Finding A Balance in 2019 with Tylor Tayo Ilori

Tylor Tayo Ilori is an applied social and human behavioral scientist and consultant.

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On finding balance in the year he motioned on the need for people to always give credit to themselves regardless of where they might be coming from, to also have a level of empathy and compassion for themselves and to take care to move away from the company of people who often think less of them. On staying focused on one’s goals, he advised that people learn to take small wins, leave their bed and learn to be disciplined in little things. According to him, success is in the mind and if and when someone is not able to achieve little things, their mind will believe that they cannot achieve anything but when one is able to achieve little things, the mind will grab the idea that the person is a success. He further stressed on the need for one to start small and start achieving little things as they will be able to achieve bigger goals in the end. As to finding balance, he said that balance was relative as some people might have success in one area and not in other advising that people look at places where they are not doing well and be honest with themselves. Despite the pressure that society puts on us he stressed on the need for people to find a balance, even when the society qualifies on the essence of the material one has, he advised that people should be focused on the mentality to building themselves gradually. According, the existent culture of materialism is not as a result of parents, still, he maintained that people should calm down, observe and understand how life works and they can then begin to see the wisdom within. He also said that people should be thankful for the little things in their life adding that people should endeavor to recognize the things they crave as it is another concept of attraction that will lead them to where they want to be. On the question of how one can come out of confusion, he emphasized the need for people to show passion to not just others but themselves as well as it was okay to be confused which is common to all humans. As confusion often leads to depression, he advised that people could talk to someone who has been in their shoes as they would have answers. Although, confusion is just a mental thought that goes on in the mind he maintained that a way to cancel out the negative thoughts that might come up is to always have more evidence of the good that one has done. He hinted on the need to start small as the grand goals can be put on hold but to ensure to do the things that can keep one alive every day. Speaking on the issue of shooting for the stars as opposed to reality he said that people should be honest with themselves. This he said while stressing on the need for people to increase in their area of strength rather than set goals. He concluded by saying that should try to shore more compassion to themselves, write down the things they want to do and work towards it.