EP92 - Who Should Fix Sexual Jealousy?

Welcome to episode 166 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Menije Boduryan-Turner to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Menije speaks with me about sexual orientation OCD, distinguishing between anxiety and sexual arousal and looking at what treatment entails.     Dr. Menije of Embracing You Therapy is a leading expert on OCD who is passionate about helping you be in charge of your life, not OCD. In therapy, her goal is to break the cycle and help her clients regain their power and strength. Dr. Menije works collaboratively with her clients to tolerate the comfort, the unknown, and the uncertainty. Dr. Menije knows that her clients are completely capable of busting out of their comfort zone, taking ownership of their dreams, and creating a new sense of self.     Dr. Menije is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Los Angeles, CA. She has been treating OCD and OCD Spectrum Disorders since 2012. She completed the Behavioral Training offered by the International OCD Foundation’s Training Institute. She utilizes Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), which are both evidence-based treatment for anxiety disorders.       In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is sexual orientation OCD?  How many times this issue can go undiagnosed   Why sexual arousal to the opposite of your orientation doesn’t automatically make you gay /straight /bi   How does one distinguish between sexual orientation OCD versus being gay and in denial?  Looking at the issue of denial   How our sexualities are fluid and not set in stone   How can one distinguish between anxiety and sexual arousal?  What are some of the common misconceptions about sexual orientation OCD?  The role anxiety plays around this issue   What does the treatment entail?  Making sure your therapist is a specialist in OCD     Resources: How OCD Can Affect Your Sex Life Sex and OCD   Find Dr. Menije here:   https://embracingyoutherapy.com   https://www.instagram.com/dr.menije     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Mars 202031min

Welcome to episode 165 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we have a solo episode where we hear from listeners about their experiences of sexual fantasies, erectile dysfunction and coming out later in life.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Learning to not add unnecessary pressure to yourself   Looking at achievements we to aim for in relationships   Understanding and talking about the monogamous agreement   Making long distance relationships successful   Understanding your sexual fantasies   Ways you can play out your fantasies   Approaching your partner with your fantasies  Looking at erectile dysfunction and what can be done   The importance of seeing a sex therapist to overcome sexual issues   Exploring mutual masturbation   Looking at premature ejaculation and it’s causes  How you can improve upon premature ejaculation  How longer intercourse doesn’t always mean better sex   Coming out later in life   Recognizing signs that you might be gay and how you can come out earlier in life    References Sexology Podcast EP133: Penile Implant Surgery with Dr. Jeffrey Loh-Doyle Sexology Podcast EP58: Keeping a Long Distance Relationship Hot Huffpost: 11 Sex Tips For People In Long-Distance Relationships   Download my new ebook, How to Increase Your Libido - For Women, for free!  https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/   25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Feb 202036min

Welcome to episode 164 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD to the show. In this episode Dr. Jen speaks with me about reconnecting with your sexual self, why people feel discomfort around sex and looking at the main motivators for sex.     Sociologist and intimacy coach, Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is the author of the new book, From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Dr. Jenn is a national speaker on sexual consent, couples intimacy, women’s empowerment, gender communication, erotic play, and mindful sex.     She has presented two TEDx Talks, is the co-host of the podcast Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc, and has over 1.6 million hits on her In the Den with Dr. Jenn YouTube video series.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Why sex matters?  What are some of the messages that contribute to people feeling discomfort with sexuality?  The importance of critical thinking   How can we expand our comfort zone around sex?  Ways in which we can honor own bodies through sex  What are some of the main reasons that motivate people to have sex and which ones are often more present in a long-term relationship?  Looking at sexual archetypes and how one can discover their sexual archetype     25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Jen here:   https://www.drjennsden.com   From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Feb 202035min

Welcome to episode 163 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Molly Winterrowd to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Winterrowd speaks with me about how attitudes and beliefs impact the quality of our sex lives, creating more space in your life for sex and how to know if we need a sexual attitude adjustment.   Dr. Molly Winterrowd is an advocate in providing affirmative care, is dedicated to creating a safe space where individuals and partners experiencing challenges with their sexuality or gender are able to explore these aspects openly and honestly with care and compassion. Dr. Winterrowd believes that individuals are courageously vulnerable in therapy, and it is a privilege to be trusted to explore others’ deepest needs. In our work together, she helps to navigate how to fulfill these needs most functionally within clients’ lives. Dr. Winterrowd strives to create a safe space where open communication and honesty are welcomed and embraces a holistic approach that combines various therapies to help individuals and couples achieve greater levels of satisfaction in their relationships as well as lives.     Currently, Dr. Winterrowd is a Postdoctoral Fellow in Human Sexuality at the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health and is devoted to helping clients to overcome sexual and relationship challenges by improving the connection with partners, enhancing relational intimacy by focusing on desires, and identifying new ways in which to bond that fulfill each person’s needs. Dr. Winterrowd helps individuals navigate the physical and emotional process encountered by sexual pain challenges, erectile dysfunction, or struggling with out of control sexual behaviors that are causing emotional pain and difficulties in their relationships. Dr. Winterrowd received her Bachelors of Arts Degree in Psychology and Comparative Sociology from University of Puget Sound, her Master of Arts Degree in Clinical Psychology from George Fox University, and Doctoral Degree in Clinical Psychology from George Fox University.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How does one’s attitudes and beliefs impact the quality of her/his sex life?  What are some of the limiting beliefs that you have come across in your clients who are struggling with sexual dysfunction?  How creating more space for sex can lead to better sexual experiences   How does our language impact our sexual attitudes?  The correlation between the way we consume food and sex   How does one assess if her/his attitudes are getting in the way of a fulfilling sex life?  Looking at the benefits of sexual examination and exploration  How do we know if we need a sexual attitude adjustment?      25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Winterrowd here:   https://sextherapyhawaii.com     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Feb 202036min

Welcome to episode 162 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Amir Mohebbi to the podcast. In this episode Amir speaks with me about Sexsomnia, the behavioral patterns around this issue and what treatment can look like.     Amir Mohebbi is a proud Iranian-American currently completing his psychiatry residency at St. Louis University. He trained under mentorship from world-renowned forensic psychiatrists, Drs. William J. Newman and Brian J. Holoyda, whom co=authored a review related to his interests in sleep medicine and forensics entitled “Sexsomnia as a Defense in Repeated Sex Crimes”.     Amir presented his work alongside an expert panel consisting of forensic psychiatrists at the American Psychiatric Association 175th Annual Meeting in San Francisco, CA. In 2020, he will join a panel consisting of sleep medicine experts at the SLEEP 2020 conference hosted by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and the Sleep Research Society in Philadelphia, PA. He earned his medical degree from St. Louis University and holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from the University of California, Irvine.       In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is Sexsomnia?   Looking at the behaviors people are showing and engaging in   Sexual acts people can perform in their sleep   Looking at this through a psychiatric lens  What treatment for Sexsomnia looks like   The relationship between this condition and criminal law   How this issue stretches back hundreds of years   Why lawyers are very skeptical of Sexsomnia   Evaluations that can be made around Sexsomnia   Taking a look at ictal orgasms     25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Amir here:   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29618539    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Feb 202034min

Welcome to episode 161 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Carol Queen, PhD to the podcast. In this episode Carol speaks with me about overcoming sexual shyness, things we can do to expand our horizons and tools we can add to our sexual toolbox.     Carol Queen is an American author, editor, sociologist and sexologist active in the sex-positive feminism movement. Queen has written on human sexuality in books such as Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture. She has written a sex tutorial, Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot, as well as erotica, such as the novel The Leather Daddy and the Femme.     Queen has produced adult movies, events, workshops and lectures. Queen was featured as an instructor and star in both instalments of the Bend Over Boyfriend series about female-to-male anal sex, or pegging. She has also served as editor for compilations and anthologies.   In This Episode You Will Hear:     The ways in which people experience sexual pleasure  How people integrate their sexuality into relationships  Looking at various we can give and receive pleasure  How we can more tools to our sexual toolbox  Building good compatibility with good communication   Where does our sexual shyness come from?  Getting over our sexual shyness  How erotic audiobooks can expand our sexual horizons   Looking at our fantasies and how they play out  Why going too far outside your comfort zone isn’t always the best thing    25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Carol here:   https://carolqueen.com   https://twitter.com/carolqueen    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Jan 202038min

Welcome to episode 160 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Ela Darling to the podcast. In this episode Ela speaks with me about how she became involved in virtual reality porn, it’s social implications and how she sees it expanding in the future.     Ela Darling is a former librarian who has since become the leading voice in the intersection of Virtual Reality and the Adult Industry. As the world's first VR camgirl, Darling is a pioneer in the field of Virtual Reality pornography, having worked with a variety of elite adult companies, on both sides of the camera.     After a decade as an adult film performer, she is now the Director of Marketing for ViRo Club, a private, inclusive, judgement-free adult VR play space.      In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Ela went from being a librarian to working in the adult movie industry   What is Virtual Reality porn?  How did Ela transition to webcamming?   The impact bringing the camera into the experience has for VR porn   Taking a look at Telidildonics  Who are the people watching VR porn?  Looking at the content of VR porn   The importance of the plot within porn   How Ela see’s this technology expanding in the future  The social implications of VR  Looking at the pros and cons of VR as it grows         25 Ways to Increase Desire https://www.oasis2care.com/opt-in 101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Ela here:   https://twitter.com/eladarling  https://viro.club     Find me on social media: To celebrate Sexology’s 3rd anniversary, we are giving away great items this month. Follow me on Instagram to find out more! https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Jan 202042min

Welcome to episode 159 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Barbara Carrellas to the podcast. In this episode Barbara speaks to me about Tantra, how you can enjoy it with a partner and we also take a look at Energygasms and Sex Magic.     Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®, a hot and healing approach to sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century—now in its second edition, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving.     She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra workshops, and received a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London. She is a proud graduate of the Coney Island Sideshow School with a double major in fire eating and snake handling.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is Tantra?  Ways you can approach Tantra?  How can one enjoy tantric sex with a partner? What are some of the rituals involved?  Learning how to slow our minds and bodies down  Looking at breathing exercises   Are men able to maintain erections with Tantra?  Why erections alone are not the focus point  What is an Energygasm? How can one achieve it?  The relationship between energy and thought  What is sex magic and how can that be a form of relaxation?     25 Ways to Increase Desire https://www.oasis2care.com/opt-in 101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Barbara here:   https://barbaracarrellas.com/    Find me on social media:  To celebrate Sexology's 3rd anniversary, we are giving away great items this month. Follow me on Instagram to find out more! https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Jan 202040min