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Welcome to episode 191 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Kelli Palfy to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Palfy talks to me about male sexual abuse, the stigma around this issue and understanding that recovery is possible.     Dr. Palfy has a unique background in working with victims of sexual abuse.  She obtained her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Alberta in 2016. When conducting her doctoral research, she examined the reasons why males do not commonly disclose sexual abuse. She was well-prepared to research this topic from the experience she gained in her prior profession in law enforcement. From 1995 - 2011 when she was a respected member of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police. During this, her prior career she focused on sex crimes investigations and specialized in the global sexual victimization of children where she gained experience in identifying the sophisticated grooming tactics used by perpetrators.       Dr. Palfy brings the many facets of her unique combination of professional experience and perspective to her practice. She is now a trained trauma therapist and public speaker. As a private practitioner, she works with male survivors of sexual abuse, as well as first responders and couples. She is trained in the use of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Outside of her professional life she is an avid outdoor adventurer, enjoying hiking, cycling, swimming, kayaking, and paddle boarding. She treasures her time with good friends and her pets.    In this episode, you will hear:     How did Dr Palfy become interested in this work?   The stigma that men face around this issue   The misconceptions men encounter around this topic   Looking at how the abusers can often be someone we know  Understanding that physical pleasure doesn’t mean consent   Looking at the sexual orientation piece of survivors  The dysfunctional ways survivors are coping after trauma   Sexual dysfunctions that can manifest in survivors   How to communicate being a survivor to your partner   Understanding that recovery is possible   Learning to commit to trauma treatment and the benefits it has         What Kind of Lover Are You?  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/lover    Find Dr. Palfy online:  http://kellipalfy.com/    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Aug 202032min

Welcome to episode 190 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Tim Norton to the podcast. In this episode Tim speaks with me about erectile dysfunction, ways in which you can begin to tackle this issue, connecting with how sex feels rather than how we perceive it to be and myth busting the idea that bigger is always better when it comes to penis size.     Tim Norton is a Los Angeles-based sex therapist working in private practice, and host of a podcast on erectile issues and male sexuality - Hard Conversations. He obtained his bachelor’s and master’s degrees from the University of Southern California.     Tim is a proud member of American Association of Sex Counselors, Educators, and Therapists (AASECT), the Los Angeles Sexological Association, and works part-time with the Pain Psychology Center in Beverly Hills.        In this episode, you will hear:     Distinguishing between erectile dysfunction and dissatisfaction   The psychological barriers that can get in the way of a good erection  Ways in which you can start to tackle and overcome this issue   Connecting with how sex feels rather than how we perceive it to be  How our busy lives can get in the way of good erections   Learning how to get in a better mental space for better erections   Looking at penis size – does it matter?   Ways you can teach yourself to last longer in bed  Tackling self-esteem issues that could be getting in the way     What Kind Of Lover Are You?  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/lover    Find Tim Norton online:  https://www.timnortontherapy.com    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Aug 202032min

Welcome to episode 189 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome GS Youngblood, to the podcast. In this episode GS Youngblood talks to me about leading from your masculine core, the importance of sexual leadership and understanding the masculine blueprint.     GS Youngblood coaches men in relationships on how to live, love, and lead from their Masculine core. He specializes in “nice guys” who are with strong women. His teachings combine deep embodiment work with the framework of the Masculine blueprint from his book “The Masculine in Relationship”. Learn more at gsyoungblood.com.     His writings are filtered through the laboratory of his and his clients’ real-world, long term relationships (including the successes and spectacular failures) to see what actually works and what doesn’t. Through this lens of Masculine leadership, he also pulls in principles from a variety of fields: psychology, martial arts, tango, meditation, and BDSM.     Reception to the book has been phenomenal. Both from men (“You just described my married life to perfection…” and “This is the best book I’ve EVER read on masculinity in a relationship”) and women (“I just picked up your book off my coffee table that my husband bought and it’s like you’ve been listening to me talk for the last few years! Insane how much you get it.”)    In this episode, you will hear:     How GS became interested in this area of work  Looking at masculinity core   How men can learn to be within their own power   Defining masculine energy   The importance of sexual leadership  Understanding women can be disinterested in only certain types of sex   Learning how to properly communicate these issues to your partner   Understanding if this is your issue or your partners or both   Looking at the masculine blueprint         Better Help  Thank you to our sponsor Better Help. Every day, thousands of people seek the help of a licensed therapist. If you are a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, clinical social worker or board licensed professional counselor, BetterHelp is the easiest way to apply your clinical expertise online. https://betterhelp.com/sexology    What Kind Of Lover Are You?  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/lover    Find GS Youngblood online:  https://www.gsyoungblood.com/    Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Aug 202032min

Welcome to episode 188 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Lanae St. John, to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Lanae speaks with me about how to have better conversations with our kids around sex, empowering them with the tools and knowledge they will need and how parents can better understand sexual orientation and gender identity.     Dr. Lanae St John, known as The MamaSutra, is a board-certified sexologist, certified sex coach, and sexuality educator. She is author of “Read Me: A Parental Primer for “The Talk”. Lanae lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her significant other and two daughters.    In this episode, you will hear:     The hurdles we face talking to our kids about sex   Being aware and noticing the issues around you   How a shame spiral can easily develop   The importance of talking to your partner about sex   Taking a genital self-exam   Overcoming issues of using sexual language with kids   How Dr. Lanae turned the narrative around  Looking at incorporating fantasy   Teaching kids that pleasure from sex is okay Empowering our kids with the knowledge and tools they’ll need  Learning to have a constructive conversation around STI’s   How parents can better understand sexual orientation and gender identity         Better Help  Thank you to our sponsor Better Help. Every day, thousands of people seek the help of a licensed therapist. If you are a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, clinical social worker or board licensed professional counselor, BetterHelp is the easiest way to apply your clinical expertise online. https://betterhelp.com/sexology    Checklist for Parents  https://oasis2care.com/checklist-for-parents/    Find Dr. Lanae online:  https://www.themamasutra.net     Free Chapter: Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk" https://lsj-academy.mykajabi.com/pl/111816    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com  Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Aug 202041min

Welcome to episode 187 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Stephen Snyder to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Snyder talks to me about having better sex in long term monogamous relationships, creating better psychological arousal and recommendations to improve your sex life.     Stephen Snyder MD — sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist — has dedicated his entire career to helping individuals and couples with sex and relationship concerns. Over 30+ years, he’s helped over 1,500 individuals and couples regain closeness and satisfaction in their relationships.     Dr. Snyder is Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and the author of one of the most acclaimed sex and relationship books of our time, LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship (St Martin’s Press, 2018).        As an MD sex therapist, Dr. Snyder has a unique combination of skills that enables him to handle the most complex, difficult situations. He received his medical degree from the University of California, San Francisco (M.D. 1983), trained in internal medicine at Mt Zion Medical Center in San Francisco (1983-84), then in psychiatry at the Payne Whitney Clinic, New York Hospital / Cornell University Medical Center (1984-87) and as a Fellow in Behavioral Medicine at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in NYC (1987-89).      Dr. Snyder was Director of the Psychiatric Consultation Service at Mount Sinai Medical Center from 1990-2000. Since 2000, he has been in full-time private practice in Manhattan, specializing in sex and relationship concerns.     Dr. Snyder is an active member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR); has been a presenter, workshop leader, and discussant at the Society’s national meetings; and has served on its Professional Book Award Committee and as Chairman of its Consumer Book Award committee.    In this episode, you will hear:     What are the barriers experience people in monogamous relationships face?   How do you define good sex?   Looking at psychological arousal   How passion is erotic selfishness   Creating psychological space for arousal   The role that fantasy plays in this issue   Why women lose interest in sex in long term relationships   Recommendations to improve your sex life in a long-term relationship   The fear men hold about disappointing their partners   Looking at the issue of erectile dysfunction          Better Help  Thank you to our sponsor Better Help. Every day, thousands of people seek the help of a licensed therapist. If you are a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, clinical social worker or board licensed professional counselor, BetterHelp is the easiest way to apply your clinical expertise online. https://betterhelp.com/sexology    Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/    Find Dr. Snyder online:  https://www.sexualityresource.com/    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Juli 202036min

Welcome to episode 186 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Lyndsey Harper to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Harper talks to me about how to increase your sexual desire at any stage in life, evidence-based ways to increase your libido and we take a look at her wonderful app – Rosy.     Lyndsey Harper, MD is the Founder and CEO of Rosy, an app for women with decreased sexual desire. Dr. Harper created Rosy out of frustration when she couldn’t find a modern and accessible resource to help her many patients with this problem. Rosy is a resource to connect the 25 million women in the US with decreased sexual desire with hope, community, and research-backed solutions to improve their lives.     Dr. Harper completed Ob/Gyn residency in 2011 at Baylor Scott & White Health in Dallas, Texas, and Dr. Harper saw patients in private practice for seven years and now is a hospitalist. Dr. Harper is Associate Professor of Ob/Gyn for Texas A&M College of Medicine, a Fellow of The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, and a Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health.    In this episode, you will hear:     Does menopause effect your sex life?  Looking at the feeling of having your desire stolen from you  Are hormonal treatments effective?   How sex can be become a physically painful experience   They key ingredients for people having a fulfilled sexual life  The importance of communication   How you can advocate for yourself   Learning to be brief and direct   Evidence based ways to increase your libido   Looking at Dr. Harper’s fantastic app – Rosy       Better Help  Thank you to our sponsor, Better Help. If you are a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, clinical social worker or board licensed professional counselor, BetterHelp is the easiest way to apply your clinical expertise online. Visit https://betterhelp.com/sexology and complete a brief application to get started.   Ebook: How to Increase Your Libido – For Women:  https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     Find Dr. Harper online:  https://meetrosy.com/    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Juli 202032min

Welcome to episode 185 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Peyman Raoofi to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Raoofi speaks with me about the Madonna and whore complex, its complexities for relationships, how we can learn to adjust our own behaviors and learning to see your partner in a different light.     Dr. Peyman Raoofi, licensed clinical psychologist in California, holds a Doctorate and Master's degree in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University and a Bachelor's degree in psychology from California State University, Northridge with Summa Cum Laude Honors.     He is currently working in his own private practice with individuals, couples and families. In addition Dr. Raoofi is contracted with multiple Long Term Care Facilities and Nursing Homes as consultant psychologist.     He has many years of experience working with children on the spectrum of Autism/Asperger, and Mental Retardation. Throughout his trainings for intense psychosocial interventions he has been trained for ABA methodologies and DTT program in treating children with challenging behaviors. He has trainings from Johns Hopkins University and Yale University on science of well-being and health psychology. In addition Dr. Raoofi has worked as a social worker with geriatric population at an Adult Day Health Care Center.     UNICEF, Relief International and Human Rights Council are other organizations that Dr. Raoofi has been actively involved to help disadvantaged children on a global level. He is a lifetime member of the Psi Chi National Honor Society in Psychology, Golden Key International Honor Society, recipient of Gold honor of the US President’s Volunteer Service Award from President George W. Bush and President Obama's Call to Service Award. He also has been recognized as an Honorary Ambassador by UNICEF and recognized as a Mental Health Hero by Chicago School of Psychology.      Dr. Raoofi is currently serving on the Boards of Iranian Psychological Association of America (IPAA), Los Angeles County Psychological Association (LACPA) and Profamily Group.     Dr. Raoofi is an International speaker and has been a guest speaker in many universities including MIT, UCLA, Cal State Los Angeles, Chicago School of Psychology, California School of Psychology, Pepperdine University and Sharif University. He has been a guest on multiple TV and Radio shows such as Voice of America, BBC, Spectrum News, Radio Hamrah, and KIRN 670AM.    In this episode, you will hear:     What is the Madonna and whore complex?  How cultures can affect this issue   The way in which more male dominated cultures are more affected   Overcoming seeing your partner as a sexual being as well as mother, carer etc   Can this complex be cured?   Understanding the importance of not solely focusing on one role, E.G Being a father   Knowing it’s okay to indulge in sexual exchange and selfishness with your partner  Paying attention to your own patterns and learning to adjust   Learning to see your partner in a different light         101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Find Dr. Peyman Raoofi online:  http://www.raoofi.com     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Juli 202035min

Welcome to episode 184 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to welcome Janis Roszler & Donna Rice to the podcast. In this episode they speak with me about their new book Intimacy & Diabetes, the common challenges people face around sexuality and diabetes, removing shame from diabetes and navigating your sense of fun and spontaneity with a chronic illness.    Romantic relationships play an important role in our everyday lives. But when diabetes enters the picture, it can complicate even the most loving and open relationships. Many people don’t know that diabetes can impact physical and emotional intimacy—and intimacy-related issues can be especially difficult to discuss with a partner or a doctor. But don’t let diabetes hinder the romance! Intimacy & Diabetes is here to give you practical information and expert advice to tackle this sensitive subject. This comprehensive, interactive guide covers everything you need to know to enjoy a fulfilling sexual and emotional life despite the challenges of diabetes. Inside you’ll find:     The common physical and emotional sexual complications of diabetes and treatment options for men and women An overview of diabetes nutrition, physical activity, weight loss, and diabetes medications Information on how aging impacts diabetes management and intimacy Guidance on how to talk to your doctor about intimacy-related issues Ideas and techniques for building sexual intimacy and communicating effectively with your partner Tips to help you avoid dangerous or money-wasting fraudulent sexual treatments A collection of delicious, diabetes-friendly recipes to help spice up your love life.      Authors Janis Roszler and Donna Rice use humor, helpful examples, and insightful questions to present key topics about sexual health in an engaging, approachable way. This book is perfect for anyone (regardless of gender, sexual orientation, age, or health status) looking to rekindle intimacy with their partner or be proactive about their sexual and emotional wellbeing. Intimacy & Diabetes is your key to a happy, healthy intimate life with diabetes.    In this episode, you will hear:     How did Janis & Donna become interested in this topic?  Understanding the need for providers to bring up the conversation to clients   The common challenges people face around sexuality and diabetes   How many aspects of diabetes are based on genetics and not behavioral issues   Removing shame from diabetes   Dealing with blame around chronic illnesses   The challenges people face getting into a new relationship with diabetes   Navigating your sense of fun and spontaneity with diabetes   Looking at medications and their effectiveness       Download my new ebook for free here: https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/   Find Intimacy & Diabetes online:  https://www.amazon.com/Intimacy-Diabetes-Janis-Roszler-ebook/dp/B084DPG4T7    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Juli 202035min