How Couples Can Strengthen Their Connection with Dr. Tara | Ep. 131 (Part 2)

Part 2 of my interview with Dr. Tara goes deeper into erotic solutions for long term relationships, techniques that rebuild desire and the practices couples use to reconnect without penetration. Dr. Tara breaks down yab yum, sexual meditation, mutual masturbation and the role lube plays in midlife pleasure. You learn why women respond differently to pressure, why adoration matters more than appreciation and why most couples never speak honestly about kink. Dr. Tara also explains sex parties, sex cruises, female ejaculation, squirting technique, cuckolding, hot wifing and how non monogamous couples build trust. This episode gives you practical tools to increase intimacy, try new experiences and communicate without fear.

Timestamps:

00:00 Part 2 intro

00:18 Why couples need more than toys

00:40 Erotic solutions for sexless marriages

01:05 Yab yum explained

02:02 How yab yum builds intimacy

02:45 Breathwork and skin-on-skin connection

03:20 Removing pressure and responsive desire

04:05 Why midlife women shut down sexually

04:42 The role of lube in midlife pleasure

05:20 How to give a yoni massage

06:10 Slip and slide technique with lube

06:45 Why receiving is hard for many women

07:20 Why hand jobs are powerful for connection

08:02 Using a vibrator while giving a hand job

08:40 Why giving can boost intimacy

09:20 Appreciation vs adoration

10:15 Why women need adoration to feel sexy

11:00 Emotional safety and sexual openness

11:32 How to ask for kink without scaring your partner

12:10 Using the media mention method for kink

12:52 Dr. Tara’s sexual profile

13:33 What “kinky” means for different people

14:10 What erotic parties are really like

15:02 Why sex parties are safer than nightclubs

15:45 The age differences at sex parties

16:12 Female led sex parties and sex cruises

17:05 Dr. Tara’s first sex party experience

17:40 Understanding squirting and female ejaculation

18:15 The technique that triggers squirting

19:02 Can you make yourself squirt

19:40 Cuckolding and hot wifing explained

20:10 How open couples build trust and connection

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

About the Guest:

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.

Connect with Dr Tara:

Website: https://www.luvbites.co

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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