about sex workers, female empowerment and what Olivia does for the quick Big O. Cassidy’s love of vampires lead her to a series of books that she says makes her so hot. Hear why Erika asks, “What the fuck is wrong with me?” and now has her own sexy assignment to do. As always, there is lots of laughter and general naughtiness.

9 Aug 20211h

Why Mistress loves cock control and you should too!

Why Mistress loves cock control and you should too!

This episode is all about cock control - including the origin of the word cock control. Did you know this term has a copyright? Ms Erika and Mistress Olivia are joined by Ms Hunter to talk about: stroking, edging, tease and denial, ruined orgasm and, of course, chastity. The ladies share their favorite stroking techniques and say that they know more about a penis than the men who are attached to the penis.

5 Jul 20211h 1min

Does Mistress switch? Our guest Mistress is also a submissive!

Does Mistress switch? Our guest Mistress is also a submissive!

What is a switch in BDsm terms? Hosts Erika and Olivia both identify as a Dominant only, meaning they don’t switch, but this week’s guest, Daphne, does switch! Why would a Femdom also be a submissive? What is the difference between a submissive or bottom and a Domme versus a Top? Daphne has a 20 year experience as a lifestyle submissive. She knows exactly what it is to be submissive. Find out how Daphne uses her experience as a submissive to be a wicked Femdom. Hear how the ladies think of phone sex versus in person BDsm play. You’ll hear the answers to this question: “Have you given your heart to a caller?” This is a fun, sexy episode with behind the scenes stories and so much more (including the formal name of a fear of turbines).

28 Jun 20211h 6min

Mistress answers your questions

Mistress answers your questions

It’s Question Time for Mistress. Ms Erika and Ms Olivia answer listener questions and share experiences. The episode starts off with a comment that catches Ms Erika off guard. Hear why Ms Erika got a little flustered and how Ms Olivia is going to lure her into some new erotic adventures. Topics include: straight men and cock sucking, Ms Olivia’s adventure travels and how that applies to kinky sex, feminization and sissification, chastity, pegging, a big cock in panties, privacy and much more!

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