EP92 - Who Should Fix Sexual Jealousy?

Welcome to episode 180 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am pleased to welcome Dr. Sunny Motamedi to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Motamedi talks to me about how religion affects people’s sexuality, the connection between shame and religion and steps you can take to heal sexual shame.      Dr. Motamedi is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and has been blessed to be conducting therapy for 20 years. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology and additional training in Marriage and Family Therapy. Throughout her training she has received training in a vast array of areas within psychology including trauma therapy, couples therapy, sex therapy and mindfulness.      Growing up in Iran, Dr. Motamedi has had a lifelong interest on the effects of culture and religion on sexuality.  She developed her unique method of body work that she uses on her clients, known as the Sunny Healing Method, a bottom-up approach.  She uses the body to release trauma from the tissue and different parts of the body through chakra opening, visualizations and affirmations.     Dr. Motamedi is actively practicing in California helping both couples and trauma survivors.     In this episode, you will hear:     How does religion affect people's sexuality?  The way in which religion can separate body and spirit  Looking at the connection between shame and religion   Seeking support and navigating through these issues   Steps you can take to heal sexual shame   Changes you’ll need to make in your life to make progress  How we can regulate our bodies   How a relationship can play a role in the healing process  Creating a safe space as a couple   Understanding the nature and beauty of truly seeing another person's soul   Determining what’s a good affirmation through this process         Find Dr. Motamedi online  https://www.sunnyhealingtherapy.com  https://www.instagram.com/drsunnymotamedi     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Celebrating One Million Downloads  To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Juni 202032min

Welcome to episode 179 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Miklos Hargitay to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Hargitay speaks to me about the issues of when your partner is sexually assaulted, how couples can work through this together and understanding the importance of communication.      Dr. Miklos Hargitay earned his PsyD from William James College in Clinical Psychology and his BA from the University of California -Santa Barbara in Anthropology. Dr. Hargitay has specialized training in trauma-informed therapy with survivors of sexual violence.     He has diverse clinical experience, including work in crisis centers, college counselling, and medical settings. Dr. Hargitay is committed to helping adults talk through difficult emotions and topics with compassion and care, such as anxiety and depression, trauma, relationships, and sex.     In this episode, you will hear:     The common sexual symptoms survivors may experience   Why sexual desire may increase after an assault   Questions the partner might have if their partner is a victim of abuse   How couples can work through this together   Looking at sensate focus   Looking out for triggers and how to overcome them   Learning to deal with sexual frustration if your partner isn’t comfortable to have sex yet  The importance of the fidelity agreement   Learning how to best communicate with your partner about these issues      Find Dr. Hargitay online  https://www.mtcollective.org/  Transformative Power of Sensate Focus    Celebrating One Million Downloads To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Juni 202027min

Welcome to episode 178 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Holly Richmond back to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about shame after sexual trauma, how survivors can regain their desire, learning to re-engage with positive sexual experiences and the importance of seeking out sex positive therapists.       Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). She is one of North America’s leading sex therapists serving Hollywood’s elite as well as prominent corporate clientele, nationally and internationally. With offices in New York, Los Angeles and Portland, Dr. Holly is a trusted authority on sexual health issues with a significant media following.     She is regularly quoted in publications and media outlets including The New York Times, CNN, Shape, NBC, Wired, Forbes, Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and Women’s Health. She is a sought-after consultant in the sex tech industry and is seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health and entertainment. Dr. Holly’s ‘Next-Sex’ platform and forthcoming book reflect her keen interest in the exploration of sex and technology, and how they work together as human sexuality evolves in the 21st century.     In this episode, you will hear:     Why do survivors experience shame around sex?  Misconceptions around the causes of rape   How people feel sexual shame after trauma in their bodies?  Learning to show up for your body   Navigating having positive sexual experiences   Unhealthy habits survivors can pick up   How desire disappears as survivors restrict their sexuality   Looking at sexual dysfunctions   Why it’s important to seek out a sex positive therapist         Find Dr. Holly online  http://drhollyrichmond.com  http://www.next-sex.com   Episode 106 with Dr. Holly     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Maj 202033min

Welcome to episode 177 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Anita Johnson. In this episode, she speaks with me about the issues of body shame, how it affects people’s lives and learning to change your relationship with your body from within.      Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon, which has been published in six languages. She is the co-creator of the online course, Light of the Moon Café which is an interactive “workbook” and women’s support circle for Eating in the Light of the Moon, and she is the author of a book chapters and other professional journal articles.     She has been working in the field of women’s issues and disordered eating for over 35 years and is currently the Clinical Director of ‘Ai Pono Hawaii which has outpatient eating disorder programs in Honolulu, the Big Island of Hawaii, and a residential treatment program in Maui.     Dr. Johnston provides individual consultations online, and conducts Soul Hunger workshops and professional trainings around the world, using metaphor and storytelling, along with her training as a clinical psychologist, to address the complex issues that underlie struggles with eating, weight, and body image.     In this episode, you will hear:     How body image shame affects people's lives   The way in which young women are exposed to many forms of sex before their first kiss  How we internalize sexual messaging in today’s culture   Knowing that you can set the pace for your sexual life   Why sex gets better as you get older   Learning to change your relationship with your body from within   Why if somebody is making negative comments about you, it’s says more about them than you  How we’re overcoming generations of sexual conditioning      Find Dr. Anita online  http://www.DrAnitaJohnston.com  http://www.LightoftheMoonCafe.com  Schoolgirls; Young Women, Self-Esteem, and the Confidence Gap  Episode 42 with Anita     Take the Sex Quiz for Women here:  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/ Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Maj 202042min

Welcome to episode 176 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Carolina Pataky to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Carolina speaks to me about virtual sex, ways in which people are having virtual sex in 2020, the importance of security and privacy and how to keep virtual sex playful.      Co-founder of the Love Discovery Institute, Dr. Carolina Pataky is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Clinical Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist. Recognized as one of South Florida’s leading authorities on intimacy, relationships and self-discovery. Her focus is to give individuals and couples of any sexual preference the tools to learn how to love themselves unconditionally, receive love, and create fulfilling and joyful relationships that will last a lifetime. Through private sessions, couples’ intensives and luxury retreats, she provides individual and couples coaching sessions, sex therapy, and psychotherapy practices that support clients through the journey of finding the right path to healthy love.        In This Episode You Will Hear:     How are people having virtual sex in 2020?  Knowing when it’s a good time to initiate virtual sex with a new partner?  Why it’s important to not assume what your partner may or may not feel around virtual sex   Overcoming fear of rejection   Setting yourself up for success   Looking at security and privacy issues, when is the right time to trust a new partner?  How to keep virtual sex playful and fun   Why less is more when it comes to virtual sex   Overcoming being self-conscious on camera   How to not have awkwardness after climaxing on a virtual sex call        Find Dr. Carolina here:    https://www.lovediscovery.org   https://twitter.com/carolinapataky     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Maj 202042min

Welcome to episode 175 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Amir Mohebbi to the podcast. In this episode Amir speaks with me about sex and medicine, looking at the side effects medications can have on your sex life and how to approach this issue with your physician.    Amir Mohebbi is a proud Iranian-American currently completing his psychiatry residency at St. Louis University. He trained under mentorship from world-renowned forensic psychiatrists, Drs. William J. Newman and Brian J. Holoyda, whom co=authored a review related to his interests in sleep medicine and forensics entitled “Sexsomnia as a Defense in Repeated Sex Crimes”.     Amir presented his work alongside an expert panel consisting of forensic psychiatrists at the American Psychiatric Association 175th Annual Meeting in San Francisco, CA. He earned his medical degree from St. Louis University and holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from the University of California, Irvine.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How common is it for anti-depressants to cause issues with sexuality?   Learning to accept medication as part of your sexual makeup   Taking a look at psychiatric medicines   Do men and women get the same side effects from medication?   How sex and masturbation can be used as a coping strategy   Looking at the side effects medicine can have on your sex life   The importance of finding the correct information in this area   How to approach this issue with a physician        Find Amir here:    EP163 – Sexsomonia      Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Maj 202035min

Welcome to episode 174 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I delve into the subject of experiencing orgasms, overcoming performance anxiety, the importance of communication and steps you can take to improve your orgasms.      In This Episode You Will Hear:     How anyone can achieve having great orgasms   Cultural factors that play into this issue   Steps you can take to improve orgasms   Analyzing how long this has been a problem  How a lack of sex education can lead to issues with orgasms   Are you getting aroused during sex?  Looking at the quality of your relationship with your partner   Can medication affect sexual performance?   How ageing affects our sex drive   The ways in which mental health can affect orgasms   The importance of giving good sexual feedback  Wanting to explore sexual areas your partner doesn’t   Learning to properly understand your body  Overcoming performance anxiety   Improving your communication skills           Resources:  Sex & Recreational Drug Use  Becoming Cliterate  Come As You Are     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Apr 202025min

Welcome to episode 173 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Rachel Needle to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Needle speaks with me about threesomes, how common fantasizing about them is, learning to manage your emotions and being honest about your motivation.      Dr. Rachel Needle is the founder and Executive Director of the Whole Health Psychological Center. She is a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and an entrepreneur. Dr. Needle has specialized training in the areas of Substance Use Disorder, Trauma, Sex, and Relationships. She received her M.S. and Psy.D. in clinical psychology from Nova Southeastern University, her B.A. in psychology from Barnard College, Columbia University, and completed an internship in clinical psychology at University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey: Robert Wood Medical School in Piscataway, New Jersey.     Dr. Needle is an Adjunct Professor of Psychology in the Department of Behavioral Sciences, in the Masters in Forensic Psychology, and in the Doctorate in Criminal Justice programs at Nova Southeastern University. She is the founder and CEO of the Advanced Mental Health Training Institute and Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes which provide continuing education, certifications, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology to Mental Health and Medical professionals and Sex Therapists around the world.     Dr. Needle has presented her research and clinical work at national and international conferences. She is often interviewed by and quoted in national media outlets. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Details, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Details, and Shape, and papers including the Washington Post and the Palm Beach Post. She has written several articles for Glamour Magazine’s online Blog: Smitten.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How common are threesome fantasies?   Deciding when it’s a good time to act on these fantasies   The way in which we have a blurred view of threesomes because of porn   Learning to manage your emotions   Understanding the challenges of having a threesome   How the fantasy might be more attractive than the reality   Where to find a third partner   Recommendations for managing jealousy around threesomes   Being honest about your motivation   Understanding it’s a process and not to give up if you didn’t enjoy the first time         Find Dr. Needle here:   www.drrachel.com  www.modernsextherapyinstitutes.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Apr 202030min