Overcoming the Shame of Loving a Narcissist | Forgiving Your "Survival Self"

Why is the shame of staying often heavier than the pain of the abuse itself? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explores the deep, internalized shame that survivors carry long after the relationship ends.

If you find yourself thinking, "How did I let this happen?" or "I’m embarrassed by how I acted," this session is for you. Lee pulls back the curtain on why narcissists intentionally use shame as a weapon to keep you isolated and why your "reactive abuse" wasn't a reflection of your character—it was a survival mechanism.

In this episode, we break down:

The "How Could I?" Trap: Why smart, strong people are often the primary targets for narcissistic manipulation.
Reactive Abuse vs. Who You Are: Understanding why you yelled, cursed, or "acted crazy" and why you need to stop blaming yourself for it.
The Isolation Effect: How the narcissist cuts you off from your support system so that shame becomes your only company.
Forgiving the "Past You": Practical steps to stop the self-inflicted mental beatdown and start the self-love journey.
Breaking the Secret: Why speaking your truth is the only way to kill the shame the narcissist planted in you.

You didn't choose the abuse, but you can choose to stop punishing yourself for surviving it.

Connect with Lee:

My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Healing Support Group: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss

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