Insecurities, Judgement, Behaviour and Self-Care with Alex Østergaard
Beyond Coding3 Maj 2023

Insecurities, Judgement, Behaviour and Self-Care with Alex Østergaard

Insecurities, everyone has them, but not everyone deals with them the same. And interestingly enough, behaviour and insecurities can originate from experiences you’ve had as a child.


This is one of the many takeaways I had from chatting with Alex Østergaard on this episode.

With an interest in coaching myself, it was a real pleasure to learn from his perspective and how he does things. Active listening, zero judgement and self-compassion being a few ingredients to his success.


Enjoy! 🎙


Connect with Alex Østergaard:

https://linkedin.com/in/alex-life-coach


Full episode on YouTube ▶️

https://youtu.be/u5xkR267WfA


New episodes every Wednesday with our host 🎙Patrick Akil!

Big shoutout to ⁠Xebia⁠ for making this episode possible!



OUTLINE:

00:00:00 - Intro

00:00:38 - Patrick's managers

00:01:42 - Resources to help with coaching

00:03:27 - How to build up trust

00:04:40 - No Judgement

00:06:03 - Criticism and drive

00:06:48 - Self-compassion

00:09:04 - Feeling of being not good enough

00:12:55 - Self-care

00:15:36 - Getting out of a slope

00:18:09 - Control how you feel

00:20:55 - Alex's LinkedIn profile is amazing

00:21:48 - Big Tech Tunnel Vision

00:24:18 - Toxic relationship with your company

00:25:50 - Weight of gold

00:26:47 - Fulfilment vs. compensation

00:28:52 - Self doubt and trusting yourself

00:32:38 - Patrick's past insecurities joining Xebia

00:35:38 - None of us know what we're doing

00:36:24 - What people think of you

00:38:26 - Fear of judgement

00:39:19 - Judgement from the podcast

00:40:30 - Asking for help

00:41:41 - 5 types of imposter syndrome

00:43:28 - Pride

00:45:37 - Behaviour explained through the past

00:47:30 - No one is to blame

00:49:00 - It's not right or wrong

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