People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer

Most people look successful but feel dead inside.

They’ve lost their spark, their purpose, and their voice — and they’re stuck people pleasing, hiding the truth, and calling it “love.”

In this episode of Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions, I sit down with Melanie Spring — brand muse, international keynote speaker, and creator of Speak With Confidence — to talk about what authenticity really means, why lying is abuse (yes, even “little” lies), and how people pleasing is actually manipulation that keeps everyone stuck.

If you’re a man struggling with sex or porn addiction — or a partner exhausted from carrying the weight of his secrets — this conversation is for you.

We talk about:
• What a brand muse actually does and why finding your voice is soul work
• How we lose our creative spark and identity as adults
• Why so many “successful” people are secretly miserable
• The impact of addiction on partners: energetic abuse, gaslighting, lost intuition
• Why lying is abuse even when he “doesn’t mean to hurt you”
• Boundaries as love and why love must be boundaried
• How Melanie set a hard boundary with her husband — and held it
• Why women need conscious community, not gossip circles
• How childhood betrayal loops repeat until we finally close them
• Why people pleasing is lying and manipulation
• What radical honesty and radical responsibility look like
• Personal style as an expression of your authentic self

If you’re tired of pretending and ready to stand fully in your truth, this episode will hit you in the best way.

We don’t promote other programs very often — but this one aligns perfectly with what we teach at The Mindful Habit.

Melanie Spring is incredible at helping people find and express their authentic voice, and I know some of you have been wanting to step into bigger stages, deeper truth, and more confident communication. If that’s you, you’ll get real value from this.

Here are the details:

Melanie’s SPEAK With Confidence program is on Black Friday sale right now — up to $1500 off through Tuesday at 8pm ET.
Use code PERRA for an extra 10% off + it gives me 10% of what you pay.

Program info: melaniespring.com/swc
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Code: PERRA

If you’ve been feeling called to speak more powerfully in 2025, this might be the perfect next step.

Connect with Melanie Spring
🔸 Website & retreats: https://www.melaniespring.com
🔸 Learn more about her Speak With Confidence program and upcoming women’s retreats on her site.