On Purpose with Jay Shetty5 Nov 2025

Jays Must Listens: You’re Approaching Dating Wrong! (Use THIS Blueprint to Attract the RIGHT Person) Ft. Vanessa Van Edwards & Jillian Turecki

How do you know if someone’s really right for you?

Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong?

Today, Jay brings together four of today’s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn’t about finding “the one,” but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally.

Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Build Confidence Through Body Language

How to Date Without Burning Out

How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection

How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One

How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People

How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love

Love isn’t something that happens by accident, it’s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:50 The Flirtation Signals You’re Missing

09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes

13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle

16:37 You Shouldn’t Rush Real Love

21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships

22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life

24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People?

26:01 The Real Reason You’re Struggling to Find a Partner

27:49 Are Your Standards Too High?

29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost?

30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want

32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship’s Future

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