EP187 - The Key to Great Sex in Long-Term Relationships with Dr. Stephen Snyder

Welcome to episode 215 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Connell Barrett to the podcast. In this episode, Connell speaks with me about ways we can navigate our first-time having sex in a new relationship, the importance of play and Why being present is so important.    Dating coach Connell Barrett has one mission: help men defeat loneliness and attract their soulmates, as their most authentic, confident selves. The founder of Dating Transformation and a coach with The League dating app, Connell spent years training with the world’s best relationship and self-development experts.     Connell’s next project? Showing men a new way to date with his forthcoming book, Dating Sucks But You Don’t, the complete dating guide for men in the #MeToo era, to be published in May by Simon & Schuster.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Connell became interested in this line of work   Creating flirtatious conversation   Learning to talk more around emotion and less around logic   The importance of play and how you can engage in play  Understanding the need to make yourself vulnerable   Ways you can learn to bring your guard down   Looking at the concept of “Freedom from outcome”   Why being present is so important   How to navigate the morning after first time sex  Ways you can still be a good person if it’s just a hook up      Find Connell Barrett online  https://datingtransformation.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Feb 202138min

Welcome to episode 214 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Sarah E. Hill to the podcast. In this episode, Dr Hill speaks with me about the issues around birth control and sex, how birth control affects sexuality, the side effects of birth control and recommendations on the best practices for women to follow.    Dr. Sarah E. Hill is at the forefront of research on the effects of the pill on women’s psychology. A star psychologist with a PhD from the University of Texas, she is currently a researcher and professor with more than 50 published scientific articles to her name.      Her ground-breaking research on women, health, and sexual psychology has garnered more than half a million dollars in grant funding and has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Scientific American, The Economist, and many others.      Most recently, Sarah has authored “This is your brain on birth control: the surprising science of women, hormones, and the law of unintended consequences”, which has been published in several languages around the world and featured on TV shows like “Today” and Great Britain’s “This Morning”.    In this episode, you will hear:     How she became interested in birth control and its relation to sex  The different ways birth control can affect women’s moods   What is contained within birth control pills?  The ways in which women’s bodies can be impacted by birth control   Looking at the side effects of birth control   How birth control effects sexuality and desire   Taking a look at the role natural selection plays in this issue   Should you take testosterone if you have low desire?  Recommendations from Dr. Hill on the best practices for women to follow    Find Dr. Sarah E. Hill online  https://www.sarahehill.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    Promescent Giveaway!  We are so excited to celebrate our 4th anniversary! As a token of our appreciation, we’re teaming up with Promescent to give away a bundle box (worth $154). The box includes: Delay Spray Female Arousal Gel Organic Based Lube Vitaflux Before & After Wipes We’re also giving away two Amazon Gift Cards! To enter, simply write a review in iTunes take a screenshot of the review and send it to drmoali@oasis2care.com or send via a DM on Instagram.    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Jan 202129min

Welcome to episode 213 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Maci Daye to the podcast. In this episode, Maci speaks to me about ways to make sex more exciting in a long-term relationship, re-engaging with your partner to have more passionate sex and the importance of healing in a relationship to improve sexuality.    Maci Daye is a licensed professional counselor, certified Hakomi therapist, and certified sex therapist. In addition to clinical practice, she is on the faculty of the Hakomi Institute and teaches in the United States and Europe.     She is the creator of Passion and Presence® couples’ retreats and a frequent conference presenter. She regularly leads courses in the USA, Australia, New Zealand, and Europe. She holds graduate degrees from Harvard and Georgia State Universities.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the various stages couples go through with their sex life  Ways to make sex more exciting in a long-term relationship  Understanding the issue of “Left-over sex”   Re-engaging with your partner to have more passionate and meaningful sex  How mindfulness can help to improve your sex life  Ways in which previous emotional wounds can play out in sexuality   How being in a relationship is about being comfortable to be seen  Cultivating your erotic sexuality after years of left-over sex  The need sometimes to stop and start a clean slate from scratch  The importance of healing in a relationship to improve sexuality       Find Maci Daye online  https://macidaye.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Promescent Giveaway!  https://www.promescent.com     Win a Promescent bundle box which includes a bottle of Delay Spray, Female Arousal Gel, Organic Based Lube, Vitaflux, Before & After Wipes worth $154.00! There’s also two Amazon Gift Cards up for grabs! Simply write a review in iTunes take a screenshot of the review and send it to drmoali@oasis2care.com or send via a DM on Instagram.     If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Jan 202138min

Welcome to episode 212 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Kleinplatz talks to me about learning to be present to have more fulfilling sex, how you can learn to be more present and how this is possible for anyone to achieve.     Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D., is Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of the Optimal Sexual Experiences Research Team at the University of Ottawa, Canada. Please see She is a Certified Sex Therapist and Educator.      Kleinplatz has edited four books including Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures with Charles Moser, Ph.D., M.D., Sexuality and Ageing (2015) with Walter Bouman, M.D. and notably New Directions in Sex Therapy: Innovations and Alternatives, winner of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT) 2013 Book Award.     In 2015, Kleinplatz received the AASECT Professional Standard of Excellence Award. She is the author with A. Dana Menard, Ph.D. of Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers (2020), winner of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research Consumer Book Award for 2021.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the findings of the studies Dr Kleinplatz conducted   How many people feel a poorer sex life is just a trade-off of getting older  Ways in which you can learn to fully be present during sex  The importance being present has for fulfilling sex   How did Dr Kleinplatz define what good sex is in their study?  The ways in which group therapy can help to overcome these issues  Why group therapy may work better for you rather than a one to one  Understanding that learning to be present isn’t about sexual technique  Why better sex through being present is possible for anyone to achieve      Find Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz  https://optimalsexualexperiences.com     Quiz: What Kind of Lover are You? http://www.sexologypodcast.com/lover/   Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Farsi Podcast  https://sexologypodcast.libsyn.com/rss      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Jan 202131min

Welcome to episode 211 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Michael Castleman to the podcast. In this episode Michael talks to me about male orgasms, the ways in which men can fake orgasms, contributing factors that lead to men not being able to ejaculate and we look at Michael’s new book, Sizzling Sex for Life.    Michael Castleman has been at the forefront of health, wellness, and sexuality journalism for almost 50 years. His two previous sexuality guides—Sexual Solutions (Simon & Schuster, 1991) and Great Sex (Rodale, 2004) have sold more than 600,000 copies. His 12 other books on optimal health, mainstream medicine, alternative therapies, nutrition, and fitness, have sold more than 1.5 million copies.      For the past 15 years, Castleman’s writing has focused almost exclusively on sexuality, sex research, and sex therapy. His twice-monthly blog on PsychologyToday.com, “All About Sex,” launched in 2009, attracts some 700,000 views a month—with total views topping 50 million. His free Q&A site, GreatSexGuidance.com, launched in 2010, has become one of the Internet’s most authoritative sources of personalized sex advice. For 10 years (1998-2007), he answered all the sex questions submitted to Xandria, then a major marketer of sex toys. He has also answered sex questions for WebMD, AARP.com, and several other web sites. Fort five years (1991-1995), he replied to the sex questions readers asked the Playboy “Advisor.” In total, he has answered more than 12,000 sex questions—and sometimes still gets new ones.      In addition, Castleman has published more than 2,500 newspaper, magazine, and web articles in publications including, the New York Times, LA Times, Smithsonian, Reader's Digest, Prevention, Family Circle, Redbook, Self, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Ladies' Home Journal, Men's Health, Men's Fitness, Men's Journal, Parenting, Child, Natural Health, Mother Jones, The Nation, and Salon.com.     Castleman grew up in a Long Island suburb of New York City. He graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of Michigan (1972) and earned a Masters in journalism at UC Berkeley (1978). He lives in San Francisco.    In this episode, you will hear:     How common are orgasm challenges for men?   Is it easier for women to fake orgasms?   Ways in which men can fake orgasms   How some men can orgasm without ejaculating   The contributing factors that lead to men not being able to ejaculate   The need for partners to be understanding and not blame themselves  Looking at the “Delivery boy syndrome”   How are sexual desires change as we grow older and the need to adapt   How sex toys can improve sexual stimulation and sexual satisfaction   The side effects some drugs can have around this issue   Looking at Michael’s new book “Sizzling Sex for Life”         Find Michael Castleman online  https://www.mcastleman.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Jan 202132min

Welcome to episode 210 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Alicia & Erwan Davon to the podcast. In this episode Alicia & Erwan speak to me about extended orgasms, accessing a higher level of arousal and ways in which you can learn to have an extended orgasm.     For over 25 years Erwan who was joined by Alicia in 2003 have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams.     Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others     Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a yoga ashram, and began teaching personal development at one of the world’s largest personal grown organizations. Erwan’s passion for helping and teaching people led him to found Erwan Davon Teachings in 1995, specifically to help people improve their relationships.     Alicia Davon holds a Master’s degree in Integral Psychology with a focus on women’s romantic and sensual expression. She trained as a therapist before meeting Erwan and led numerous women’s groups devoted to female pleasure and life fulfilment from career to relationship. She met Erwan 15 years ago and started teaching with him soon after.     Together, Erwan and Alicia developed The Pleasure Course, which has helped thousands achieve their ideal love lives. They provide a safe place to explore psychological inquiry, pleasure, and sexuality.     They have spent years perfecting their curriculum and techniques and are excited to share their expertise with newcomers so they can help improve chemistry, connection, communication, and passion in others’ lives!    In this episode, you will hear:     How did Alicia Davon & Erwan Davon become interested in this approach?  Learning to access a higher level of arousal   Were they easily orgasmic before they started doing this?  Ways in which you can learn to have an extended orgasm   The key differences between extended orgasm and orgasmic meditation   Understanding the need to get over internal issues rather than focusing on technique  The differences between how men and women will get to grips with extended orgasms  Learning to give yourself lots of time to be present and fully experience pleasure  How you can achieve extended orgasms via any kind of sex  Finding your own path to pleasure         S-Hande  https://www.s-hande.com/ Thank you to our sponsor S-Hande! Use the coupon code sexologypodcast for a 40% discount, also includes free delivery! To get the toys discussed on this episode, use the links below: Jiggle balls kegel exercise Vaginal tightening exercise toys G-spot orgasm toy female vibrator masturbation vibrator Sucking and licking vibrator adult vibrator vagina anal vibrator orgasm toy   Find Alicia & Erwan online  https://pleasurecourse.com     Claim Your Session  Text - 415 308 9580 and reference Sexology Podcast    Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Dec 202039min

Welcome to episode 209 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Yekaterina Bakhta to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Bakhta speaks with me about the issues around achieving orgasms, why some women lose their sexual drive and looking at available medicines and treatments that can improve sexual desire.    Dr. Yekaterina Bakhta is a board-certified ObGyn who provides exceptional care to women of all ages. Uniquely experienced in treating female sexual dysfunction, she cares for patients with painful intercourse, low libido and difficulty with orgasm.     Striving to perfect female beauty and function inside and out, Dr. Bakhta utilizes the newest medications, cutting edge technology and innovative surgical techniques. . She offers a variety of treatments to enhance the female form and is developing advances in cosmetic gynecology and esthetics.      Dr. Bakhta’s extensive training in minimally invasive surgical techniques include vaginal reconstruction, labioplasty, incontinence procedures as well as laparoscopic and hysteroscopic surgeries. Well respected by both colleagues and patients, she is regularly recognized and awarded for her surgical skills and patients quick post-operative recovery.     She enjoys all aspects of Obstetrics and Gynecology, including wellness, contraception, and surgery. In addition to adult gynecology, Dr. Bakhta has a special interest in adolescent gynecology and gently cares for young women.      Dr. Bakhta is a graduate of University of California Los Angeles, receiving Bachelor of Science degree with honors in Biology.  She received her Doctor of Medicine from the University of Southern California Keck School of Medicine.. Upon graduation, Dr. Bakhta was honored  by the Alpha Omega Alpha Medical Honor Society for her dedication to the medicine and her pursuit of healing knowledge.  She then completed residency training with Kaiser Permanente Los Angeles Medical Center.  She received board certification from the American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology and is an active fellow of ABOG and member of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Dr. Bakhta has been named “Leading Physician of the World” by International Association of ObGyn and has been listed as the “Top Doc” in Los Angeles.     Dr. Bakhta is passionate about providing the highest level of care to her patients and empowering women to take control of their health and sexual well-being. Her patients love her for her kindness, gentle exams and sensitivity. She is very personable, and her congenial bedside manner makes it easy for patients to open up regarding sensitive subjects.      She is devoted to providing excellent care for the Los Angeles community and hopes to continue guiding her patients through the stages of their lives.    In this episode, you will hear:     Why do some women lose their sexual drive?  Understanding that courtship and affection are important for female arousal   Why context around sex is very important  How guilt can override sexual desire  Looking at the hormonal change's women go through that affect sexual desire  Natural ways you can improve your libido  Available medicines and treatments that can improve sexual desire  Understanding potential side effects of potential treatments   Looking at the issues around achieving orgasms      Find Dr. Bakhta online  http://sunsetcosmeticsurgery.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in     If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

22 Dec 202038min

Welcome to episode 208 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Ali Mushtaq to the podcast. In this episode Ali talks to me about BDSM and social justice, incorporating spirituality into sexuality and steps you can take if you’re interested in exploring BDSM.     Dr. Mushtaq has his PhD in Sociology from University of California: San Francisco and Masters in Social and Demographic analysis from University of California: Irvine. He is Mr. Long Beach Leather 2016 and has been profiled by numerous editorials, including the New York Times.  Ali also has written several op-eds and scholarly articles that focus on race and sexuality. He is also a former college professor and has taught numerous courses that have focused on sexual identity and research methods. Currently, he is coauthoring a book on Black women AIDS activists and is on contact with Lexington Press.     Dr. Mushtaq also founded and owns Getting Wolfie LLC, which provides education related to diversity and empowerment. In addition to courses that focus on developing inclusive methods in marketing, he is also develops socially inclusive BDSM education courses that focus on sexual empowerment.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Ali became introduced and interested in BDSM  Looking at Dr. Ali’s experience of coming out   The community's reaction to Dr. Ali becoming interested in BDSM   The misconceptions that exist around BDSM  Bridging the gap between BDSM and social justice   Informing people about the history and dynamics of BDSM  Incorporating spirituality into sexuality   How communities can be more inclusive for people of different ethnicities   Steps you can take if you’re interested in exploring BDSM   Analyzing the common question of when does BDSM become abuse?  Understanding the need to frequently check in on consent         Find Ali Mushtaq online  http://www.gettingwolfie.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Quiz: What Kind of Lover are You? http://www.sexologypodcast.com/lover/    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

15 Dec 202039min