We Need To Stop Performing Love And Desire

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A carefully curated post-break-up Instagram profile. A £3.5k wedding videographer. Shit-talking your ex on TikTok. We're obsessed with appearances and (guess what?!) it's impacting our relationships.

In the first episode of the series, Honey was joined by relationships editor Daniella Parete Clarke to talk about how we're all policing each others' behaviour. This week Dani comes on the pod again to talk about the flip-side of that: how we're all performing for an imaginary audience.

We start the episode by looking at Guy Debord's theory of the spectacle, and how it's showing up in politics, the workplace, our obsession with looksmaxxing, and our sex and relationships lives. We unpack why we can't stop putting on a show on dates, and why it's dangerous to force vulnerability and pleasure instead of just feel it.

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In this episode we reference:

• Guy Debord's The Society of the Spectacle
• The inevitable rise of gooning, Cosmopolitan UK
• The Good Squad, Harper's
• The relentless rise of impossible male beauty standards, The Guardian
• The Unreal Spectacle of Trump's Authoritarianism, NYT
• I did no work for a year and no one noticed, Leyla Kazim, Substack
• The secret power of oversharing: How saying too much became the key to getting ahead, The Independent
• Timothée and Kylie really need you to know they're still together, Dazed
• Hinge's D.A.T.E report
• Till DVD release do us part: how far will Margot Robbie and Jacob Elordi take their Wuthering Heights showmance?, The Guardian
• I do? The rise and rise of the absurdly long engagement, The Independent
• Is It Just Us? Or Are Engagement Rings Getting Bigger? Cosmopolitan US
• Since When Did Break-Ups Get So Public?, Vogue

Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt and co-hosted by Danielle Parete Clarke

Music by Sacha Puttnam

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