Misjudging Others Attention On Us
We imagine others are more interested in our mistakes or self-conscious areas than they are. We also imagine they pay little to no attention to us at most other times. Both of these are errors in judg...
28 Nov 20225min
An Outsider Exercise in Gratitude
We adapt to our circumstances. This dampens our capacity for gratitude, as we become less aware of what we are experiencing the longer we have the same experiences. In today's episode, we use a versio...
24 Nov 20229min
You Know The Right Decision, Now Reduce The Friction
You know how to determine what would be a good decision. You have the tools and the reasoning; if you find yourself still not making the right decision, you may be tempted to focus on the "left side" ...
21 Nov 20229min
Using Observational Techniques to Find Your Personal Values
Determining your values isn't just about fluff. This is what you personally care about.In this episode, we talk about two ways to use direct observation as a tool for determining your values, and why ...
16 Nov 202218min
Avoid Defining Success Outside Your Locus of Control
Focus on what you can control. Create incentives and language and internal narrative that produces the right actions within your locus of control. Avoid attaching your definition of success to things ...
14 Nov 202212min
The Toxic Laziness of Overwork Culture
Don't buy in to the lie that you have to overwork to succeed. Not only is it not true, it's also dangerous - and the opposite is more accurate.## 📮 Ask a QuestionIf you enjoyed this episode and would...
10 Nov 202217min
Start With Precise Communication
In today's episode, I provide a simple coaching tip on improved communication for software engineers. It's simple: always make precision explicit, and layer context. Start with precision, then create ...
7 Nov 202210min
The Error of Discounting the Unexpected
We don't think about the unexpected as a category of possible outcomes. This leads us to assign overestimated probabilities to things that are front of mind, and discount the likelihood of things we d...
2 Nov 202213min
