EP315 - Can Your Parent's Sexual Trauma Be Passed Down To You?

Welcome to episode 366 of Sexology Podcast! Today we're delving into New Year's resolutions and their impact on relationships. Our expert guests share tips to revitalize your connection, making 2024 a year of passion.  In this episode you will hear from Dr. Laurie Petito, Dr. Jess O'Reilly, David Khalili, Ken Page, Dr. Lonnie Barback, Dr. Laurie Mintz, Diane Gleim and Gigi Engle who share their insightful thoughts on new year's tips and resolutions for 2024 that include:  New Year's resolution tips on sexual health and advocacy Tips to simplify complex sexual health and relationship subjects Key skills for overall life satisfaction and improved relationships Effective communication tips for partners The importance of conversations in a relationship Understanding porn literacy Crucial skills often overlooked in relationships Stress management techniques  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Dec 202321min

Welcome to episode 365 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amy Baldwin and April Lampert of the Shameless Sex Podcast. In this episode, we delve into the significance of embracing shifts in our sexual identity, suggestions for discovering trustworthy adult toys, and confidently expressing our desires without any sense of shame.  Amy is an expert in the field of Sex and Relationship Coaching and Sex Education. She is dedicated to spreading the message of embracing pleasure-focused sexuality education without any shame.  On the other hand, April is not only a motivational speaker but also a prominent figure in the sex-toy industry, having established herself as a sex toy mogul. Together, April and Amy have joined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast.  This podcast aims to inspire individuals to love themselves unconditionally, embrace their sexual empowerment, and foster shame-free intimacy. With a playful twist, they share real-life experiences and divulge all the details.    In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of embracing changes in one's sexual identity. How April worked with Amy worked together in an adult store. The way Shameless Sex aims to reduce shame and help people live a freer sex life. Looking at the issues that long-term relationships often face.  The significance of introducing sex toys in long-term relationships.  Recommendations for finding reliable sex toys.  The importance of communication especially when discussing desires.  Why you should give a sex toy at least three tries before deciding on one. Exploring different ways to orgasm and creating new neuropathways in the brain. Owning one's desires and communicating them without shame.  Discussed in this episode:Lelo Nea 2 Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in  Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Dec 202349min

Welcome to episode 364 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Emily Jamea. In this episode, we discuss the special nature of vacation sex, emphasizing the benefits of breaking routine, reducing stress, and fostering emotional connection.   With over fifteen years of experience in sex and relationship therapy, Dr. Emily Jamea, a licensed marriage and family therapist, LPC, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, has earned recognition for her expertise, featured in esteemed publications such as Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, CBS, Men’s Fitness, SELF, and Women’s Health. Actively contributing to Psychology Today and HealthyWomen.org, Dr. Jamea explores the correlation between flow and sexual satisfaction in her academic research.  As the host of the popular Love & Libido podcast, she shares insights and regularly writes columns for Healthy Women and Psychology Today. Engaging with her audience on social media (@dremilyjamea), she is set to release her upcoming book, "Anatomy of Desire" (Flatiron), in 2024. A sought-after speaker nationally and internationally, Dr. Jamea delivers impactful presentations to diverse audiences, including the general public, educators, and health professionals.  In line with her mission to make her expertise accessible, she offers online workshops. Dr. Jamea, an honors graduate from The University of Texas at Austin, holds a Master’s in counseling and a PhD in Clinical Sexology. Alongside her thriving private practice, she leads a fulfilling personal life as a happily married individual with two children. Embracing opportunities to travel, she nurtures her passions for painting and salsa dancing whenever time allows.     In this episode, you will hear:  How vacation sex is often special due to a break from the routine. The way reduced stress on vacation contributes to higher sexual desire. How emotional positively affects sexual experiences. Learning to communicate expectations about sex on vacation. Why it’s important to start small with sexual novelty. Analyzing flow state science and deep embodiment. The importance of discussing desired emotions and experiences How you can maintain the vacation sex energy at home.  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Dec 202333min

Welcome to episode 363 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Heidi Gee. In this episode, we discuss overcoming discomfort with oral sex, how to approach the 69 position and learning to gently approach to clitoris.  Heidi Gee is a dedicated Sexologist and Relationship Therapist, who brings over 15 years of experience to her passionate mission. In her unwavering belief, EVERYONE, irrespective of background, gender, religion, sexual preference, or pizza topping choice, deserves a fulfilling relationship and sex life.   Driven by personal growth, navigating heartbreaks, and overcoming challenges, Heidi found her calling – supporting others in their journeys towards healthy relationships with themselves, others, and sex. Beyond her professional expertise, Heidi is also a qualified reiki master, adding a holistic touch to her approach.   During her downtime, Heidi immerses herself in music, theatre, and art. Her love for travel and a fondness for Italian, Indian, and Mexican cuisine are complemented by Café Sydney, her preferred local restaurant. Leading by example, Heidi embraces a healthy lifestyle, incorporating daily meditation, mindfulness practices, and pole dancing for fitness.   As she signs off, Heidi emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care for a healthy mind, heightened self-awareness, and an enhanced sex life, encouraging others not to wait until New Year's for resolutions.    In this episode, you will hear:  Discomfort with oral sex: Heidi mentions insecurities related to genital appearance Encouragement to focus on the present moment The impact of porn and media on people’s sexual expectations  Communication in relationships: Emphasis about preferences Hygiene tips: Caution against using harsh soaps, emphasis on a healthy diet Approaching 69 position: Suggestion to ease into the position gradually Gentle approach to clitoris: Emphasis on being gentle, exploring different areas Tips for improving oral sex skills Exploring the entire body for a holistic experience  Stress Management Toolkithttps://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-inHoliday Gift Guide Check out these fantastic gift recommendations! https://sexologypodcast.com/holiday-gift-guide/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Dec 202325min

Welcome to episode 362 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn. In this episode, we discuss Yoni Massage, how it enables women to relinquish control and gain a profound understanding of their bodies, redirecting the emphasis towards exploration instead of climaxing and the crucial importance of sexual communication in attaining sexual liberation.  Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration.  Her work has been featured in KTLA News, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app and Superstars app.   In 2022, Dr. Tara gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that highlights her 5,000-participant study examining predictors of sexual satisfaction, and her journey from an anxious immigrant to a confident Sexpert. Her life's goal is to normalize sex talks, and help people live a more passionate life and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching.     In this episode, you will hear:  Analyzing and understanding Yoni Massage How Yoni massage is associated with Hinduism and Buddhism The beauty of tantric massage, both the original or more westernized versions How Yoni massages allow women to surrender and understand their bodies Building confidence and the empowerment of receiving pleasure without reciprocity Shifting the focus on exploration rather than climaxing Massaging techniques for the pubic area, vulva, clitoris, and optional penetration Understanding the potential hesitations around Yoni Massage The importance of advocating for pleasure and fostering honest communication The vital role of sexual communication in achieving sexual liberation  YouTube Explore the Sexology Podcast YouTube channel for our latest videos! Subscribe to stay updated: https://www.youtube.com/@Sexologypodcast   Holiday Gift Guide Check out these fantastic gift recommendations! https://sexologypodcast.com/holiday-gift-guide/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Nov 202335min

Welcome to episode 361 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Michelle Renee. In this episode, we discuss Michelle’s journey going through an unhealthy relationship and problematic childhood, addressing trauma and building communication skills and learning to transition to a sexual environment you can be comfortable in and confident with.  Michelle Renee, a West Michigan native, delves into the personal nature of her work, shaped by generational experiences. Raised in a household with communication challenges, she reflects on her parents' tumultuous relationship and her own journey through an 18-year marriage that led to self-discovery.   After her mother's death in 2002 and a complicated relationship with her father, Michelle found a turning point in a sex education workshop in 2014. This marked the beginning of her transformative journey toward self-love, body acceptance, and courageous life choices.   Michelle's career shift into professional cuddling became a catalyst for healing from past wounds. She later expanded her expertise through Surrogate Partner Therapy training, becoming a leader in the field. Michelle founded local Sex Geekdom hubs, contributed to professional groups, and in 2023, became the San Diego Section Leader for AASECT.   As an intimacy guide, Michelle supports clients across the spectrum of human connection, emphasizing the importance of platonic to erotic relationships. Her passion lies in assisting individuals with trauma history, a commitment that echoes her mother's self-work.     In this episode, you will hear:  How surrogate partner therapy involves collaboration with a talk therapist How she discovered sexuality exploration through Betty Dodson's work Why Michelle engaged in professional cuddling to learn about boundaries The importance of advocating for one's needs and understanding mutual touch Asexuality spectrum: Enjoying sex without experiencing sexual attraction How learning sexual skills can be challenging in high-pressure environments The need for choices and understanding oneself in the context of erotic energy Addressing trauma and building communication skills Learning to engage on a basic human level for physical contact  YouTube Explore the Sexology Podcast YouTube channel for our latest videos! Subscribe to stay updated: https://www.youtube.com/@Sexologypodcast    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Nov 202340min

Welcome to episode 360 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Laura Copley. In this episode, we discuss Dr. Laura Copley's book, "Loving You is Hurting Me”, how Trauma bonding is about deep emotional connections and why solo relationship effort can yield positive results.  Trauma, heartache, betrayal, and abandonment can leave lasting scars that break the heart, clouds the mind, and shatter the soul. Dr. Laura Copley understands how painful and damaging your trauma wounds are and is trained to guide you toward healing.   Dr. Laura brings life transformation and Post-Traumatic Growth to your fingertips by offering one-on-one guidance, small group mentoring, powerful courses, online workshops, in-person conferences, live Q&A, and community support for those to connect who are on similar self-healing journey.   A globe-trotter at her core, Laura’s mission has taken her all over the world where she has made profound healing impacts in the lives of her clients and students. After her adventures speaking, advocating, and healing around the world, Laura returns to the heart of the Shenandoah Valley, where she is creating her dream lifestyle with her baby girl and golden retriever on her riverfront farmette overlooking the Blue Ridge Mountains.     In this episode, you will hear:  The need to view individuals as whole beings, not just oppressors or victims How Trauma bonding is about deep emotional connections  The ways safety and trust play a significant role in sexual connection How the embodiment of emotions can enhance sexual experiences Strategies for breaking the toxic hook pattern include mapping the cycle How solo relationship effort can yield positive results Openly discussing trauma and vulnerabilities strengthens emotional bonds Details on Dr. Laura Copley's book, "Loving You is Hurting Me”  Cozy Earth This week’s episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Nov 202330min

Welcome to episode 359 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Alexandra Solomon. In this episode, we discuss how sexual self-awareness involves understanding societal messages, the evolving nature of sexuality in long-term relationships and the need to break free from narrow sexual scripts.  Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world.  Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.  In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.    In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of relational self-awareness in a healthy relationship Relational self-awareness involves looking at one's own behavior in a relationship How sexual self-awareness involves understanding societal messages  The importance of unlearning and relearning about one's sexuality How different sexual scripts can affect relationships The evolving nature of sexuality in long-term relationships Reminiscing can be a way to connect and maintain desire in a relationship Encouraging men to move away from performance-based sex  The need to break free from narrow sexual scripts  Cozy Earth This week’s episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Nov 202338min