Anger Intelligence: Turn Reactivity into Repair in Relationships & Parenting with Davina Hehn

Anger Intelligence: Turn Reactivity into Repair in Relationships & Parenting with Davina Hehn

On Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, host Avik and mental health coach Davina Hehn cut through the fluff on anger. You’ll learn how to read anger as data (not a defect), use nervous-system tools in the moment, and practice micro-repairs that rebuild trust at home and at work. Practical scripts, time-bound pauses, thought-stopping, and collaboration strategies make this a clear playbook for conflict without collateral damage.

About the guest :

Davina Hehn is a trained therapist turned mental health coach. She helps people advocate for themselves without causing harm, regulate their nervous systems, and parent with accountability and repair.

Key takeaways :

  • Anger is a pointer, not a personality flaw; it flags crossed boundaries, unmet needs, or perceived injustice.

  • Do hourly micro-check-ins (jaw, heart rate, “cold-to-hot” scale) to catch activation early.

  • Use a 30-second reset: notice body cues, name the need, choose a response over a reaction.

  • Radical self-responsibility means holding multiple truths: “What I felt was valid; what I did wasn’t helpful.”

  • In-the-moment regulation: breathe with longer exhales; hum or lightly pinch fingertips for bilateral input; stay present.

  • Create time-bound pauses: “I’m activated. I need 5 minutes. I’ll come back.” Agree on a neutral cue word as a couple or family.

  • Repair with consent and specifics: ask to revisit, share each perspective, name what you’ll do differently next time.

  • Aftercare matters: stop rumination with thought-stopping (visual stop sign) to complete the stress cycle.

  • Prevention beats penance: set realistic timelines for behavior change; consistency rebuilds trust.

  • Litmus test for action: channel anger into changes within your control; avoid rushing to act while still highly activated.SEO: anger intelligence, repair over rupture, parenting repair, conflict scripts, nervous system tools, relationship communication.

How to connect with the guest

  • Social: @AsteadySpace on all major platforms.

  • Website: https://www.asteadyspace.com/

  • Brief intro: “A steady space to find balance, then go back into the world.”

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