The Dildorks

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about collars: what they are, why people like them, and how to go about buying one, negotiating one, and wearing one! What is a Collar? | Kate’s First Collar | Gifting Collars | L’Amour-Propre | Old Guard | Bringing It Up | Play Collars | Negotiating Rules | Flagging | Touching | Doms | Double Duty Cuff | Reactions in Public | Necklaces & Day Collars | Inappropriate Situations | Complimenting Strangers | Contextualizing | Buying One For Yourself | Radical Self-Love Totem | Old Collars | Ceremonies | Non-Monogamy | Breakups | Wear & Tear | Aslan Leather | Eternity Collars | Locks & Keys | Collarversary Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

18 Feb 202056min

This week we’re joined by Ashe, the photographer extraordinaire behind Rose Glass Photos, who also happens to be Bex’s partner! We discuss how photography interacts with gender expression, kink, personal branding, and more. Butt Selfies | Marginalized Folks | Gender on Purpose | Perfection | Comfort vs. Awkwardness | Preparation | Shoot with Matt | Kinky Photographers | Giving Direction | Intoxication | Gendered Posing | Faces | Cameras | Social Media & Branding | Diversity | Sensitivity Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

11 Feb 20201h 6min

Play parties are so fun, but also confusing and scary at times! This week we’re demystifying the processes of finding play parties to attend, mentally preparing yourself to play, and putting together your party outfit. Sex or No Sex? | Finding Parties | Vetting | Not Kinky? | Alone vs. With People | Mental Prep | Logistics | Dress Codes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

4 Feb 202046min

This week we’re answering some of your big kink questions, including how to keep things casual in a kinky friendship-with-benefits and what to do when a top safewords! Pervy Purview | D/s FWB | Slut Protocols | Hobbies | IRL Fanfiction | Aftercare | Sub Drop | Giving Feedback | Tops Safewording Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

28 Jan 20201h

Let’s be cool and heat things up: this week we’re discussing temperature play!Weather | Sensation Play | Easy vs. Advanced | Ice | Topping | Risks | Wax | Toys | Enemas | Lube & Oil | Emotions | Safewording Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

21 Jan 202049min

What skills do bottoms develop that allow them to take more sensation, feel good about doing so, and make their tops happy? This week’s episode is all about bottoming skills, which are sometimes underacknowledged in the kink world. iTunes Reviews | Switching | Subbing vs. Bottoming | Bottoming Skills Workshop | Underrecognized | Masochism | Subspace | What You Want | Negotiation | Providing Data | Building the Playground | Pain Processing | Safewording | Expressiveness | Feedback | Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

15 Jan 20201h 11min

Vulvas and vaginas are great! This week we’re discussing our feelings about these widely venerated and vilified parts – both our own and other people’s. Vulva Collector | Our Own Bits | Vag vs. Dick | Queer Impostor Syndrome | Transferrable Skills | Sucking Clits | “Switching” Genders | More Complicated | Visual Representation | Vag Smells | Tightness | Aesthetics | Semantics | Sex Ed | Stigma & Shame | Labia Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

7 Jan 202052min

Happy New Year! This week we’re reviewing how our sex lives progressed in 2019, and looking forward to discuss our 2020 sex goals.You’re Wrong About | Overall Trends | Sex Ed | Decentering Sex | Bad Sex | Keeping Track | Number of Partners | Locations | Best Sex | Roleplay | Phone Sex | Topping | Hypno-Topping | Sex Toys | Sex Media | Last Year’s Goals | Passion Projects | Apologies | Submitting | New Orgasms | Dicks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

31 Des 20191h 5min