‘I Was An Ugly Child’ & The 5-Second Underthinking Rule

‘I Was An Ugly Child’ & The 5-Second Underthinking Rule

She's had her childhood photo used in an "ugly" meme that's all over the Internet. So why isn't host Clare Stephens upset about this dissing of her younger self?

Also: "You called me, you speak first". Does Gen Z really answer the phone with... nothing?

And, just literally do things. That's the message here to challenge the recent cultural domination of the 'overthinking introvert'. In all kinds of areas of your life, is it always better to underthink, jump fast and have a bias to action, like our self-help overlord Mel Robbins? And why is it easier for some people than others?

Plus, Holly's midlife tattoo. Crisis or confidence? And why LinkedIn is cutting Tinder's grass on the matchmaking front.

All this unpacked and shaken upside down by Clare, Emily Vernem and Holly Wainwright on today's Mamamia Out Loud.

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Em recommends Pluribus on Apple TV.

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Hosts: Emily Vernem, Clare Stephens & Holly Wainwright

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Quit Your Job And Find A New Friend

Quit Your Job And Find A New Friend

Should you ever tell your boss exactly what you think of them, even if you're leaving? It’s the group therapy question we’ve all dreamed of writing, but according to Mia there is only one dignified way to leave a job. Plus, Amy Schumer has a 'no new friends' policy and we can’t work out if it’s genius or just a little smug. And pert nipples. Apparently, fillers in your fiddly bits are all the rage. THE END BITS Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff WHAT YOU SHOULD BE READING/WATCHING/DOING Jessie: Seriously, by the BBC - Episode: Meeting The Man I Killed Holly: Yoga Mia: Going To A Dawn Service and Oprah’s Super Soul Podcast with Amy Schumer GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

27 Apr 201843min

Women To The Front

Women To The Front

Hundreds of women will be marching out in front today at ANZAC Day celebrations across the country, and we think it is bloody fantastic. Has pre-wedding prep gone too far? Blogger and Influencer Nicole Warne, aka Garry Pepper Girl, spent around $10K on just getting herself ready for the big day. So is that the norm? And what the heck is microaggression? We need it explained. VOTE FOR US IN THE AUSTRALIAN PODCAST AWARDS HERE. THE END BITS Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff SPECIAL RECOMMENDATIONS Mia: Girls Trip on iTunes or Love, Simon at the movies. Jessie: Still Point Turning at the Sydney Theatre Company Holly: The Vanity Fair Diaries by Tina Brown GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network. This episode of Mamamia Out Loud was brought to you by Officeworks. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Apr 201832min

Spinsters Are Doing It For Themselves

Spinsters Are Doing It For Themselves

Forget Alpha Males, these days it’s all about the Alpha Single. A woman who refuses to compromise her independence for any old guy and Jessie thinks that label suits Rach to a tee. Plus, should you be looking for more friends outside your generation if you want to be truly happy? And is it problematic Leonardo diCaprio doesn't seem interested in dating women is own age? VOTE FOR US IN THE AUSTRALIAN PODCAST AWARDS HERE. THE END BITS Hosts: Rachel Corbett, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff ACTUAL RECOMENDATIONS Mia: Mom & Me & Mom, by Maya Angelou & A Visit From The Goon Squad, by Jennifer Egan Jessie: Donating Blood at your local Red Cross. Rach: Transformazing Face Masks by Go-To Skincare (Lize also thinks these are ace) GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network. This episode of Mamamia Out Loud was brought to you by Officeworks.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

20 Apr 201835min

Dressing For Work Is So Last Season

Dressing For Work Is So Last Season

The Greens want to legalise Cannabis for Australians over the age of 18 so is it a good idea? Plus in a world of working from home and co-working spaces is ‘dressing for work’ even a thing anymore? And Mia goes rogue and gives you some extra recomendations…illegally. THE END BITS Hosts: Rachel Corbett, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff ROGUE RECOMENDATIONS Mia: Sparkly Dry Shampoo from Sportsgirl and One Hit Wonders Playlist on Spotify Jessie: The Break by Marian Keyes. GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

18 Apr 201834min

Step Away From The Ballers

Step Away From The Ballers

One celebrity story has eaten the Internet this week, and it's Khloe Kardashian's. She had her first baby just as it was revealed her boyfriend was cheating on her. So how can the savviest family in media spin this one? And why is no one telling Khloe to stay away from the 'ballers', as Holly calls them? Plus, do you wash your new clothes before you wear them? Because chances are the number of people who tried on that dress that you like is A LOT higher than you think. Oh, and Mia shows us her tattoo…. THE END BITS Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff WHAT YOU SHOULD BE READING/WATCHING/DOING Jessie is finding things to read at What Should I Read Next Mia is loving her shoes from El Zapato Holly is hanging out for the No Filter with Constance Hall. Subscribe here. GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Apr 201842min

Get Your Chin Hair Out

Get Your Chin Hair Out

Is it possible to raise a gender open child? Parents in the US are doing it and there’s a name for their kids - theybies. YEP. Theybies. Plus, Brad Pitt has a new girlfriend (not me) who happens to be a drop-dead gorgeous Professor. So are Hollywood guys after a different kind of trophy wife these days? And Syria is back in the news and it might be because Donald Trump did something right. THE END BITS Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff WHAT YOU SHOULD READ: Jessie and Clare's recap: https://www.mamamia.com.au/bachelor-in-paradise-recap-2018-laurina/ Meghan and Harry's no gift policy: https://www.mamamia.com.au/meghan-and-harry-guest-list/ What's going on in Syria: https://www.mamamia.com.au/syria-chemical-attack-2018/ GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Apr 201841min

Have You Got Anything Herbal?

Have You Got Anything Herbal?

First impressions are formed in milliseconds so how can you stop making common meeting mistakes at work? Plus is religion still a deal breaker in relationships? An article in the Washington post has raised a lot of questions, so we're of course going to talk about it. And do you need the tooth fairy in your life? Holly has a recommendation that will probably save your arse. THE END BITS Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff THINGS TO TRY: Jessie has two recommendations this week, they are: Conspiracy on Netflix and the book Lullaby by Leila Slimani. Mia is spending her time watching UnReal Season 3, and she thinks you should too. Holly reckons you should fool your kids when it is tooth-fairy time by putting dye in their water. GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

6 Apr 201835min

A Few Ambitious Women

A Few Ambitious Women

A profile in the Weekend Australian of Reese Witherspoon left us feeling a bit confused. So, why does it feel so shocking when a woman talks herself up? Plus, what the heck is the pegan diet and how do you do it? And what do you do if you don’t like your adult kid? THE END BITS Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Jessie Stephens and Mia Freedman Producer: Elissa Ratliff READ MORE: Pegan Diet explained: https://www.mamamia.com.au/what-is-the-pegan-diet/ Holly's viral article: https://www.mamamia.com.au/why-are-we-outraged-about-ball-tampering/ GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Head to https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/ to this and all our pods delivered straight to your inbox. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Download the Mamamia Podcast App here. Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

4 Apr 201836min

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