EP307 - What Exactly Happens at a Sex Club? Ft Keeley Rankin

Welcome to episode 63 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Liz Dube who talks to us about painful sex during intercourse, potential causes that might lead women experience painful intercourse and the link between sex and power in sexual harassment.  Liz Dube – Is a Sex and Relationship Therapist, Speaker, and Blogger who is passionate about helping others increase intimacy and sexual satisfaction in their relationships. She loves speaking on any topic related to sex and intimacy and she has a private practice in Long Beach & Huntington Beach, CA where she helps men, women, and couples get empowered about sex. Men and women often have unrealistic expectations about sex that make them feel inadequate and create a performance focus to sex that leaves them bored, frustrated, and unsatisfied. Liz works with her clients to move past negative, destructive sexual messages, to stop tolerating mediocre sex, and get empowered and excited about having fun in the bedroom and achieving their full sexual potential. In this episode, you will hear: How common is it for women to experience pain during sexual intercourse? What are some potential causes that might lead women experience painful intercourse? Is that something treatable? What are some of the common treatment? Does this condition get better with aging or childbirth? What are some of the contradictory messages women are receiving about their sexuality from their environments? How these messages impact women's sex drive? What is the link between sex and power in sexual harassment? How does sexual violence against women impact women's and men's sexual functioning? Dr. Moali offers limited time reduced fee online counseling appointment to the Sexology Podcast listeners. Follow the link below if you are interested to book your appointment with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   Resources www.talksexwithliz.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Mars 201836min

Welcome to episode 62 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Erika Miley, M.ed., LHMC . In this episode, Erika shares with us why many people experience shame around sexuality, and some of the signs that shame might be getting in the way of good sex.   Erika believes in the true power of compassion for the self and for others. Her aim is to be an ambassador of compassion for you and how you can become more compassionate with yourself.     She works with clients from adolescents to adults on various issues including depression, anxiety, sexuality, couples, relationship issues, families. She also works with those who are in monogamous relationships or non-monogamous relationships.    Erika prides herself in her ability to create a safe and welcoming environment for all of her clients. Erika's practice is a LGBTQIA friendly and kink friendly. She also offers coaching and encouragement for new therapists looking to start their own businesses.    She has specific training in sexuality issues, and also has training working with those who have eating disorders or recovery from eating disorders, as well as bariatric surgery clients. Erika looks forward to walking with you down the path to becoming who you are meant to be.    In this episode, you will hear:    Why many of us experience shame around sexuality   The three circles and what they entail   The need to be emotionally safer to have better sex   How deeper change comes from deeper work   Some of the signs that shame might be getting in the way of good sex  The need to look after ourselves physically as well as mentally   Details on Erika’s new Podcast – Sex! The Podcast     Resources  https://erikamiley.com   https://erikamiley.com/thepodcast/  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Mars 201839min

Welcome to episode 61 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Amy Marsh who speaks to us about using hypnosis for management of sexual concerns, the types of people who are a good fit for hypnosis being used around sexuality and five ways erotic hypnosis can help couples.   Amy Marsh, EdD, DHS, CH, CI is an AASECT-certified sexuality counselor and clinical sexologist and a certified hypnotist and hypnosis instructor. She holds Doctor of Education (EdD) and Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) degrees from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is on the advisory board of the World Association of Sex Coaches and teaches two courses for SexCoach U. Her interest in sexuality and reproductive health dates from her teens, when she worked as a pregnancy counselor in a feminist free clinic.    As a hypnosis instructor, Dr. Marsh teaches a 150-hour, online course in Hypnosis for Sexual Concerns. She also teaches workshops to people who want to learn the gentle arts of romantic and erotic hypnosis for their own enjoyment and pleasure.    Dr. Marsh is published in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Carnal Nation, and several blogs. Her essay, “Kid Chrysalis,” was included in Rachel Pepper’s anthology, Transitions of the Heart - Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children, published in 2012. She is also a contributor to the Cultural Encyclopedia of the Penis. A collection of some of her Carnal Nation columns, Sex Squicks, was published by Renaissance eBooks in 2013.    Dr. Marsh has presented workshops at several conferences, including AASECT, CatalystCon West, American Counseling Association pre-conference Learning Institutes, the Pacific Rim International Conference on Disability and Diversity, Gender Odyssey, and Gender Spectrum.    Her national television appearances include Good Morning America, The Tyra Banks Show, and two National Geographic Taboo episodes, “Forbidden Love” and “Private Passions.” The topics of most of these programs was Objectum Sexuality.    Dr. Marsh currently has a private practice as a sex counselor and hypnotist in Lake County, CA. Previously she worked in Hawai'i and the SF Bay Area.   In this episode, you will hear:   How Amy defines sexual enrichment Using hypnosis for management of sexual concerns The types of people who are a good fit for hypnosis being used around sexuality The difference between using hypnosis for sexual concerns and erotic hypnosis Five ways erotic hypnosis can help couples Common themes Amy found during her research survey in this area   Resources https://amymarshsexologist.com https://intimate-hypnosis-training.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Mars 201829min

Welcome to episode 60 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is John Webber, LMFT. In this show, John talks about looking at relationships through the lens of evolutionary psychology, monogamous relationships v non- monogamous relationships and why many therapists don't talk about sexuality. John is an existential-humanistic therapist rooted in a psychodynamic approach. He believes that a great deal of the issues that bring individuals, couples and families into counseling stem from the need to regulate emotions, accept feelings and decide how they choose to meet them. He promotes the therapy room as a safe, non-judgmental place in which clients can discuss their thoughts and feelings and explore more healthy paths for their lives. John and his wife are raising three teens. This rich family experience, along with the challenges all families face, guides his work. He has enjoyed volunteering as an assistant scoutmaster (BSA), and as a coach of boy’s and girl’s baseball and softball teams. In his free time John practices self-care by following his interests of reading, gardening, meditation, swimming, writing poetry, podcasting, walking his dog and attempting a new venture as an author. John held positions in academia and the media industry for 25 years, including; adjunct professor, news director, creative advertising director, and television and film producer. In 2006, he was nominated for an LA Area EMMY Award for a documentary on pediatric physical therapy. John holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Communications and a Master of Science in Counseling Psychology. He completed a psychotherapy internship at The Jewish Family and Children’s Service in Long Beach, CA. In addition to leading counseling groups at a psychiatric hospital, John has a private practice in Hermosa Beach, CA  In this episode, you will hear: Looking at relationships through the lens of evolutionary psychology How nature plays a role in mating and relationships Monogamous relationships v non- monogamous relationships Is infertility more painful for women or men in monogamous relationships? How a lack of resources plays into this subject area Why many therapists don’t talk about sexuality Finding the right therapist for you to help in this area How the early lust of a relationship can die down as attachment and connection grow deeper   Resources therapywirks@gmail.com http://www.talkingtherapypodcast.com https://www.facebook.com/talkingtherapypodcast Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

27 Feb 201841min

Welcome to episode 59 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Steve Bodansky. In this episode, Dr. Bodansky talked about the concept of extended massive orgasm, the barriers for women around enjoying sexual intercourse and keeping the sexual spark alive when in a long-term relationship.   Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992.   Steve became certified to do these demonstrations in 1987. They developed another orgasm school in 1992 after leaving Morehouse called The Welcomed Consensus where they taught for 5 years and certified 5 new students into becoming teachers and demonstrators of orgasm. For the past 22 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure.   They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.   In this episode, you will hear:   What are examples of different types of orgasms and what are the differences between how men and women respond? The importance of taking timely breaks in foreplay Is the extended massive orgasm more achievable for men or women? Multiple orgasms – something all women can achieve? What are the barriers for women around enjoying sexual intercourse? Is there anything that a partner can do to facilitate this process? Making sure you know your own body and what pleasures you How can we train our partners to become better lovers? What are some of the aspects that need to be present when someone would like to receive maximum pleasure? Keeping the sexual spark alive when in a long-term relationship How good communication leads to better sex   Resources stevebodansky@gmail.com http://www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com http://www.orgasmmatters.com   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Feb 201837min

Welcome to episode 58 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about the common challenges long distance relationships place on sexual relations, establishing and understanding boundaries and using technology to stay sexual in a long-distance relationship. Dana works with English-speaking adults and adolescents, providing individual counseling and psychotherapy, couples and relationship counseling, and group therapy.  She specializes in working with expats, international students, and others living abroad (both adults and adolescents) who are struggling with emotional and psychological difficulties and who want to develop greater self-awareness and self-compassion, feel more grounded, and develop more meaningful and satisfying connections with those around them. She also specializes in working with intercultural couples and couples whose relationships have been impacted by their life abroad.  An expat herself, she moved to Lyon from Pennsylvania in 2014 to join her French partner. Before they met in graduate school, she never dreamed of moving to France — but now here she is, on an international adventure!  Dana's specialization in working with expats and intercultural couples has emerged from her own life experience. Still navigating her own expat journey every day, she knows that life abroad is full of both adventures and many (many!) challenges. However, she also believes that this experience of living abroad — which takes us out of our element and calls into question many things we have taken for granted about ourselves and the world — can provide us with truly unique opportunities to learn about ourselves and to grow both as individuals and in our relationships.  In this episode, you will hear: Dana’s answers to a listener’s email on remaining sexual in a long-distance relationship The common challenges long distance relationships place on sexual relations Learning to be mindful of your partners life in a different country and scheduling time Developing trust in a long-distance relationship Knowing what you want from the relationship Establishing and understanding boundaries The importance of fine tuning better communication Using technology to stay sexual in a long-distance relationship Dana’s personal recommendations to overcoming the obstacles of a long-distance relationship Resources http://www.dananelsoncounseling.com/mindful-expat-podcast/ http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/07/18/sex-and-intercultural-relationships-ft-dr-dana-nelson/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Feb 201844min

Welcome to episode 57 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Sandra L. Brown, M.A who talks to us about why people develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder, what causes NPD, anti-social PD and psychopathy and recommendations on what to do if you find yourself in a pathological relationship. Sandra L. Brown, M.A., is the founder of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education.  She is a former psychotherapist in the field of psychopathology and trauma survivor treatment, community educator on the intersections of Mental Illness, Personality Disorders, Violence, and Recidivism.  She is a clinical lecturer and trainer, TV and radio guest, and an author. Her books include the highly popular How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, the award-winning Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists, as well as the clinically relevant Counseling Victims of Violence: A Handbook for Helping Professionals. Sandra is recognized for her pioneering work in women's issues related to relational harm from dangerous, toxic, and pathological partners.  She specializes in the development of Pathological (Toxic) Love Relationship training based on her theory development for other professionals and the development of survivor-based support and treatment services. The Institute is the only formal clinical Model-of-Care approach for survivors and offers the largest available array of products and services related to this population.  Her books, CD's, DVD's, and other training materials have been used as curriculum in drug rehabs, women's organizations and shelters, women's jail and prison programs, school and college-based programs, inner city projects, psychology and sociology programs, and distributed in almost every country of the world. Her books have been translated into several languages. She is the founder and current president of the first professional national Association for NPD/Psychopathy Survivors Treatment, Research, and Education and is a private Trauma Consultant, and advocate for survivors seeking justice. In this episode, you will hear:   What is a Pathological Love Relationship? How is it different from other relationships? Why people develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder? What causes NPD, anti-social PD and psychopathy? Red flags to look out for if a relationship is pathological Who do pathological partners target? What happens to survivors from PLRs? Recommendations on what to do if you find yourself in a pathological relationship   Resources www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com https://survivortreatment.com http://floridapsychotherapy.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Feb 201834min

Welcome to episode 56 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Ken Page who speaks to me about falling in love with people who aren’t good for us, becoming more self-assured and emotionally available and learning to attract people who love you for who you really are. Ken Page, LCSW, is a renowned psychotherapist, leading Psychology Today blogger, Huffington Post blogger and author of the bestseller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. He has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Fox News, WPIX-TV News and more. Ken has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants. He has taught at Columbia University, the Omega Institute and the Garrison Institute. Before writing his book, Page founded Deeper Dating in 2004; an event in which trained facilitators shared the insights of Deeper Dating and then led participants in a series of fun and enriching exercises. The live events he led provided an alternative to the bar scene and superficial dating events and drew thousands of men and women of all ages, backgrounds and sexual orientations. His work has been highly acclaimed by numerous top thought leaders, including Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Arielle Ford, Edward Hallowell, MD, Chip Conley, and Judith Orloff, MD. Katherine Woodward Thomas, New York Times bestselling author of Calling in The One and Conscious Uncoupling says, “Ken Page is my new relationship guru!” In this episode, you will hear:  Why do we fall in love with people who aren’t good for us? Becoming more self-assured and emotionally available How long you should keep dating to see if there’s a spark for a relationship? Making sure to be your most authentic self when finding a partner Losing your taste for relationships that chip away at your self-esteem The importance and concept of the wave Learning to attract people who love you for who you really are   To book an appointment with Dr. Moali (50% Discount until Valentine’s day) please visit – https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal    Resources http://deeperdating.com   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

30 Jan 201843min