How Not to Screw Up Your Kids6 Apr 2025

Bucket Emptying: Consequences Aren't Working

Does your child never seem to listen to you?

Do punishments never work?

Are you running out of ideas?

Well, here’s some tough love: your consequences aren’t working, and it’s probably your fault. Of course we should make sure misdemeanors are met with consequence, but if your child doesn’t seem to listen, then the consequences clearly are not effective or appropriate.

In this bucket emptying episode, I talk you through three things you can consider, so that consequences are not just punishments, but lead to a meaningful change in behaviour.

So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

01:27 - Consequences should be connected to the crime

03:12 - What is driving the behaviour?

06:23 - Consequences should be instructive, not punitive

Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys

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