EP177 - Conquering Body Shame with Dr. Anita Johnston

Welcome to episode 58 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about the common challenges long distance relationships place on sexual relations, establishing and understanding boundaries and using technology to stay sexual in a long-distance relationship. Dana works with English-speaking adults and adolescents, providing individual counseling and psychotherapy, couples and relationship counseling, and group therapy.  She specializes in working with expats, international students, and others living abroad (both adults and adolescents) who are struggling with emotional and psychological difficulties and who want to develop greater self-awareness and self-compassion, feel more grounded, and develop more meaningful and satisfying connections with those around them. She also specializes in working with intercultural couples and couples whose relationships have been impacted by their life abroad.  An expat herself, she moved to Lyon from Pennsylvania in 2014 to join her French partner. Before they met in graduate school, she never dreamed of moving to France — but now here she is, on an international adventure!  Dana's specialization in working with expats and intercultural couples has emerged from her own life experience. Still navigating her own expat journey every day, she knows that life abroad is full of both adventures and many (many!) challenges. However, she also believes that this experience of living abroad — which takes us out of our element and calls into question many things we have taken for granted about ourselves and the world — can provide us with truly unique opportunities to learn about ourselves and to grow both as individuals and in our relationships.  In this episode, you will hear: Dana’s answers to a listener’s email on remaining sexual in a long-distance relationship The common challenges long distance relationships place on sexual relations Learning to be mindful of your partners life in a different country and scheduling time Developing trust in a long-distance relationship Knowing what you want from the relationship Establishing and understanding boundaries The importance of fine tuning better communication Using technology to stay sexual in a long-distance relationship Dana’s personal recommendations to overcoming the obstacles of a long-distance relationship Resources http://www.dananelsoncounseling.com/mindful-expat-podcast/ http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/07/18/sex-and-intercultural-relationships-ft-dr-dana-nelson/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Feb 201844min

Welcome to episode 57 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Sandra L. Brown, M.A who talks to us about why people develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder, what causes NPD, anti-social PD and psychopathy and recommendations on what to do if you find yourself in a pathological relationship. Sandra L. Brown, M.A., is the founder of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education.  She is a former psychotherapist in the field of psychopathology and trauma survivor treatment, community educator on the intersections of Mental Illness, Personality Disorders, Violence, and Recidivism.  She is a clinical lecturer and trainer, TV and radio guest, and an author. Her books include the highly popular How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, the award-winning Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists, as well as the clinically relevant Counseling Victims of Violence: A Handbook for Helping Professionals. Sandra is recognized for her pioneering work in women's issues related to relational harm from dangerous, toxic, and pathological partners.  She specializes in the development of Pathological (Toxic) Love Relationship training based on her theory development for other professionals and the development of survivor-based support and treatment services. The Institute is the only formal clinical Model-of-Care approach for survivors and offers the largest available array of products and services related to this population.  Her books, CD's, DVD's, and other training materials have been used as curriculum in drug rehabs, women's organizations and shelters, women's jail and prison programs, school and college-based programs, inner city projects, psychology and sociology programs, and distributed in almost every country of the world. Her books have been translated into several languages. She is the founder and current president of the first professional national Association for NPD/Psychopathy Survivors Treatment, Research, and Education and is a private Trauma Consultant, and advocate for survivors seeking justice. In this episode, you will hear:   What is a Pathological Love Relationship? How is it different from other relationships? Why people develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder? What causes NPD, anti-social PD and psychopathy? Red flags to look out for if a relationship is pathological Who do pathological partners target? What happens to survivors from PLRs? Recommendations on what to do if you find yourself in a pathological relationship   Resources www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com https://survivortreatment.com http://floridapsychotherapy.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Feb 201834min

Welcome to episode 56 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Ken Page who speaks to me about falling in love with people who aren’t good for us, becoming more self-assured and emotionally available and learning to attract people who love you for who you really are. Ken Page, LCSW, is a renowned psychotherapist, leading Psychology Today blogger, Huffington Post blogger and author of the bestseller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. He has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Fox News, WPIX-TV News and more. Ken has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants. He has taught at Columbia University, the Omega Institute and the Garrison Institute. Before writing his book, Page founded Deeper Dating in 2004; an event in which trained facilitators shared the insights of Deeper Dating and then led participants in a series of fun and enriching exercises. The live events he led provided an alternative to the bar scene and superficial dating events and drew thousands of men and women of all ages, backgrounds and sexual orientations. His work has been highly acclaimed by numerous top thought leaders, including Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Arielle Ford, Edward Hallowell, MD, Chip Conley, and Judith Orloff, MD. Katherine Woodward Thomas, New York Times bestselling author of Calling in The One and Conscious Uncoupling says, “Ken Page is my new relationship guru!” In this episode, you will hear:  Why do we fall in love with people who aren’t good for us? Becoming more self-assured and emotionally available How long you should keep dating to see if there’s a spark for a relationship? Making sure to be your most authentic self when finding a partner Losing your taste for relationships that chip away at your self-esteem The importance and concept of the wave Learning to attract people who love you for who you really are   To book an appointment with Dr. Moali (50% Discount until Valentine’s day) please visit – https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal    Resources http://deeperdating.com   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

30 Jan 201843min

Welcome to episode 55 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined again by Dr. Sharon Cohen who talks to us about why sexual chemistry is a necessity for any relationship to thrive, learning to enjoy the stability of relationships and the technological impacts that apps like Tinder have had on modern relationships. Dr. Sharon Cohen is a Relationship and Love Consultant in Newport Beach, California. She works with women who can’t seem to find the right relationship or who aren’t sure they are in the right relationship. Sometimes clients who come to her are ready to give up on love. She helps them have supportive, committed, deeply loving relationships with a man who ROCKS THEIR WORLD. Her vision of success is that all women who want to be will be in relationships of ever-lasting love with their “meant-to-be” partners, feeling connected and loved. Her primary mission is to help women gain the skills to attract and keep long-lasting love. A sub-set of that mission is to get women inspired to attract the love they desire. Her expertise and life experiences support in sparking awareness and prompting change in her clients. Using an educational and action-oriented program, Dr. Sharon’s clients see their interactions and relationships in a whole new light. With this new-found awareness, her clients free themselves from their past mistakes in their dating, relationships, and life so they can now relax into love. She has a background in psychotherapy and now works as a consultant, ready to offer you expert advice as to what it is you are doing wrong. Her experience is that the clients who are coming to see her don’t know what it is they are doing that isn’t working and they are ready to get that guidance. She currently sees clients in her office, on “walk & talks” outside of the office and via phone calls for people who aren’t in the local area.   In this episode, you will hear:   The underlying reasons we go back to unhealthy relationships Why sexual chemistry is a necessity for any relationship to thrive Learning to enjoy the stability of relationships The amount of time you should give to a person before deciding it’s not working Technological impacts that apps like Tinder have had on modern relationships Giving time to become attracted to a person’s personality The warning signs to look for when going on dates with strangers   Complimentary Breakthrough to Deep Love phone consultation - write Dr. Sharon at sharon@drsharoncohen.com and say you heard about this offer through Sexology podcast.  Resources http://drsharoncohen.com sharon@drsharoncohen.com www.facebook.com/drsharoncohen   To book an appointment with Dr. Moali (50% Discount until Valentine’s day) please visit – https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal       Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

23 Jan 201832min

Welcome to episode 54 of the Sexology Podcast. Today’s show mark’s the one year anniversary since beginning the podcast and thank you for all of your support and feedback to the show, it is truly appreciated.   In this episode, we recap highlights of some of the best interviews from the last year, featuring pearls of wisdom from:   Dr. Albert Wong (Episode 01) Dr. Barbach (Episode 06) Dr. Emily Nagoski (Episode 10) Dr. Patti Britton (Episode 14) Dr. Jen (Episode 15) Laurie Watson, LMFT (Episode 19) Renelle Nelson, LMFT (Episode 21) Dr. Lanae (Episode 30) Dr. Laurie Mintz (Episode 39) Dr. Pomeranz (Episode 41) Dr. Anita Johnson (Episode 42)   To book an appointment with me (50% Discount until valentine’s day) please visit - https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   Resources https://www.sexologypodcast.com https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Jan 201832min

Welcome to episode 53 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Dr. Sharon Cohen who talks to us about how to decide if you are emotionally ready to have sex with your date, putting communication at the heart of your relationship and the importance of negotiation when it comes to consensual sexual activity.   Dr. Sharon Cohen is a Relationship and Love Consultant in Newport Beach, California. She works with women who can’t seem to find the right relationship or who aren’t sure they are in the right relationship. Sometimes clients who come to her are ready to give up on love. She helps them have supportive, committed, deeply loving relationships with a man who ROCKS THEIR WORLD.   Her vision of success is that all women who want to be will be in relationships of ever-lasting love with their “meant-to-be” partners, feeling connected and loved. Her primary mission is to help women gain the skills to attract and keep long-lasting love.   A sub-set of that mission is to get women inspired to attract the love they desire. Her expertise and life experiences support in sparking awareness and prompting change in her clients. Using an educational and action-oriented program, Dr. Sharon’s clients see their interactions and relationships in a whole new light. With this new-found awareness, her clients free themselves from their past mistakes in their dating, relationships, and life so they can now relax into love.   She has a background in psychotherapy and now works as a consultant, ready to offer you expert advice as to what it is you are doing wrong. Her experience is that the clients who are coming to see her don’t know what it is they are doing that isn’t working and they are ready to get that guidance.   She currently sees clients in her office, on “walk & talks” outside of the office and via phone calls for people who aren’t in the local area.       In this episode, you will hear:   How to decide if you are emotionally ready to have sex with your date? How can you assess the partner is ready? Reestablishing sexual boundaries after they’ve gone too far Putting communication at the heart of your relationship Learning to communicate more face to face and less via texting How long we should continue going out with someone when there is no sexual chemistry? The importance of negotiation when it comes to consensual sexual activity   If you are a listener of the Sexology podcast, one of the best ways to support our show is to leave us an honest review on iTunes. Those that give us an honest review on iTunes during January 2018 will be eligible for a Free T shirt during the month on January. All you need to do is to take a screenshots of your review and post it at one of the following social media platforms:   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care   You can also email the screen shot to us at drmoali@sexologypodcast.com    Resources http://drsharoncohen.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Jan 201835min

Welcome to episode 52 of Sexology Podcast. Today, I am delighted to welcome Dr. Nickie D. Phillips. Nickie is an associate professor of criminal justice at St. Francis College, Brooklyn, NY where she teaches courses that include criminology, criminal justice, crime and media, and victimology. She is director of the Center for Crime and Popular Culture serving scholars, students, and laypersons interested in issues pertaining to the intersection of crime, social control, and popular culture. The Center sponsors special events, lectures, and guest speakers on campus, each geared toward understanding how cultural artifacts shape and reflect public attitudes toward offenders, victims, and the operations of the criminal justice system. Nickie received her Ph.D. from City University of New York Graduate Center in 2006 and holds a M.A. in Forensic Psychology from John Jay College of Criminal Justice. Her research interests include media and crime, crime and popular culture, and sexual violence. She is author of Beyond Blurred Lines: Rape Culture in Popular Media (Rowman and Littlefield, 2017) and co-author of Comic Book Crime: Truth, Justice, and the American Way (NYU Press, 2013), the latter of which examined representations of crime and justice in contemporary American comics books through the lens of cultural criminology. In this episode, you will hear: The evolution of rape culture during the past decade. The concept of rape culture in television, gaming and comic books. The normalization of violence against women in media. How #Metoo movement breaks the silence of ongoing sexual harassments in our society. Potential backlash of #MeToo movement. Empowering the victims of sexual harassment. Methods for ending rape culture Resources http://www.sfc.edu/academics/institutescenters/popculture https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781442246270/Beyond-Blurred-Lines-Rape-Culture-in-Popular-Media# https://www.amazon.com/Comic-Book-Crime-Alternative-Criminology/dp/0814767885 nphillips@sfc.edu Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Jan 201837min

Welcome to episode 51 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Deborah Beaumont. We talk about how cancer diagnosis may affect an individual’s sexuality and sex life, the effects it can have a survivors’ intimate relationships and coping mechanisms recommended to improve their sexual health.   Deborah Beaumont is an Advanced Practice Registered Nurse and two-time cancer survivor. After her last experience with cancer (bilateral breast cancer) and multiple complications from treatments she was frustrated with conventional medicine telling he the only thing she could do to prevent another recurrence of cancer was to take prescriptions, get yearly check-ups and hope for the best that it didn't return. Feeling there was a need to know about more about prevention and making treatment decisions that supported having a good quality of life (given all the treatment and medication side effects she experienced) she immersed herself in learning about holistic and integrative treatment that complimented the medical advice she was being given.   She is now a certified functional medicine practitioner and is a holistic and integrative health coach supporting women and empowering them to make treatment decisions not only in treating cancer reclaiming their health and having a good quality of life after chemo and active treatment is done. She emphasizes an integrative mind-body approach to health, healing and living.   She works with women by phone and Skype and provides coaching and consultation to women looking for holistic and integrative recovery.   In this episode, you will hear: How cancer diagnosis may affect individual’s sexuality and sex life Sexual side effects from post cancer treatment Knowing that it’s ok for women not to be sexual after cancer treatment How cancer can affect survivors’ intimate relationships? The psychological differences between sexual side effects of post cancer treatment and cosmetic surgeries       Coping mechanisms recommended to survivors as a way to improve their sexual health Resources https://mindbodynutritionrn.com radicalhealthRN@gmail.com     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Dec 201739min