Accidentally Squashing Your Partner's Excitement (When You're on Two Different Wavelengths in a Conversation): Episode 422

Accidentally Squashing Your Partner's Excitement (When You're on Two Different Wavelengths in a Conversation): Episode 422

Have you ever shared an idea or dream with your spouse, something that genuinely excited you, only to have the energy immediately flattened by practicality or fear? In this episode, we're unpacking a dynamic that quietly drains energy and connection in many marriages: when one partner is in enthusiastic, imaginative energy and the other instantly shifts into logic and control mode. We'll explore why this happens, what it reveals emotionally for each partner, and how to respond in a way that keeps the energy between you alive instead of shutting it down.

In this episode you'll hear:

  • The hidden psychology behind why partners "squash" enthusiasm (even with good intentions)

  • How to frame a conversation for your partner from the start, so you're on the same wavelength

  • Practical shifts that help you stay connected and engaged, even when you see things differently

  • Why joining in the energy doesn't mean agreeing to every idea

  • How this dynamic slowly erodes emotional intimacy if you don't adjust

If you've ever felt misunderstood for your excitement, or struggled to stay open when your spouse starts dreaming big, this conversation will help you both feel seen and stay on the same wavelength.

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