We invited a therapist to talk about men's mental health - EP26

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In this episode, we bring on a very knowledgable Clinical Counsellor, Amrita Sandhu, who helps answer our questions around men's mental health, and how it affects the Punjabi community.

We also go over how our parents had their own trauma, that reflected in their parenting with us, and why going through therapy can really help us be better parents, partners, and overall happier humans as we continue living our complex lives.

There's a lot that we can talk more about on this subject, so let us know what questions you have by either commenting or filling out annonymous submission form at www.limelightpod.com.

Amrita Sandhu is reachable at contact@therapycovecounselling.com.

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In this episode, we go over the complex landscape of Punjabi mental health with a clinical counsellor specializing in South Asian/Punjabi mental health. The discussion goes into intergenerational patterns within Punjabi families, examining how emotional needs often go unmet while material needs are prioritized most of the time. We unpack men's emotional health in the community, exploring coping behaviours like unhealthy habits and emotional suppression that stem from cultural expectations.

The conversation examines family dynamics through several different lenses; from cultural parenting styles to the impact of immigrant family challenges. Amrita explains somatic therapy, vagus nerve regulation, and breath work healing. These can be great tools for addressing emotional patterns. We highlight how survival mode parenting, originating from arranged marriages and traditional values, continues to influence modern relationships and parenting approaches.

We discuss the fight-flight-freeze response and people-pleasing behaviour that manifests through childhood experiences, while also exploring the concept of emotional validation and its absence in many Punjabi households. The dialogue touches on materialistic values, Indian wedding pressure, and social validation as expressions of community pressures.

We also go over inner child healing, self-reflection tools, and various therapy modalities, challenging the counselling stigma that's still very prevalent in Punjabi culture. Kids are being raised differently than we were. Amrita explains how there is a balanced view of gentle parenting versus authoritarian approaches, sharing how unresolved generational differences continue to impact emotional intelligence, and family valus. Ultimately, we are advocating for mental health awareness, vulnerability strength, and proactive support systems within the South Asian community.

00:00:00 - Intro

00:02:53 - Mental Health Gaps in Punjabi Community

00:15:46 - Men's Mental Health

00:21:16 - Parenting Styles and Emotional Development

00:32:09 - Media Impact on Relationships

00:38:04 - Male vs Female Coping Mechanisms

00:46:42 - Breaking Generational Patterns

00:54:39 - LIVE DEMO of Somatic Therapy on Raj

01:06:00- Why Alcohol is the Default Coping Tool

01:15:00 - Our Trauma Effect on Parenting

01:21:44 - Being a Better Parent Starts with Your Mental Health

01:35:14 - Why Men Need to Address Emotions

01:40:59 - Final Thoughts