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The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode 2:54: Morning Routine (45m-1.5h) Ben Greenfield fitness Tools of Titans - Tim Ferris 7-8h sleep gratitude journal, Bible, notecard meditation (Insight Timer app) coffee, green tea feet on bare ground workout (30-60m), go for a walk/ruck Jocko: Push, Pull, Squat & Lift Protocol hang upside down on Teeter inversion table cold immersion/exposure physical touch with wife & kids breakfast with kids Human Charger 12:36: Diet no sugar, no grains 15-16h between meals/Intermittent Fasting lots of high quality fats, meats berries with heavy cream occasional whiskey, not much drinking supplements: look for a later episode 16:08: Books I read a lot, as much as I can: books, articles, blog I re-read books Fight Club - Chuck Palahniuk Catcher in the Rye - J. D. Salinger Born to Run - Bruce Springsteen I Don't Want to Talk About It - Terrence Real Antifragile - Nassim Nicholas Taleb Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski Finding Meaning - David Kessler Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson The Deepest Well - Nadinen Burke Harris M.D. Gabor Maté  M.D. Brené Brown The Gift of Therapy - Irvin Yalom Dr. Henry Cloud Behave - Robert M. Sapolsky Patrick Lencioni Ready Player One - Ernest Cline Mating in Captivity - Esther Perel Predictably Irrational - Dan Ariely Why We Get Fat - Gary Taubes The Road - Cormac McCarthy The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn - Mark Twain Justice - Michael J. Sandel Theology: Tim Wise, Rob Bell, Richard Rohr, N. T. Wright, Richard Beck Anne Lamott The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Young Adult Fiction: The Harry Potter series - J. K. Rowling The Wingfeather Saga - Andrew Peterson The Wildwood Chronicles - Colin Meloy & Carson Ellis The Wilder Good series - S. J. Dahlstrom Poets: Def Comedy Jam, Langston Hughes   20:54: Comedians: Cosby, Pryor, Chapelle, Lewis Black, Steve Martin, Seinfeld, Nate Bargatze, Robin Williams 22:13: Music Guns & Roses, Rage Against the Machine, Dream Theater, Pantera, Deftones, all 80s har metal, Poison, Def Leppard, Warrant, Rat old punk: Bad Brains, Black Flag, Henry Rollins, Social Distortion, Sick of It All, Hatebreed The Killers, Foo Fighters Trippin Daisy, Ned's Atomic Dustbin Blink-182, 30-foot Fall, Goldfinger, MXPX Bebo Norman, Caedmon's Call, Eric Peters, Andrew Peterson, Andy Osenga Ani DiFranco, Damien Rice, Frank Turner, The Avett Brothers, Brandon Flowers, Bruce Springsteen, Tobe Nwigwe, Jay-Z, Notorious BIG, Dr. Dre, Warren G, Houston rap, Run DMC, LL Cool, Grandmaster Flash, Ice Cube Nina Simone, Aretha Franklin Jimi Hendrix, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Guy Clarke Jr. ambient electronica, lo-fi beats Johnny Cash, Willie Nelson, Garth Brookes, Merle Haggard Third Eye Blind 27:01: Movies: Goodwill Hunting, Stand By Me, Meet the Parents, Requiem for a Dream, Spaceballs, Major League, Karate Kid, Titanic, American History X, Adam Sandler, Will Ferrell 28:58: Living in the woods vs. the city Mandelbrot, fractals 30:29: Why do you block out your kids pictures on social media? 32:07: How long have you been married? 32:23: Favorite food 32:34: Enneagram/Myers Brigg 34:46: Favorite places to travel 35:13: Who in history would you want to hang out with?  36:10: How did you and your wife meet? 37:46: Things that get you the most anxious? 40:36: How much money is in your swear jar right now? 40:50: Biggest change coming from TX to TN 42:20: What's your beef with Crossfit? 43:03: Do you find yourself being Dr. John when your wife just needs her husband? 43:56: What are some of your biggest influences on the advice you give? Dr. Andy Young Dr. Jean-Noel Thompson Michael Gibson Professors in grad school Mom & dad, wife, family Yalom, Glaser, Gabor Maté, Terrance Real, Henry Cloud 45:27: Have you hd your own mental health challenges? 45:48: With your experience, what has stopped you in your tracks? 47:29: What car do you drive? 47:38: How do you deal with having different opinions than Dave? 47:51: Ultimate comfort food 48:06: Who are your mentors? 48:25: How you manage staying humble and be successful? 50:55: Guitar of choice? 51:52: Opinion on using weeds and drugs recreationally 52:37: How do you keep balanced if a question goes against your beliefs or morals? 54:51: Lyrics of the Day: "Thunder Road" - Bruce Springsteen   These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Des 202057min

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU! Intro Music: "Cloud of Dust in a Snowstorm" - James Childs (Charlie Brown Christmas beat) 10:45: Lyrics of the Day: "Last Christmas" - Wham Outro Music: "Slay Ride" - James Childs (The Carpenters Christmas beat)   These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Des 202013min

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode I’ve recently started taking meds for anxiety. I haven’t needed medication for anxiety/depression in about 10 years. How do I get over the feelings of failure and brokenness?  19:50: Teaching Segment: Let's talk about medication 31:36: Wife and her mom are not speaking. How do I help my wife navigate the holidays? 37:46: We have both been unfaithful. One of our children is not mine. She is heading toward another affair. Do I call it quits? 48:17: Lyrics of the Day: "Keeper of the Flame" - Nina Simone tags: anxiety, guilt, marriage, family, disagreement/conflict, infidelity, parenting These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23 Des 202050min

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that gives you real talk on life, relationships and mental health challenges. Through humor, grace and grit, John gives you the tools you need to cut through the chaos of anxiety, depression and disconnection. You can own your present and change your future—and it starts now. So send us your questions at johndelony.com/show or leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode 4:44: My husband is in the process of transitioning. I am terrified that I am about to be a single parent and don't know what to do. Divorce Checklist: How to Prepare for Divorce 24:33: Should I push back my wedding date so my incarcerated mom can be there? 29:22: I'm in a relationship with a great man that I love and see a future with but I have a hard getting close to him. Teaching Segment: Fear of Intimacy 43:55: Lyrics of the Day: "Ring of Fire" - Johnny Cash tags: sexuality/intimacy, marriage, divorce, boundaries, family, trauma/PTSD, relationships These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Des 202046min

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode 8:19: A young lady in our class at church has become close with our family. She has drama after drama, and I need to set some boundaries. How? 22:15: Son has drug addiction and I am tired of battling it.  29:28: We’ve moved many times for military and husband’s job. I am starting to resent him for it. How can I get past this 37:43: Lyrics of the Day: "Alive" - Pearl Jam tags: addiction, family, boundaries, relationships, military, anger/resentment/bitterness, marriage These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Des 202040min

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that gives you real talk on life, relationships and mental health challenges. Through humor, grace and grit, John gives you the tools you need to cut through the chaos of anxiety, depression and disconnection. You can own your present and change your future—and it starts now. So send us your questions at johndelony.com/show or leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode 6:42: Husband is spending money without talking to me and won’t disclose the amounts. 16:50: How do we navigate Christmas situations with a side of the family I just don’t really like? 25:50: Teaching Segment: Appreciating the Wisdom of the Elderly 30:46: How do I build a community during a pandemic? 40:41: Lyrics of the Day: "I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For" - U2 tags: marriage, disagreement/conflict, money, infidelity, family, boundaries, relationships These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Des 202043min

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that gives you real talk on life, relationships and mental health challenges. Through humor, grace and grit, John gives you the tools you need to cut through the chaos of anxiety, depression and disconnection. You can own your present and change your future—and it starts now. So send us your questions at johndelony.com/show or leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode 4:31: New stay at home mom. We are trying to get out debt. I feel like I am failing family by not working. 13:56: My father was diagnosed with cancer. How do I process this? 26:10: My sister-in-law said they can’t afford to buy gift for everyone. Is it appropriate for us to buy for them?  36:33: Lyrics of the Day: "Buddy Holly" - Weezer tags: money, workplace/career, guilt, parenting, family, sickness/illness, grief, money, family, boundaries These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Des 202038min

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that gives you real talk on life, relationships and mental health challenges. Through humor, grace and grit, John gives you the tools you need to cut through the chaos of anxiety, depression and disconnection. You can own your present and change your future—and it starts now. So send us your questions at johndelony.com/show or leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode 3:47: How do I control my short temper? 18:18: Teaching Segment: Self-forgiveness 21:38: What is the difference between just drinking and alcohol addiction? 36:42: How do I talk about boundaries with my father who was diagnosed with bi-polar? 44:30: Lyrics of the Day: "She Talks to Angels" - The Black Crowes tags: anger/resentment/bitterness, parenting, reconciliation/forgiveness, addiction, substance abuse, bipolar disorder, family, boundaries These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11 Des 202046min