On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Today, I'm joined by Haesue Jo, Licensed Therapist & Head of Clinical Operations at BetterHelp, with years of experience providing individual and family therapy in community mental health. Her current clinical focus includes working with individuals with a variety of presenting problems, including anxiety, relationship and family issues, trauma, community violence, gender identity, and depression.It’s going to be a little different today as I take the client seat and get a first hand experience of what it’s like to be in a therapy session. This is Part 1 of a 2-Part special episode and we open the conversation by talking about my childhood experiences - how it affects my adulthood, the memories that may seem as passing but are actually traumatic, and how these can possibly lead to repression of painful memories. Haesue also helps uncover the challenges surrounding racism, bullying, identity crisis, teenage struggles, and finding your safe space and security.  This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.What We Discuss:00:00:00 Intro00:03:36 Why therapists start with talking about childhood 00:10:22 How did you feel about school in general?00:16:26 Repression of painful memories 00:25:16 How do you feel about being othered?00:31:29 What I remember as a teenager00:35:04 Choosing to be understood than be liked00:42:59 Dealing with racism00:50:12 Did you want to understand bullies? 01:00:02 Can you change your identity?01:02:55 When you have some form of securityEpisode ResourcesBetterHelpDo you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on CalmWant to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

28 Okt 20221h 13min

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.Today, I talk to Dr. Gabor Maté. A celebrated speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics, such as addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder. He is also the co-author of Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in more than thirty languages.Dr. Maté generously shares his deep understanding of childhood trauma, vulnerability, grief, and emotional distress. He explains what real trauma is and how time doesn’t necessarily lead to healing, how vulnerability is ingrained in us since we are young and the importance of these formative years to mold our emotional health, and the societal expectations we always try to meet but have never truly given us real fulfillment. We also exchange thoughts on dealing with grief, how we struggle to identify with the people we look up to, and how childhood experience varies for every child even when they are raised in a similar environment.Trauma is a wound that has not fully healed which can be triggered at any point in our life so it matters that we are able to find a common ground and stay firm in what can give us healing, emotional stability, and happiness.What We Discuss:00:00:00 Intro00:03:12 How do you define trauma?00:06:32 How is healing defined?00:08:45 Time itself does not heal emotional wounds00:11:38 We are all born vulnerable00:13:55 The inherent expectations we all have00:20:00 The societal standards we try to live up to00:25:15 It’s not possible to love kids too much00:29:35 Grief is essential for life00:32:19 When the past dominates the present reactions00:35:16 There is no healthy identification00:42:11 Why are we set on things staying the same00:44:38 No two children have the same childhood00:50:19 The difference between loneliness and being alone00:53:54 How do you see human nature?01:02:24 Suffering has to be acknowledged01:06:27 Getting closure and start moving on01:10:04 Spirituality becomes commoditized01:15:56 Dr. Maté on Final Five:Episode ResourcesGabor Maté | WebsiteGabor Maté | InstagramGabor Maté | TwitterGabor Maté | BooksThe Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic CultureDo you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on CalmWant to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Okt 20221h 21min

Today, I will be sharing about setting boundaries in our relationships. When we aren’t used to setting them, we may find it difficult to start setting one. Having one makes us value our self worth so much more and will help encourage others to treat us with respect.I start by talking about the consequences of breaking our boundaries, especially with the boundaries we had for our old self, how we should start becoming aware of them and build up new ones, and then start sharing these boundaries to our partner to let them understand where we stand. We also have the five types of boundaries we should start practicing.  Key Takeaways:00:00:00 Intro00:01:12 Setting boundaries in relationships00:06:42 What happens when we break our own boundaries00:07:14 Become aware of all your boundaries00:09:15 Set your past behind 00:10:07 Express your boundaries to your partner00:16:40 Type #1: Friendship boundary00:18:05 Type #2: Ideas boundary00:19:29 Type #3: Financial boundary00:21:18 Type #4: Alone time boundary00:23:00 Type #5: Purpose boundaryLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Okt 202224min

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.Today, I talk to the one and only John Legend. John has garnered 12 Grammy Awards, an Academy Award, a Golden Globe Award, a Tony Award, and an Emmy award making him the first black man to earn an EGOT. During the course of John's career, he has released seven celebrated albums. His eighth studio album, Legend, which was released on September 9th, is out right now. John recently began the second leg of his critically acclaimed Las Vegas residency entitled Love in Las Vegas, which runs through October. And his MasterClass on songwriting has just been released.   John openly shares his amazing journey as a songwriter, singer, and family man. We start the conversation with his childhood - from growing up in a Christina home, being homeschooled to transitioning into a public school and the challenges that come with it. Next, we dive deep into how community support plays a huge role in molding children outside of the home, the value of knowing what you want in life and finding the means to attain it and sticking to it, and the relentless pursuit of a career and build a family where love, care, and a safe space is prioritized.  The hurdles may have been tough and the path may be unclear at some point, but John’s story is telling us to believe in what we can do and remain passionate about the things we love to do.   What We Discuss:00:00:00 Intro00:03:07 Homeschooled00:07:23 Transitioning into a public school00:11:13 The strength of community support00:14:21 Healing, recovery, and forgiveness00:17:47 Creating stability at home00:21:36 Focus on what’s important to you00:29:06 Surrounding yourself with people you’re comfortable with00:31:13 The truth about ego00:35:19 Your partner gives the most honest feedback00:39:20 Becoming a better partner00:43:56 We never completely forget our trauma00:47:52 Pursuing a career and building a family00:51:29 Advocacy for better living opportunities for the society00:54:35 What keeps you going?00:56:27 Who do you want to collaborate with?00:57:51 Inspiration don’t come everyday01:01:08 John on Fast Five01:04:47 John’s The Many Sides of UsEpisode ResourcesJohn Legend | InstagramJohn Legend | TwitterJohn Legend | FacebookJohn Legend | YouTubeJohn Legend | WebsiteDo you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on CalmWant to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Okt 20221h 10min

Today, I’m going to talk about three aspects of love that affect our brain and the way we think. If we can understand how our brain processes these emotions, then we can become better at handling our emotions as well as our relationships. I start by explaining what these three aspects are, the chemical reaction that happens in our body when we feel them, and the ways we can improve how we handle these feelings. Come join me and discover what aspect you can gradually improve. Key Takeaways:00:00:00 Intro00:03:39 Love and relationships affect the brain00:05:34 Three ways feelings of love show up in the brain00:05:58 Attraction00:06:12 Lust00:17:44 AttachmentLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Okt 202221min

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.Today, I talk to Vishen Lakhiani. Vishen is an author and entrepreneur in the ed-tech space. He is the founder of Mindvalley, an education technology company building a new model for human education that aims to give everyone the same quality of life. Mindvalley creates tech and platforms that power online academies in areas that traditional education ignores. These include mindfulness, personal growth, wellness, spirituality and more. His quest is to help move humanity to a more holistic, integrated education system that caters for the whole being.   Vishen, joining us again for another soulful conversation, strongly believes that compassion is what gives us real and genuine happiness. As he explains why compassion is the foundation to achieving all things positive in our life, how self compassion reinforces self love which leads to self care, and the disciplines we must practice so we can attain genuine happiness. We also dive into the definition of sadness, changing our perspective to turn sadness into love and compassion, and the importance of having a vision of the future, of having a clear idea of the path you want to make and take.No matter how far and long our life goals may be, self compassion and being compassionate towards others will eventually lead to having a peaceful, content, and well-meaning life.  What We Discuss:00:00:00 Intro00:03:31 What was your first meditation experience?00:06:53 How do you use meditation in your life?00:13:18 Compassion is something you do for yourself00:18:48 When did we lose compassion?00:22:03 Compassion as a technique and a quality of being00:24:08 What is happiness?00:28:40 Channeling sadness into love and compassion00:29:53 How do you stop sadness from turning into guilt?00:33:45 How to avoid having narcissistic tendencies00:35:34 Have a vision for the future00:42:21 Don’t get held back by old things00:47:46 What defines a good meditation?00:50:02 Testing the parameters of your destinyEpisode ResourcesVishen Lakhiani | WebsiteVishen Lakhiani | FacebookVishen Lakhiani | TwitterVishen Lakhiani | InstagramVishen Lakhiani | YouTubeVishen Lakhiani | LinkedInVishen Lakhiani | BooksThe Mindvalley PodcastDo you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on CalmWant to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

10 Okt 202255min

Today, I’m going to share with you my first ever public interview with my friend Tom Bilyeu of the Impact Theory podcast. It is one of my favorite conversations because we talk about the power self awareness has in influencing your relationships with others especially with the people close to you and at work. I also talk about breaking free from the norm, from what society expects from us, and from the limits we have set for ourselves. Once we become self aware, we can then start asking questions that need honest answers and we can often get these answers from people we look up to and from our experiences. And as the level of self awareness increases, we make better decisions and eventually, enjoy positive results.If you want to pre-order the book, 8 Rules of Love, go to https://8rulesoflove.com/Key Takeaways:00:00:00 Intro00:04:54 How did you find your fourth option?00:13:07 We live in echo chambers00:16:50 What is power?00:20:14 What’s the best part of being a monk?00:23:45 What is an ideal life?00:26:51 Start your day with gratitude00:32:49 Self awareness00:40:47 Questions to ask yourself00:44:46 Three questions you are often asked00:49:31 The three E’s of life00:51:52 Making wisdom go viralLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Okt 202255min

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.Today, I talk to Alex Cooper. Alex is the creator, host, and executive producer of the hugely successful podcast and brand Call Her Daddy, which amasses millions of listeners per episode and frequently tops Podcast charts. In 2018, Alex began to blaze a path through the podcasting medium that had never before existed: a space where women were encouraged, empowered, and emboldened to share their unapologetic stories and truths. Now one of the most listened to female podcasters in the world, Alex continues to break all boundaries by shattering stigmas and stomping on misogyny, all while keeping mental health and personal empowerment at the forefront. Her thought-provoking conversations are meticulously designed to explore wide-ranging topics such as life experiences, culture, health, relationships, and more, all through her lens of comedy and extreme candor. To the millions of devoted gen-z and millennial listeners (“The Daddy Gang”) the Call Her Daddy brand represents a new set of values and standards, with many quotes and phrases permeating pop-culture vernacular. In addition, the Boston-bred entrepreneur has a successful merchandise line, as well as several exciting business endeavors in the pipeline.   Alex bravely shares how she suffered through constant bullying in her younger years and the trauma she still carries because of it, the pain of feeling uncomfortable with your body, and how creating content has helped her find calmness, peace, and purpose. We talk about how gender equality remains a delicate subject, how women can help other women through various programs and campaigns, and how self respect is one of the things we owe to ourselves.  We also discuss how social media can heavily influence our thoughts and actions, how to set boundaries with it and for yourself, and why finding the right partner plays a big role in our success.Throughout the conversation, we learn that despite the many challenges we’ve faced and will face in the future, there’s no other way but to keep moving forward. Having the will to do so will help mold us to become a better version of ourselves.  What We Discuss:00:00:00 Intro00:04:56 What was your favorite thing about Italy?00:06:33 “I turned to making content as an escape.”00:18:01 We all go through similar experiences00:20:07 “I’m the same person…”00:25:54 The trauma of being bullied00:32:04 We are not equal to men?00:38:18 You can be mindful and determined00:43:32 What is your relationship with respect?00:55:20 Taking the show to a different level01:00:23 It’s okay if you don’t know things01:05:46 Dealing with hate comments01:12:34 When people assume you’re a bad friend01:23:54 Respecting the privacy of your partner01:30:55 What are you looking for in a partner?01:36:45 The Many Sides Of You01:42:25 Alex on Fast FiveEpisode ResourcesAlex Cooper | InstagramAlex Cooper | TwitterCall Her DaddyDo you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on CalmWant to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

3 Okt 20221h 46min