Why Dating Got Easier When I Stopped Trying to Be Chosen - Tara Schuster

What actually changes when you heal?

The way you date. The way you choose. The way you feel in your own life. In this episode, Rory sits down with bestselling author Tara Schuster to talk about what quietly shifted when she stopped trying to be chosen — and started building real emotional stability.

They unpack the inner changes that made dating feel easier instead of heavier, including:

why compatibility matters more than chemistry or checklists
how journaling builds self-trust and emotional regulation
what healthy relationships actually feel like in the body
and why scarcity thinking keeps people stuck in the same patterns.

This conversation moves beyond dating tactics into the emotional skills modern women were never taught: from re-parenting yourself, to letting go of timeline panic, to choosing from self-respect instead of fear. If you’re tired of repeating patterns, overthinking connections, or feeling behind in love or life, this episode will meet you where you are. Don't forget to check out Tara's Books or her latest Journal and if you want to sign up for her free journaling course click here: https://journal.taraschuster.com/

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