EP162 - Can You Have Sex in Your Sleep?

Welcome to episode 318 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Hayley Quinn. In this episode, we discuss how couples in long term relationships can take advantage of sexting, the importance of consent when sexting, and how you can learn to develop your erotic vocabulary.  Dating coach Hayley Quinn’s original content, active social media presence, and unique delivery style helps global brands connect to a new audience and drive engagement.   Hayley has worked with numerous premium brands from Neutrogena, to Match, to Glamour, Logitech G, Ogilvy and Hotels.com. Hayley’s skills as a broadcast presenter, mean she can act as an experienced “safe pair of hands” to represent your brand on radio days, TV segments or social media content. She is a skilled copywriter and regularly works with brands to hone their press releases and provides expertise on how to utilize dating content to get your brand into the media. She is also a highly experienced public speaker who can engage on live events, and panels.   As well as being an internationally recognized dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Hayley is a published author. Her debut fiction book “The Last First Date” (Harper Collins) and non-fiction “Do This, Not That: Dating” (Simon & Schuster) are due for publication in January 2023.   Hayley has appeared on TV and radio shows across the UK, USA and beyond: providing lively debate and content on love and dating. She’s appeared on shows ranging from BBC News, to Celebs Go Dating, to The Apprentice and is a safe pair of hands for live TV and broadcast. She is also experienced helping behind the scenes with show content.     In this episode, you will hear:   How couples in long term relationships can take advantage of sexting Seducing your partner via sexting  The way in which sexting can help recapture desire Why audio and voice notes might be the best tool for you to use Security measures you can take if sending sexy pictures The importance of consent when sexting Context is key! Take things one step at a time  Learning to develop your erotic vocabulary  Bridging the gap if one partner is more confident than the other sexting  The need and importance of positive reinforcement   Cozy Earth This week's episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

24 Jan 202333min

Welcome to episode 317 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Sebastian Harris. In this episode, we discuss how you can keep a long term relationship hot, the importance of seduction, tips on how you can get better at seducing your partner and how to create more space in your relationship to allow for sexy time!  Sebastian Harris is a dating coach and sex coach who is on a mission to help men to live more fulfilling dating and sex lives.     In this episode, you will hear:   What inspired Sebastian to write his book Rise of the Phoenix: How to Get the Hottest Girls in a World That Wants You to Fail Keeping a long-term relationship hot  Why it’s important for you to seduce your partner Mistakes men often make when it comes to seduction  How it’s easy to get lazy in a long-term relationship  Tips on ways to break out of the laziness  Steps you can take to really turn your partner on Keeping communication open so you can be honest about what is and isn’t working Creating space in your relationship to allow for sexy time  Looking at the pillars of seductive touch   Cozy Earth This week's episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Jan 202351min

Welcome to episode 316 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. David J. Ley to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss cuckolding, analyzing the misconceptions, the role that cuckold porn plays and, tips and suggestions on how you can explore cuckolding.  David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was the first book to examine the cuckolding and hotwife phenomenon.  With Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, he published the first psychological study of the cuckold fantasy. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, as well as Hustler and Playboy magazines.      In this episode, you will hear:   How David became interested in Cuckolding How is Cuckolding defined? The difference between Cuckolding and Hotwifing  Analyzing the misconceptions around Cuckolding  Looking at what makes up healthy sexuality  The role that masturbation plays in this issue Who initiates Cuckolding? How Cuckold porn is one of the most popular categories  Ways in which people are now rejecting shame How Cuckolding is losing its stigma  Tips and suggestions on how you can explore Cuckolding   Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/to/JaOWt8CM  Please take a few minutes to complete this survey to help us curate content that is relevant to your needs.  Emjoy  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI  Emjoy is a wellbeing audio app empowering women on their journey to sexual happiness with content that has been designed with licensed sex therapists, sex coaches and experts from various fields, such as mindfulness. Sexology listeners can use the app for 14 days free by using the link above.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

10 Jan 202348min

Welcome to episode 315 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special solo episode where we discuss the issue of if your parent's sexual trauma be passed down to you, understanding how sexual trauma works, the role that epigenetics plays in this issue and the importance of having time to breath and regroup following trauma.  We also discuss ways you can make sexy new year's resolutions for 2023, how you can communicate with your partner about things you would like to improve or explore in your relationship and understanding what a real sexy win for yourself would be in 2023.      In this episode, you will hear:   A look back at the last six years of Sexology Podcast Plans for 2023 and future episodes Answering a question from a listener about sexual trauma  Understanding how sexual trauma can be passed on from parent to child The role that epigenetics plays in this issue  Looking at studies from other people affected by trauma and traumatic events The importance of having time to breath and regroup following trauma How the book “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” is a great resource on this subject matter Ways you can make sexy new year's resolutions for 2023 How you can communicate with your partner about things you would like to improve or explore in your relationship Ways you can be successful in following through on a resolution  Understanding what a real sexy win for yourself would be in 2023 Knowing when the right time is to see a Sex Therapist or Sex Coach Understanding the differences between a Sex Therapist and Sex Coach Forging the road ahead to your sexy new goals  Survey Please take a few minutes to complete this survey to help us curate content that is relevant to your needs. https://help373205.typeform.com/to/JaOWt8CM  Emjoy  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI   Emjoy is a wellbeing audio app empowering women on their journey to sexual happiness with content that has been designed with licensed sex therapists, sex coaches and experts from various fields, such as mindfulness. Sexology listeners can use the app for 14 days free by using the link above.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Jan 202333min

Welcome to episode 314 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jason Julius to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss oral sex, the common mistakes men make when giving oral sex, analyzing tongue movements, and the best positions to take for oral sex.  Jason Julius is a sex coach with over 15 years of experience teaching couples all over the world how to have incredible experiences in the bedroom. Surprised with how little information there is in the mainstream world around sex, female orgasms, and sexual performance Jason sought out uncommon techniques and practices that would help the average man or woman elevate their intimate experiences.  Jason is known for creating a clean, respectful, mature, intelligent conversation around having great sex. Jason wanted to create a place for people to discover a deeper level of understanding, especially when it comes to the mental aspects of female orgasms.  Jason began posting intimate details of his experiences and has since amassed a loyal following on YouTube of others seeking a deeper understanding of what it takes to be an amazing lover. Frustrated by the negative beliefs that are perpetuated by the adult film industry, Jason separates what he teaches by creating content without nudity, done in a tasteful way that reaches people who are genuinely looking to please their partner and have more confidence in themselves when it comes to sex.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Jason became involved in this line of work The importance of being present with your partner during oral sex Should you use breath as teasing? The common mistakes men make when giving oral sex What gets in the way of men experiencing enthusiasm  Understanding the more you give the more you get back Analyzing tongue movements  How sexy language can amplify the experience further  Do men care about the shape of vulvas?  Looking at squirting  The best positions to take for oral sex What’s a reasonable amount of time for a man to give oral sex? Is face sitting enjoyable?  OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors  OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

27 Dec 202246min

Welcome to episode 313 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Kathryn LaRoche to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the misconceptions around contraception, taking care of yourself if you think you’re pregnant and ways in which men can support their partners.  Dr. Kathryn J. LaRoche, PhD, MSc is an Assistant Professor of Public Health at Purdue University. She is a public health social scientist and applied anthropologist who carries out community-engaged, action- and intervention-oriented research about sexual and reproductive health with a focus on abortion and pregnancy.   She has published her work extensively in journals like Contraception and Women’s Health Issues, and she has led and contributed to projects in Canada, Australia, and the United States.   In 2022, she received the Carole Joffe and Stanley Henshaw Early Achievement in Social Science Research Award from the National Abortion Federation for her contribution to generating abortion-related knowledge.      In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the misconceptions around contraception  How there isn’t a one size fits all solution  The educational issues around contraception Ways you can take care of yourself if you think you’re pregnant  Navigating abortion in areas of the world where it’s not legal  Understanding there are professional organizations who can help you How to properly deal with an unplanned pregnancy  Making sure you communicate effectively with your partner Ways in which young men can support their partners  OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors   OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Dec 202249min

Welcome to episode 312 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Ashley Townes to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss virginity, the social construct and values around virginity, the importance of safety and prevention, and how you can create a better construct and narrative around virginity.  Dr. Ashley Townes (she/her/hers) is a sexuality educator and researcher. As a native of Cincinnati, Ohio, she attended the University of Cincinnati, where she earned both her Bachelor of Science and Master of Public Health degrees. She later earned a PhD in Health Behavior and Epidemiology from Indiana University-Bloomington.   Dr. Townes has over 15 years of experience providing sexuality education across a variety of academic and public health entities. Dr. Townes currently works in a postdoctoral research role in Atlanta, GA. Ashley’s research focuses on the sexual experiences of Black women, including partnered experiences, accessing health information, and utilizing sexual health services.   As a young investigator, she has been a part of at least 15 peer-reviewed publications, serves on the Editorial Board for the American Journal of Sexuality Education, contributes to the Live Alive Wellness Blog created by Pure Romance, and has been featured in a variety of media, including Mind Body Green, Woman’s Day, Cosmopolitan, and MTV News). Her career interests are aimed at providing quality sexuality information and working towards health equity.      In this episode, you will hear:   How is virginity defined? Looking at the issue of “repairing virginity”  Understanding the social construct and values around virginity  Analyzing the female hymen  Creating a better construct and narrative around virginity  Improving your sexual experiences as you encounter them for the first time How communication is key to unlocking better sexual experiences Safety first! Make sure your fully up to speed with condoms and prevention   OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors   OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Dec 202236min

Welcome to episode 311 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons to the podcast. In this episode, we look at racial trauma, how it impacts men and women differently, and how our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure.  Dr. Candice Hargons (she/her) is an award-winning associate professor in the counseling psychology program at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and healing racial trauma – all with a love ethic. She is the PI of the SAMHSA funded Neighborhood Healers Project, which seeks to advance mental health literacy and utilization among Black Lexingtonians.  She is also a co-I on projects funded by NIDA, HRSA, and NIMHD examining substance use outcomes, treatment, and sexual health disparities. Additionally, she leads the Big Sex Study, a mixed methods, community-based participatory action research project investigating Black sexual wellness.  She is the founding director of the Center for Healing Racial Trauma, and the host of the How to Love a Human Podcast. Her new sexual liberation podcast, F*ck the System, launches January 2023.        In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at racial trauma  The different impacts of racial trauma between men and women Understanding sexual liberation  How our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure  Analyzing the orgasm gap  How is pleasure defined? Practice makes perfect! How you can continue to improve your sex life over time Discovering your sexual identity  Looking at sex in deep and intimate relationships  Exploring and cultivating fantasies  Recommendations for parents improving their sex lives  OMGyes  Thank you to our sponsor OMGYES! OMGYES.com is a website devoted to sexual pleasure for people with vulvas and their partners. OMGYES conducts and publishes the first-ever nationally representative large-scale studies about specific pleasure strategies, in partnership with Indiana University and Kinsey Institute researchers. See for yourself and get a discount at – https://OMGyes.com/sexology  Clinicians, therapists and nurses get free personal access to OMGYES. Just email therapists@omgyes.com from your work email address with a link to your professional profile. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Dec 202231min