The Kink Consultant18 Dec 2025

Great Sex Start with a Good Conversation with Dr. Tara

Talking about sex should not be this hard, and yet for so many people, it still is.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Tara, tenured professor of relational sexual communication, host of the Luvbites podcast, and author of How Do You Like It?, to talk about what actually makes a sex life and a relationship work. We cover everything from why emotional safety is the real prerequisite for good communication, to how shame shows up in our relationships long before we ever talk about kink.

Dr. Tara shares what she teaches her university students about sexual communication across the lifespan, from sexual debut to long-term partnership, aging, and everything in between. We talk about why most people were never taught how to talk about sex, money, or desire, and how that lack of language quietly impacts intimacy.

If you have ever struggled to ask for what you want, felt disconnected from a partner, or wished there was a guidebook for navigating intimacy, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a lot to reflect on.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Sexual Communication and Education

08:43 Emotional Safety in Relationships

17:50 Personal Divorce Stories and Lessons Learned

18:42 Communicating About Money and Sex in Relationships

22:30 Essential Communication in Relationships

25:22 Understanding Sexual Preferences and Polyamory

Grab a copy of her book: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) https://amzn.to/4iWt60a

Connect with Dr. Tara

https://www.luvbites.co/

https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrbW6PCKjgcxkq3dTvjjeyQ

https://open.spotify.com/show/2SZ60RxLOyQ900l4PgJAlT

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